I am worried about my boyfriend, he is 23
but has a very bad short term memory. I
don't know how he manages to function with
the amount of stuff he forgets! This is
not just forgetfulness, I think there may
actually be something wrong. He is
always forgetting everyday stuff
constantly, like forgetting to take pills,
forgets to post letters, forgets to take
his glasses to work, forgets dates and
sometimes even forgets the day of the
week!
Sometimes I can ask him to do something
and 2 minutes later he has forgotten what
it was.
The thing is he has a remarkable long term
memory, he has memories from when he was
as young as 12 months! Has his long term
memory over compensated or is his short
term memory suffering because his longterm
memory is so stuff with memories??? Or is
there some sort of condition that affects
short term memory?
I know your memory can start to go with
age but he is still young!
I hope someone can help
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Linzee87
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Joined: 04 Jul 2005 Posts: 33 Location: UK
Posted: 07-06-05 11:46am
Is your boyfriend as worried about this as
you?And how long has he had this
problem?
My boyfriend is exactly the same only he's
had two serious head injuries. It can be
frustrating for both of you im sure but
the main thing is not to put pressure on
him and carry on giving him support xxx
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arriwen
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Joined: 06 Jul 2005 Posts: 5 Location: wales
Posted: 07-06-05 13:54pm
No he isn't as worried about it as I am.
We talk about it, but he just kind of
laughs it off. I suppose if it doesn't
bother him much, I shouldn't really
worry.
I find myself being his memory for him a
lot of the time :)
thanks for your reply
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arriwen
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Joined: 06 Jul 2005 Posts: 5 Location: wales
Posted: 07-06-05 13:58pm
Forgot to say that i'm not sure how long
he's had the problem. He says that he has
been generally forgetful for years.
However I have noticed that his memory has
gotten slowly worse during the time we
have been together which is coming up on a
year.
He hasn't had any serious head injuries.
And I also asked whether either of his
parents have memory problems and he said
no.
Perhaps it's just in his nature to be very
forgetful?
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Linzee87
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Joined: 04 Jul 2005 Posts: 33 Location: UK
Posted: 07-06-05 17:04pm
Your byf is lucky to have someone to care
about him the way you do.
I'd just try and ignore it for a while so
as not to make him feel uncomfortable. If
you notice it getting worse then maybe you
should have a good talk and let him know
that you'll stick by him no matter what
(you're right it could just be the way he
is) people tend to notice a lot more about
their partners character after a year.
Maybe he's scared of what he'll find out
if he addresses the issue (men are like
that). In the mean time just enjoy each
others company and be there to support
each other xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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arriwen
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Joined: 06 Jul 2005 Posts: 5 Location: wales
Posted: 07-07-05 08:34am
Thank you for your advice linzee. :d
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hallishomam
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Joined: 08 Jul 2005 Posts: 1
Posted: 07-08-05 04:31am
Hi... I just read through this memory
problem. I think I have the same thing
here. I'm 24 female. I think I have been
suffering from this say 5 or 6 years now.
It was small then it grew bigger. It grew
bigger that I forgot to look through my
reminder!!!! I forget a lot of things,
conversation details, names, things people
ask me to do, I keep forgetting my stuff
everywhere. I lost my mobile phone twice
in 2 months. I have to check for an item
10 times in 5 minutes to make sure I
didn't forget it and I don't even remember
if I checked or not, or when I checked was
it there or not. I hang up the phone
wondering what the person responded to my
question!!! It's causing me a lot of
trouble and starting to affect my
relationship with my boyfriend and my
work.
Whenever I talk to anyone they tell me
(you should try focusing) which is
something I know but this is the problem,
I don't focus!! I can't seek counseling
cause it's hard where I live. I really
think I need to talk to someone cause
talking to my boyfriend won't help because
it always turns talking about us and how
it affects us rather than focusing on my
problem. I tried everything even writing
reminder notes but I forget to check
them!!!!
I was devorced after 4 year relationship
and 2 years marriage. I don't remember a
lot of details about my marriage which
drives my boyfriend crazy and he thinks
i'm lying to him or hiding things from him
but this is the truth!!! Is there anyone
proffissional here to talk to? Cause I am
fed up with it and I think it's ruining my
life
My boyfriend has add and he forgets
constently. Which he blames on his add (i
am not sure that, that can be blamed 100%
of the time) but it is very annoying. I
walk around in a state of frusteration all
day long. Don't get me wrong I love my
boyfriend. But he forgets to do things
that is just common sence. Like when he
is brushing his teeth and he spits into
the sink he forgets to wash out the sink
instead of letting the toothpaste harden.
And it isn't just that he is lazy(although
he can be that too!) but i'll tell him
like 10 seconds before to wash it out when
he is done and he totally forgets all
about it. This goes with past
conversations and just about everything in
everyday life.
Maybe your boyfriend has add or some kind
of behavioural disorder like that that can
cause him to become distracted and forget.
