My mom ardently disapproves of my relationship with a white man. Because he's 5 years older than me, a different race, and getting deployed he's a cheater.

My mom says that because he doesn't want to meet her he has no respect for her and me neither. The truth is he would like to talk to her, but she refuses. I have offered several times to let her to speak to him over the phone,and she declined everytime. He has met my grandpa, and my grandpa had no problem with him. She's also mad because he doesn't doesn't come to the door when he picks me up. There's a reason for that. One time he and a friend came over, and out of the blue she just started being rude to them. They did not even so much as look at her.

Supposedly he only wants sex. But if he did, would he have introduced me to all his friends and even let me spend a holiday w/ them? I don't think so. I have met many guys who only wanted one thing, and 9 of 10 of them were black btw, and if they don't get it fast they just leave. None of them stuck around for 5 1/2 months of dating and hanging out. And he's cheating on me with a white woman his own age. I'm at his house fairly often I think I would have noticed something weird by now.

She also thinks he's gonna cheat on me in iraq. That's right, in iraq!!! From what i've seen they don't have too much contact w/ women,and I really doubt they have whorehouses with all the islamic fundamentalists.

Do you think she's being reasonable?