Joined: 01 Jul 2005 Posts: 1 Location: Grant County KY
I Am 28 Weeks & Having Fears! Posted: 07-01-05 10:57am
I am 28 weeks pregnant with my little
girl, but I am scared to death. In 1995 I
had found out at 5 months pregnant that
our baby was stillborn so naturally I had
to deliver her. The in 1996 I found out
at 3 months that my baby had self aborted
early in the pregnancy which led me to
have to have an emergency dnc, 1997 I
delivered my son & six years later he
passed away from aspirating while he was
sleeping. My husband & I swore that
we would never have any more children.
Then in 2004 my husband talked me into
trying one last time since we are now in
our 30's & time is passing by. We
both felt as though the house was too
quite without a child, so we tried. We
tried for a year & I began to give up
hope. Finally when I did stop thinking it
would never happen I found out that I was
pregnant. Now I am in my 28th week of
pregnancy with a baby girl who is doing
great! I have fears & my doctors tell
me this is typical for someone who has
been through what we have. Should I worry
as much or should I just have faith that
god isn't going to hurt us anymore?
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Sadler1021
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Jun 2004 Posts: 91 Location: Texas
Posted: 07-04-05 09:03am
God isn't hurting you. Everything that is
done is done for a reason. Maybe it just
wasn't time for your little ones to leave
him. I know you have been through a lot
and I can see why you feel like this. But
think of it this way, god has a plan laid
out for each one of us. I've never lost a
child and I cannot even think of what it
may feel like to lose something so
precious. I'm am terribly sorry for your
losses. But, maybe this was the plan all
along, and he was testing you to make sure
that no matter what you would trust in him
and know that he will take care of you.
Maybe this little girl you are going to
have soon is exactly what you were meant
to have in the first place and now he
feels that the time is right for you. It
is easy to blame him and I know because
when I tried and tried to get pregnant I
blamed him for it not happening. But I
realize now, that it just wasn't he wanted
for me at that moment. I know you must
have a lot of pain and are probably
panicked about this pregnancy, but for the
your sake and the baby's you need to try
not to worry so much. Actually, it would
probably benefit you a lot if you could
discuss your past problems with someone
who is willing to sit down and just listen
to what you have to say. Just to help you
let out some pain and some worries. Put
your worries in god and let him take care
of them, just try to focus on the
beautiful little miracle that you and your
husband will soon be holding in your arms.
I hope this helps you some, and I hope
that you can find something that will help
keep you from worrying. I know it's hard
but it's not good for you or the baby.
Take care, and feel free to pm me anytime
sweetheart.
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MissyMaru
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Aug 2005 Posts: 5 Location: Ireland
Re: I Am 28 Weeks & Having Fears! Posted: 08-08-05 16:37pm
robbobbiann
wrote:
i am 28 weeks pregnant with
my little girl, but I am scared to death.
In 1995 I had found out at 5 months
pregnant that our baby was stillborn so
naturally I had to deliver her. The in
1996 I found out at 3 months that my baby
had self aborted early in the pregnancy
which led me to have to have an emergency
dnc, 1997 I delivered my son & six
years later he passed away from aspirating
while he was sleeping. My husband &
I swore that we would never have any more
children. Then in 2004 my husband talked
me into trying one last time since we are
now in our 30's & time is passing by.
We both felt as though the house was too
quite without a child, so we tried. We
tried for a year & I began to give up
hope. Finally when I did stop thinking
it would never happen I found out that I
was pregnant. Now I am in my 28th week
of pregnancy with a baby girl who is doing
great! I have fears & my doctors
tell me this is typical for someone who
has been through what we have. Should I
worry as much or should I just have faith
that god isn't going to hurt us
anymore?
i have lost my 1st child but I was into my
fourth month gone it was a painful
experience. What annoyed me was people
saying it wasnt it's time, it wasnt meant
to be" I got angered by those coments
and thought...Well if it wasn't meant to
be then why the heck did I fall pregnant,
and why did I go past the danger stage (3
months) and saw all was fine then one day
it was all over. I hated everything when
it happened, I blamed myself over and over
again and yes I blamed god for taking it
away....It's natural for a mother to blame
herself and at times god, cuz you find
yourself searching for an answer as to why
you lost your lil one....
When I learnt of other women loosing their
babies, at that time I wasn't pregnant,
therefore I couldn't understand what they
where going through, nor could I imagine
what it was like, I used to think they
could try again and put that experience
behind them....But I was so wrong...Once
it happenes to you..Its like getting hit
with lightening and effects you in many
different ways you never dreamed of...And
people saying...>> it wasn't meant
to be! Never helps you feel any
better....Just like those poor moms that
have went through the whole 9 months
pregnancy and then their babies are till
born...I can only imagine how horrible
that is and how it should never happen.
You being scared is only natural...But I
too am still frightened...But even though
we both thought god had hurt us...I still
pray and ask him to watch over my baby
this time as people don't always mean what
they say when they greive such a loss.
When I say the prayers and feel my little
one kick everyday...I feel a lot better
about it all and try and not think too
much on my loss, just hoping that this one
pulls through ok...I would give my life to
save my child, the fear is always
there..But so is my hopes and dreams....So
should yours be...So keep your chin
up...And keep praying...And you will soon
find all is fine and you will be happy.
:d
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zelda2005
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Jan 2005 Posts: 61 Location: France
Posted: 08-11-05 07:50am
Best of luck...Don't worry too much
because baby senses what you're feeling
:?
I worry to but it's part of being pregnant
and becoming a parent, right :wink:
