Birth Control Forum - I Can't Get My Gf to Come to Orgasim! Help!!

She is 17 and just got back from a week vacation with her parents in fl. We had sex sunday 2 times the first time I got off and she didn't cause we didn't have time, the second time we did it forever till we were both so tired we couldn't move and she still didn't get an oragasim. So we startedto get dressed and she cried really really hard. I felt really bad like my dick wasn't good enough for her or something. I've never had problem geting her off before. Then wednesday night we tried again but we didn't have alot of time. I got off but then the little man was out of shape so I lost the boner. She cried a gain really hard. So my question is: is there something wrong with me or her or what is is? It's really scaring her? Please help! Thanks.
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C06151972

replied on July 1st, 2005

New User

There is nothing wrong with you, don't do that to yourself. Some people need to be really comfortable with the idea of having sex in order to relax enough for an orgasm. This can be hard for a woman in the beginning, even if she loves him.

Hormones have a lot to do with it too. I have a hard time orgasming with my bf a few days before my period. I went on birth control but it changed my hormones and I could not orgasm, ever. So we quit and I am getting a diaphragm now instead.

My point is, it is probably not you. It could be an emotional or physical thing. Just let her know it is o.K and maybe ask he if she wants to see a doctor and discuss the issue. Let her know you want to make her happy. Good luck...

chaosbob

replied on July 7th, 2005

Experienced User

Lick her vagina...Give her some good oral sex...Suck on her clitty

Zabrina

replied on July 8th, 2005

Experienced User

If you had no problems getting her off before, maybe she cheated on you and feels guilty. That could keep her from haveing an orgasm.

Hypochondriac1028

replied on July 23rd, 2005

Experienced User

You have to push it inside of her real deep.... My gf gets off every time..My penis is 7 1/2 and I always cum in her. Try fingering her ass while your really ehr she will get off twice as fast. Just make sure she knows u own her while its happening

nicolem

replied on July 23rd, 2005

New User

Re: I Can't Get My Gf to Come to Orgasim! Help!!

One thing I don't get is why she is crying just because she can't have an orgasm, that doesn't help the situation and only makes you feel worse. Less crudely put, you could definately try oral sex on her, get her to relax and try to keep the pressure off both of you. She prob thinks she is disappointing you and you vice versa, so you get nowhere. Talk to her, suggest some new things and don't get so wound up if it doesn't happen. Pressure is prob the number one thing that causes people to not orgasm. Relax and have fun, both of you. Sex shouldn't be about pressure, but pleasing and enjoying eachother. Hope that helps and good luck!

AMM

replied on July 24th, 2005

New User

This probably isn't a big deal...By crying she is making it worse. She's only 17, and most girls that young don't orgasm all the time. Some women never orgasm till they are in the 30s because when they are young sex is too stressful or whatever. I'm 22 and when I have sex with my boyfriend I don't orgasm all the time...Heck, 50% of the time is pretty good. It doesn't mean I don't enjoy having sex with him!

Tylanas

replied on July 26th, 2005

Especially eHealthy

hypochondriac1028 wrote:

you have to push it inside of her real deep.... My gf gets off every time..My penis is 7 1/2 and I always cum in her. Try fingering her ass ,she will get off twice as fast. Just make sure she knows u own her while its happening

*ahem*

you have a good point, despite your crude language. What your girlfriend is getting off on is probably the same thing I (a female) get off on: the tip of the penis brushing against the cervix. Most women find this incredibly painful, or so i've heard. But there are a select few who actually like the stimulation. That's probably also why most women don't like pap smears ;)

to the other people, oral sex is definatly a good idea. Do a 69 even; she may gain pleasure from knowing she's making you happy at the same time!

You should try different positions, and even try adjusting your "roles", as suble as they may be. Let her be in control of what's happening; let her make the choices and set the pace. She might be a little more dominant, and it's being suppressed by you taking on the role, focing her to be the submissive when that's not really what she wants. I'm a submissive so i'll do almost anthing my bf suggests (kinky!) but your gf may like ot be in the coice-making position. Try it out!

barbiegirl430

replied on January 16th, 2008

New User

really calm her down before you start on her. Use calm music candles, just lay there touching each other then begin. Start out slow and get harder and deeper.

Also get her to try to give herself an orgasm and tell her to pretend your not there and get her to keep practicing!!

saydielove

replied on July 1st, 2009

New User

women with no orgasims

hello
I am a female that can only reach it with oral sex. Do any of you know why?

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