Infection?

You describe a uti, urinary tract infection, bacteria gets pushed up inside of the urethra by force, oral or regular sex...They can grow up further and cause a bladder infection so you should get it treated...

Btw, you play with fire you're going to get burnt, you did have sex, so don't kid yourself, even if you didn't do the dirty with genitals...
Why don't you chalk this up to your early stupidity, realize you're only going to be a kid once in this life (because you are still a kid frankly), and just revert to some innocence, after you're a kid, you're never going to be a kid ever, ever again. There will be plenty of time for a real relationship with a real man with some real meaning down the road.

You will definitely end up with an std or pregnant or at least with a series of broken hearts if you don't quit this which may even be worse, and you're chewing away at your innocense, your pristine sense of self, that you are a great whole person who doesn't give in to a boy's lines, who at this age is simply hormone driven and basically a dog-animal sexually, have some self-respect girl! Go masturbate, but stop this, it's meaningless and dangerous. You know it's wrong, that's why you're ashamed to tell your mother...She loves you and knows what is best for you, she's not trying to steer you wrong and prevent your expressions or anything. It's just that sex, even oral sex is part of a more important picture, and that is your self respect, your happiness, how you will see yourself as a woman down the road.

Go to the water slide park. Buy some cute fingernail polish. Put streaks in your hair. Learn spanish. But for god's sake stop reinventing the wheel! Unless you are just stupid, or amoral, but mostly stupid...Know what the boys call girls like you? Cunts, sluts, prostitute, 'hos, bimbos, trash, while to your face they say "sweetie, lover, cutie, babe"...Get real, please, before you're on here with hepatitis, aids, a pregnancy before you finish algebra...

I knew very well what I was doing. I’m not some wild teen who's constantly having sex with different people. I haven't even had vaginal sex (so yes technically I am a virgin). You may have been able to be child at this age but i’ve had to grow up a lot quicker than most kids. I know the risks of stds and pregnancy. I've educated myself about everything that I need to know. I’m not stupid. In fact, my boyfriend and I have decided not to have sex because I know i’m too young. So please don‘t have the audacity to assume you know anything about me and my situation, and by the way, I do masturbate! (a lot). I understand that you might have taken this tone because of your own experiences, but keep in mind next time that you do not know every side of the dice, and all I wanted was a non-judgmental suggestion as to what I might have. Nevertheless, I will be looking up on urinary tract infections and I thank you for your time.

Hello karengotshot.

What is that name all about anyway-- I am not that old I am in my early 20's but as you I have also grown up very quicky, my family life was not good and my mother left her children with me at 17 which is only 3 yrs older than you so for someone in society to veiw a 14 yr old in this time as not a young adult is ignorant and naive in these days and times every fourteen yr old is having sex. Although I waited until I was 18 I did stuff just as you starting at I think 15 yrs old. How old is your bf? Anyways I dont know your life story but it seems that you are alot older than your age which leads me to beleive you probably shave in the area and if you do those bumps were purely in grown hairs although the other symptoms do sound like a uti the smell does not correlate with a uti. Being as mature as you I would attempt to go to a free clinic or a planned parenthood. Or I guess suck it up and tell you mom that it hurts when you pee you dont have to tell her the other symptoms just so she gets you to a doctor these things will probably not go away on their own.

As to the above respondent...

I hope if you have kids you dont think that they are not doing exactly or worse than this girl is... I do agree tho please cherish your childhood you will not get another one but at this point it seems to me your childhood has already gone far away and I am sorry for that. If at all it can be saved please do so and enjoy life.

I hope this helped.

Pls write back

As a medical prof. Std warts are caused by human papilloma virus hpv and are not painful, there are other forms of hpv (16) that cause cervical cancer that have absolutely no outward symptoms and can likely be transmitted orally (better get pap smears), herpes is painful and is caused by herpes simplex virus (both oral and genital), urinary tract infections are caused mostly by escherichia coli or certain anaerobic bacteria but are mostly treatable with antibiotics but you shouldn't wait because it can progress to a bladder or renal infection if left untreated...
Here you are at 14 educating yourself on the world of sexually transmitted microorganisms, how wonderful you should do great in biology when you get to this unit!
Here are a few more you may need to know about soon: acquired immune deficiency syndrome or human immunodeficiency virus, hepatitis b and hepatitis c, chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis, mononucleosis, there was a letter on a forum from a teenager who had hepatitis c and herpes and she wanted to kill herself, but alas, you are smarter than she is
good luck

I think the bumps were just pimples and not related to my urinary pains. My urethra hasn't hurt in a week. The only thing that remains is the strong odor of my urine. My vaginal fluids have no odor. I maturbate with an object on an almost daily basis. That might be a factor (more so than the oral sex which only happened once).

You should still get checked out for a bladder infection, just pee in a cup and they can see, and if you're embarrassed about your mom knowing go to planned parenthood they have a sliding scale fee I think.

I just don't get it though, why blow your childhood innocence on these worries? Go ahead and get all the sex toys you want, I understand hormones and libido, look i'm an adult and if I could get back my childhood and the fun simple easy times I would but I can't and to hear you blowing that innocence on std worries at your age it just breaks my heart. Don't you want to face your future husband someday and state that you respected your body and had great restraint with it sexually? Don't you want to be able to tell your children not to endanger themselves as you are now because you didn't either?
Learn to sing in the choir, play an instrument, do volunteer work at a homeless shelter, bake brownies for old people...There's so many other options to feel good about other than this risky stuff. Count your blessings and tell your boyfriend you understand he's frisky but to find another girl who is willing and if that's the basis of his "love" foryou then to find another girl because you're worth more than what's between your legs.

Actually i’m the aggressive one in the relationship. He never tries to force any kind of sexual activity on me. If any cuddling, necking, or kissing is taking place i’m the one who initiated it,which sometimes can get frustrating but I know he’d never try to pull anything on me. This isn’t a situation where some sex-crazed teenage boy is forcing his innocent girl friend into doing sexual act, so please refrain from demonizing my boyfriend.