Depressed Due to Infertility

I am in the same boat, but dont worry getting pregnant can be the most difficult if you just relaxed, dont worry about it the in time in will happen naturally.
Good luck lv lisa

I do feel for you though i'm not in the same boat. I've gotten pregnant once and lost the pregnancy but i've always worried about my own fertility. My mom and dad were told they couldn't get pregnant at all due to endo and 'lazy sperm'. I was born twenty years later when my mother was 40, so anything is possibly. My aunt in law is a mother, but not of a human baby. She has turned her maternal instincts toward animals. My husband and I have decided that if we cannot conceive we will adopt children who are 'unwanted', kids with mood disorders who most ppl won't accept. I guess i'm lucky though, i've always had a feeling I might not be able to coneive b/c of my mom and my grandmother's experiences. Best of luck and maybe giving up isn't that bad! My parents had given up and "hi here I am".

Hiya kissycole,

have you seeked medical advice to find out why you are finding it difficult to become pregnant and had any medical tests such as that to check whether you fallopian tubes are not blocked?

If you have actually seeked medical advice and have been diagnosed with a condition that is highly likely to prevent you from becoming pregnant, do you think that maybe you would consider other options such as adoption?

For the depression you could see your gp who may prescribe you anti-depressants if they think you are suffering from severe depression - but am not sure whether or not taking medication as such, carries adverse side effects that is likely to harm a pregnancy if one was to occur. Also taking regular exercise and eatting correctly may help reduce depression.

Hope things pick up for you in the near future.
Take care.

Thank you for your support sad_eyes. I am seeking medical attention for my infertility. It is so hard sometimes though when I go to the doctor each time for new medication and none of it ever helps me get pregnant. I am not as depressed as I was though. I am learning to accept that this will be a long process and that it might not even work. Later down the road we might consider adoption but for now we are still trying the natural ways, along with clomid. The only thing wrong with the medicine is that it gives me mood swings which are not very pleasant. But like I said before I am trying to buck up and take it all in stride. Thanks for replying. It is nice that people care. :)

Thank you for your support sad_eyes. I am seeking medical attention for my infertility. It is so hard sometimes though when I go to the doctor each time for new medication and none of it ever helps me get pregnant. I am not as depressed as I was though. I am learning to accept that this will be a long process and that it might not even work. Later down the road we might consider adoption but for now we are still trying the natural ways, along with clomid. The only thing wrong with the medicine is that it gives me mood swings which are not very pleasant. But like I said before I am trying to buck up and take it all in stride. Thanks for replying. It is nice that people care. :)

Hi,

it must be very frustrating that the medication you have been prescribed doesn't appear to be helping. Why do you feel that it's not helping? Do you feel that your doctor as assessed you correctly before precribing the medication?

Referral for diagnostic testing should include:
1) pelvic ultrasonography,
2) hysterosalpingogram - x-rays of the your pelvic organs using a special dye to determine whether there is any presence of scar tissue within the fallopian tubes
3) blood tests to check the hormone levels.

4) your partner should also have undergone semen testing.


It may also be a useful to use a test with predicts the time of ovulation - I suspect your doctor as informed you already of these tests.

Mood swings are a pain - I get them all the time!!
They make me more arguementative, so when I feel like i'm going to snap at someone.... I will try and avoid them for a while till I calm down - because otherwise if I argue I just feel really terrible afterwards and so does the other person.

The only advice I can give you really is to try and stay as positive as you can. I think that things will happen when they are ready to happen - and all that happens will happen for a reason.

All the best,
take good care of yourself.

My husband and I have beeen trying for 4 years and my baby sister just had a baby, my best freind just had twins, my older sister just announced that she is expecting my brother and his wife announced that they are trying. And I realized that our new insurance covers none of it. I know how you feel. There is a book called infertility sucks that has at least made me laugh about it, a friend of mine told me about it. I thought it couldn't hurt I read it all yesterday. It if anything made me feel like I am not alone. Now I have to give up my dream because we can't afford just to pay for it all out of pocket. I am looking for a fertility freind if you would like to talk to a complete stranger about your daily struggles please email me mik enlexnier@charter.Net. I would love to talk to someone who doesn't tall me to just realx or to pray and a baby will appear. Hang in there it has to at sometime get better.

Im sorry! I dont know what it is like...And yet im not even married/still a virgin. But there is hope out there! I do wish you the very best of luck. Im sure having a baby is different from adopting one; but there are many babies out there in the world that have no parents. An as they grow older they actually feel deglected and stray away, which is terrible!

Either way...You make a difference!!!

Keep smiling!