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Q: My Boyfriend Cheated On Me! ::cry::
asked by: lil666ane on November 17th, 2003
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Sad omg you guys. I know I havent written on here in a while so heres the scoop. I o to a school for teenage moms now. Everyone is reall helpful and so nice. But that s the only good thing. I found out that my fiance` cheated on me saturday night. Ive been crying all weekend... He said it was an accident because he was drunk. Okay heres the story he gave me::
he was at his freind jareds bday party (i didnt go because I was sick and I didnt want to hang out with a bunch of drunk people since im prego) and there were these four girls that wouldnt leave him alone all night. Towards the end one of the girls sat on his lap apperantly long enough for him to joke around for a while and then she kissed him. I blame myself for not going to the party. He told them all that he was engaged and all the dumb sluts said just not to tell me. They even offered to go in the back room with him. (caps) all four of them! I dont know what to do. He said it wasnt his fault so it wasnt cheating but I cant stop crying. Im having his baby in 5 months. I just dont know what to do. Can anyone out there help a poor pregnant cheated on gurl like me? What should I say to him? S.O.S. Going out across the internet.
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nikki_caro
replied on November 17th, 2003
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Girl leave him! Being drunk is no excuse!!! He should have had the balls to say no! He cheated and you dont need the stress! Poor thing! Its the same thing melissa is going through! Its like a dead beat virus going around! I hope jose doesnt catch it! But really, you should think whether its worth taking him back. It could happen again. He will be walking on egg shells for a long time and you cant trust him being out anywhere right? So is it worth leaving him and grieveing for a while, or having to stress on trusting him and then grieving when he gets mad because you dont trust him. It could happen again, it might not. But ive been cheated on alot, and let me tell you. Once a cheater always a cheater. Think about it.
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Mesmerizeu15
replied on November 17th, 2003
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I hate to admit it but nikki is telling us the truth, but I know that you are probably going to say ohh but he will change, and that is what I keep telling myself. Last night I went to the movies with my boyfriend and my best girl and they were like flirting, I dont trust him because he did me wrong so many times. I broke out in hives last night because I was so upset. I cant go anywhere without watching him when a pretty girl walks past, and it is hurting our relationship. Chance are you arent gonna be strong enough to leave him, I wasnt and I have a child, and I am not strong enough. But I think that one of these days out of the blue I am going to find my strength and I really gonna mean it when I say it is over. I will say that yes I say it is over and then I take him back, so it will be hard to actually stick to it, but I would rather be happy. Right now I am trying to trust him more but it is so hard. I think that I would be strong enough to help you though, would you be strong enough to help me? Hope to hear from you soon!!

Stacie
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kitty_55
replied on November 17th, 2003
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Omg Sweetie
Dump his sorry ass! Sorry but my bf cheated on me and I dumped him he isnt worth my love or anything.Like nikki said once a cheater always a cheater...
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Mesmerizeu15
replied on November 17th, 2003
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Who were you talking to?? Which one of us, two stories on here!
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shortee913
replied on November 17th, 2003
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Obviously...
If he remembers all the details he wasn't that drunk, thats just an excuse! What kind of man is he if he cheats on his preggy fiance? Who says he won't do it again. Girl leave his behind not just for you but for that baby! Once a cheater always a cheater... You are better than that! Good luck hun and keep us posted! God bless...
Much love,
sami
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gabrielle
replied on November 17th, 2003
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Lil666ane hang in there girl and don't be stressed. U need to focus on u right now and your baby! I agree with nikki though! Once a cheater always a cheater! If you need your man right now cause your pregnant then stay with him but I will promise you that some time after u have your baby u won't put up with him if he can't stay faithful! U will find strength to move on with your life! And to mesmerizeu15(stacie) some day you'll find your strength within you and move on with your life. If your constantly worried about your man cheating on you you'll get tired of it! There's only so much us women can take! I've been cheated on and I know how it is! I just got to the point where my heart just couldn't take getting hurt anymore. It was like my boyfriend had shattered my heart so much that there just wasn't a heart left for him to hurt anymore. I wish you two girls the best and hope no matter if you decide to stay with your guys or not that you'll be happy! Good luck and much love!
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barons_girl_504
replied on November 17th, 2003
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I Have to Agree...
I have to agree with the person who said that if he was sooo drunk he wouldnt be able to give you detail by detail of what happened. I have never been cheated on and if I were to be I wouldn't give him the time to explain.I dont want to sound rude or mean in any way; but its not only wondering if he will do it again, it's knowing that some other girl "had" the love of your life. The father of your child. I wouldn't be able to have sex with them ever again because I would think that he was thinking about the other girl. Call me crazy, or just mad jealous, but I would drop hiim like a dirty tampon! Wink sorry to be so graphic...I cannot help myself when it comes to things like this. I have seen one of my friends get played left and right and saw how much it hurt her, I dont want you to hurt like that!! Like nikki said, I would rather drop him and grieve than stress over the constant worry of cheating again!!

