Hey vanessa,
just sit her down adn be like mom...Im not sexually active yet...But I was wandering if you could help me get on b/c so I can get used to the side effects and let my body adjust to it....So when it comes time for me to be ready to have sex I will be totally protected! If shes as understanding and easy to talk to as you say she will probably think about it and say yes your her daughter im sure she would rather u on b/c than getting pregnant ya kno? Well good luck let us know wat happens!! Much love and god bless u!!

Jen

If you don't want to go to your mom go to planned parenthood or your local health department, it's free! Good luck god bless

much love,
sami

I agree with jen, if your mom is as understanding as you say she is then it should be no problem. I was the same way with my mom too. Just make sure that when you do decide to have sex, make sure that it is with the right person. I know you have heard that time and time again, but it is a really important thing to consider. You'll never know what it means until you experience it. But I am totally behind you when it comes down to wanting to be completely protected. I think that is the best thing for you to do. I also give you props for being 16 and still a virgin.. You go girl! I was 16 and still a virgin too, and I am glad I waited as long as I did. Just promise that you will be as careful as you can ok?? Good luck hun!

My grandma is the one who got me on mine, and when I moved back in with my mother she told me that she thought that is pramoted sex so she took me off of it, and then I got pregnant with sean. Well now I am back on birth control since I am with my grandma, and my sister called my cell last night, "stacie, I starting having sex with my boyfriend and I want to get on birth-control. Please dont tell grandma." well to make a long story short, she asked dad who said no and then asked mom who said it promoted sex. I am scared for her because I dont want her to have to have a baby. She is immature and is so young. 13!! I sure hope that everything works out for you with your birth control. How old are you? Do you have insurance, who is it under?? There are ways around things...

Loads of love, laughter, and joy!!

Stacie

Hey girls,
thanks for all of your advice...Casey im proud that im 16 and still a virgin too! But its getting old! Lol, its been on my mind for a good year now and I think im ready, once my relationship w/ my guy matures a little bit...Still scared though ...Stacie, im 16 and under my parent's insurance...Im just nervous to talk to her about it, I mean who would enjoy telling their mom they wanna start having sex?! Lol I dont know, I was thinking about talking to her and getting on the pill, and then I thought maybe I should go to the clinic and get free bc...And then I thought, well maybe ill just use a condom, but I wanna be as protected as possible, and it'll help ease my mind and make me relax and actually enjoy it, instead of worrying ya know? Im a huge worrier, and I was talking to my guy about it, and the fact that he's older makes me feel a little better, because hes used to it and knows what hes doing, whereas if I was going to give myself to another virgin id be scared sh*tless! Lol sry for my wordchoice...But do any of you girls have any advice on the *special night*? He was telling me that his parents know people in the casinos and that they can get free rooms on certain nights....So I was thinking maybe that...When im ready anyway....I just want it to be as memorable as possible, and with as little worrying as possible...I was definitely thinking we could do like the bubble bath with candles all over...Ahh I cant wait! Lol, what was everybodys first time like? Any pointers you can give me? Im so excited, I like wanna go now! Lol let me know!
Vanessa

I know how that feels yano?? I felt the same way about being a virgin after all my friends had already had sex and they told me about it and i'm like "maaannn I wanna be in on this" but I am just glad that I waited to do it with my fiancee. I am hopin that everything works out for the best for you and your b/f. How long have you two been together?

Yea I know what ya mean....We've been together for only 3 weeks, but im not planning on sleeping with him for a little bit....And im not like the traditional girl where its like well I have to be with you for 1 year 4 months and 3 days before I do something with u lol, if im ready and feel comfortable with it then im gonna do it...And quite honestly, I just wanna do it and get it over with, lol not that it wont be special, because it will be, but I dont wanna have to wait a year just because thats what u should do, im sure I sound real naive right now, but ya know what, life's too short, so why not live your life the way u want to, instead of always worrying about making the right decision all the time? Ive been through a lot this past year and im tired of always worrying about making the wrong decision...Ive worried so much that I ended up making the wrong decision anyway becasue my head was so clouded ya know? I dont know, im beginning to feel at ease with this guy, and overall we're great friends, which makes the road easier to a relationship....I dont know, im still scared though....Fear of the unknown....I actually just went with my friends to get condoms just in case we get caught up in the moment, I wanna be protected.....Im just sooo nervous, ah I dont know, I gotta stop worrying, but if theres any advice u can offer id definitely love to hear what u have to say! Sry for the long post lol, u can tell ive had this on my mind for a while now...

I totally know what you mean, I just talked to my sister yesterday she lives in north carolina, and she told me that she started having sex with her boyfriend and that she wants to be put on birth control, so she asked my stepdad and he said to ask our mom. So she asked mom and she said the same thing that she said to me when she took me off of it, it promotes sex. So now my sister is relying straight on condoms which arent a hundred percent. So she finally had to get enough courage to just simply tell my dad that she was active, and he said that she could no longer date her boyfriend. But she is a lot younger than you, 13. Good luck!!

Stacie

Well I guess that's sorta understandable if your sister's only 13....Everybody's starting so young these days! I think im gonna hold off on talking to my mom about birth control right now, until I become active anyway, I mean the first couple times we'll use condoms, but if I tell her right now, she's gonna assume that im sleeping with my guy...Which I will be, lol but not right now...But anyways, I dont know, ive got second thoughts and I dont know what to do....Im just afraid of the pain, and then worrying about pregnancy, ah man this is gonna be tough...I just wanna get on the pill so it'll help ease my mind, but I dont know, we'll see how things go...Ill keep u updated on how things turn out!
Good luck with your sister too....Hopefully your parents come around and help her out!
Vanessa