Is your boyfriend as worried about this as you?And how long has he had this problem?
My boyfriend is exactly the same only he's had two serious head injuries. It can be frustrating for both of you im sure but the main thing is not to put pressure on him and carry on giving him support xxx

No he isn't as worried about it as I am. We talk about it, but he just kind of laughs it off. I suppose if it doesn't bother him much, I shouldn't really worry.

I find myself being his memory for him a lot of the time :)

thanks for your reply

Forgot to say that i'm not sure how long he's had the problem. He says that he has been generally forgetful for years.

However I have noticed that his memory has gotten slowly worse during the time we have been together which is coming up on a year.

He hasn't had any serious head injuries.
And I also asked whether either of his parents have memory problems and he said no.

Perhaps it's just in his nature to be very forgetful?

Your byf is lucky to have someone to care about him the way you do.

I'd just try and ignore it for a while so as not to make him feel uncomfortable. If you notice it getting worse then maybe you should have a good talk and let him know that you'll stick by him no matter what (you're right it could just be the way he is) people tend to notice a lot more about their partners character after a year. Maybe he's scared of what he'll find out if he addresses the issue (men are like that). In the mean time just enjoy each others company and be there to support each other xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Thank you for your advice linzee. :d

Hi... I just read through this memory problem. I think I have the same thing here. I'm 24 female. I think I have been suffering from this say 5 or 6 years now. It was small then it grew bigger. It grew bigger that I forgot to look through my reminder!!!! I forget a lot of things, conversation details, names, things people ask me to do, I keep forgetting my stuff everywhere. I lost my mobile phone twice in 2 months. I have to check for an item 10 times in 5 minutes to make sure I didn't forget it and I don't even remember if I checked or not, or when I checked was it there or not. I hang up the phone wondering what the person responded to my question!!! It's causing me a lot of trouble and starting to affect my relationship with my boyfriend and my work.

Whenever I talk to anyone they tell me (you should try focusing) which is something I know but this is the problem, I don't focus!! I can't seek counseling cause it's hard where I live. I really think I need to talk to someone cause talking to my boyfriend won't help because it always turns talking about us and how it affects us rather than focusing on my problem. I tried everything even writing reminder notes but I forget to check them!!!!

I was devorced after 4 year relationship and 2 years marriage. I don't remember a lot of details about my marriage which drives my boyfriend crazy and he thinks i'm lying to him or hiding things from him but this is the truth!!! Is there anyone proffissional here to talk to? Cause I am fed up with it and I think it's ruining my life

thanks a lot and best luck for everyone.

My mother has a bad memory. She jokes around and blames it on her age.

My boyfriend has add and he forgets constently. Which he blames on his add (i am not sure that, that can be blamed 100% of the time) but it is very annoying. I walk around in a state of frusteration all day long. Don't get me wrong I love my boyfriend. But he forgets to do things that is just common sence. Like when he is brushing his teeth and he spits into the sink he forgets to wash out the sink instead of letting the toothpaste harden. And it isn't just that he is lazy(although he can be that too!) but i'll tell him like 10 seconds before to wash it out when he is done and he totally forgets all about it. This goes with past conversations and just about everything in everyday life.

Maybe your boyfriend has add or some kind of behavioural disorder like that that can cause him to become distracted and forget.

i dnt know but frm the past 1 year i am suffering frm short term memory loss i dnt remember small things every time i ask my boy frnd again and again about his job timmings and days i dnt rem to take medicines i dnt even sometimes remember to have lunch...but i do remember things that happened years ago ...my problem is that i cnt remember dates ,timetable and if i write them some where i forget where i wrote them and sometimes i get blank that what have i written..if someone hand over me something i get totally blank that wethr i have that thing or not...i am in big trouble i dnt wnt to give my boyfrnd ne chance of feeling bad that i dnt rem things related to him but what should i dooo.. plzz zhelp meeeee

Have him get his blood work done to check out his hormone levels (testosterone). if his levels are below 700 then there is a problem. Most doctors say that is normal. Its crap. Do the research y0urself if you have doubts. Do NOT give up on him.. As he will Need you. And please understand him. If he is unable to raise his testosterone levels up naturally then he will have to do the alternative. Again, use google and type Low testosterone effects in Men. Its happening to guys all ages now. Not just the oldies.


I am suffering from memory loss. Testosterone is my answer and could be for a lot of others. Good luck. And I hope it is nothing serious.