Love always,
sarah!
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youngmomtobe
replied on November 17th, 2003
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Girl u need to leave him you can take care of this baby w/o him that baby dont need any of that negativity and wrong doing around it! My man he goes out drinking and caca and get drunk but at least he tells the girls to medical question off he gots a girl ive seen him do it too! Girl u need a man not a lil boy who plays these lil games! Girl u and this baby are better off! And we are all here to help ya in any way! Much love and god bless u nad your baby!!!

Jen
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Suzy
replied on November 17th, 2003
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Omg lil666ane, i'm sorry but he is a complete a**hole. The girls here are so right. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Barons girl hit the nail on the head with what she said, he was too drunk to know what he was doing, yet he wasn't too drunk to tell you exactly what happened. I have been drunk before to, and i'm sure you may have been once or twice, while you were drunk did you forget you had a partner ?? No, of course you didn't. That's like saying, you were so drunk you forgot who you were. He took advantage of the fact that you weren't there, and thought you weren't going to find out. Don't you dare blame yourself for not being there, it is so not your fault. He has no right to drag your feelings through the dirt, he has just proven to you he is not that special guy you previously thought he was. It takes a special guy not to cheat, and he is another one of those typical cheaters. Girl there are hundreds of them, you can find a cheater anywhere. Dump him and find yourself a man, not a hormone driven little boy. Good luck...

Suzy
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smith8500
replied on November 17th, 2003
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Wellq
Sweetie,
i am really sorry.
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kitty_55
replied on November 17th, 2003
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Sorry I Was Talking About Lil66ane
But stacie how long have you and your bf been toghther?Has he ever cheated on u?? I know it hurts alot when you see your bf flirting with someone else besides you.I think you should flirt with a guy in front of him and make him feel how much it hurts too see it with his own two eyes..If you are very seoius about leaving him than you should.If you are not happy leave. You are the only person in this world to make that choice..Pm me if you want to talk..

Alison
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Mommy_2_b
replied on November 18th, 2003
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Sweetie you need to leave him. I know it doesnt sound like a good idea since you are pregnant but you do. If he cheated on you once it will happen again. And just because he was at a party and drunk is no excuse he should have known better. Best of luck melissa
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casey rachelle
replied on November 18th, 2003
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Aww...
I'm sorry hun. But they are right, if he remembers enough of what was going on then he was sane enough to know what he was doing was wrong. I do know how you feel, I just went through the same thing not too long ago. Just take some time to yourself and think about whats going on.
Good luck and keep us updated.
_-=casey rachelle=-_
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Mesmerizeu15
replied on November 18th, 2003
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Alison, we have been together for 4 years almost 5 and he has cheated on me about 6 times, and I have cheated on him about 3 times... Idont know though..Last night he bought me a rose, but I know you cant buy love, I am hoping things are gonna change and that everything will get better I ove him all of my heart and I want my beautiful son to have a father..Something I never had..Hope all is getting better...

Stacie
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insurancegirl
replied on November 18th, 2003
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michi21
replied on November 18th, 2003
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Girl, u know that your the only one who can make a decision if u want to be with him or not, you need to analyze and ask your self if the relationship is really worth it, and if hes really sorry. I had a boyfriend cheat on me before too, and I really loved him, so I gave him a nother chance and he hasn't done it since, it all depends in how u feel and if hes worth it, also remember u got a baby on the way, and the baby is gonna need a father, but if u decide to dump him then u can take care of the baby by yourself. I hope it works out for u, and I hope I gave u good advice, good luck!
Michi21
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Volleyball Pryncez
replied on November 18th, 2003
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Girls, if a guy cheats on you once he will do it again! There is no two ways around that! I can't tell you when or where, but they will cheat on you again! Its just like abusers, they hit you once, they will hit you again! Why? Because you let them get away with hit! If they cheat or raise a hand kick their asses to the curb with the trash! No man is 'good enough' to hold on to after either of those!
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Lildreamer
replied on November 18th, 2003
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I Dont Know About That!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Once a cheater, always a cheater! I dont totally agree w/that! Im not defending him, but maybe he wont do it again! Its not always- "once a cheater always a cheater. But even though I say that..It can be true.I say half and half. But in your case it is messed up since your preggy and engaged. Thats just plain messed up sh*t!!!!!! I would say leave him in the dust, but I myself am not strong enough to walk away from a relationship that is falling apart. Mesmerizeu ..I understand completely! Its just that we are so use to our guys...They know every wound, every weakness, our embarrassing moments, personal secrets, all our bad habits. Im just afraid of someone in the world knowing everything about me and that im not with them. I pray for my strength too. God help me get my mind straight....! Hopefully it woudnt be to late and you'll end up getting divorced with 4 kids and sharing custody...Endeing a marriage of 10 years..U know what I mean! Life's a trip! Love really is blind!
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