Gradually during the year I turned 50 I was more and more overwhelmed with gut pain, terrible hot flashes, no sleep, and muscle pain, especially at night. It got so bad I was thinking I would have to shut down my business. After 6 months of tests, etc with no diagnosis in sight, I stopped eating entirely for a few days (stomach really hurt) and lo and behold, started to feel better. Trial and error,6 more months, eventually I have figured out the triggers: grains, starchy foods (potatoes, rice, dried beans/peas), sugar, alcohol, spices (peppers, cumin, cinnamon), caffeine and vinegar. So now I just eat plain meat, dairy products, and tons of vegetables, and I am sleeping at night, only "warm" flashes, and the AMAZING thing is that I have more energy than I have had since I was twenty. Clearer head, too. Business is back on track. It is amazing to have been able to control this. I am still menopausal but symptoms are reduced so much I can tolerate them, they are minor irritations. If I mess up on the diet, the old bad symptoms are right back within a day or two, so I know I have my finger on the problem.
My theory is that everybody has things that stress them out, mine happen to be foods, and those things trigger extreme menopausal reactions - if you can isolate what they are, you can reduce the symptoms.
Now as of this week I've got a skin rash - that's why I'm on this site - sounds like it's menopause, I'll have to figure out the triggers if I can.
Good luck to all, hang in there, and I hope these ideas help somebody...
Kiryah