i have a dilemma that I could really use an unbiased opinion.
I am currently 20 years old...About 4 years ago my best friends sister started to have a crush on me....Of course I wasn't for it, cuz she was just my friends sister at the time. However, as our friendship grew stronger...I started to develop feelings for her. I definitely saw her as more as a friend, so when I was 19 (she was 17) we started dating and things were going great. Then it was time for our first kiss....So it happened and it was fine.....
..But it seemed like clockwork that the day after the kiss, she started to act weird and cold to me. She like totally changed. She said that she just wanted to be friends, and I was fine with that. Months and months went by, and she still kinda treated me like garbage. She always kinda downtalked me. She never gave me any sort of satisfaction...Like when I was happy she tried to get me in a bad mood so I wouldn't be happy anymore. And I don't understand....She always says how i'm one of her best friends in the world and she's lucky to have me in her life....But she always gives me the cold shoulder...Which I don't understand because she had a crush on me, a huge crush, for like 3 years. Then she got what she wanted, and she just threw it away. So recently I kinda told her I need a break from all of the poor treatment.....I haven't talked to her in like 2 weeks.
What I want to know is....Why is she so distant from me now? Am I doing the right thing by giving her space....A lot of it? Because its been about 11 months since she told me she didn't want to date anymore....And her attitude toward me has never changed...Always ignoring, turning her back on me, talking down to me, telling secrets in front of my face, not letting me be happy...
I do still have strong feelings for her, but I know I deserve better, ya know? So I just want to be friends...But I can't keep on bending over backwards for someone that is rude, ya know? So a question, for the ladies, is why is she doing this? What does she want? Keep in mind that she's 18 years old right now, and i"m 20. Anything on how she might be feeling might help.
i don't have any solid reasons why she is acting the way she is, but you are right....You definitely deserve to be treated with repect and consideration. And it's reasonable to want to be happy in a relationship! Maybe she is too young and immature to handle a relationship right now. Girls, like a lot of guys, are fickle and change their minds, get moody, act catty, etc. You have strong feelings for her, but it would probably be a good idea to try to move on and find somebody who wants to be in a mutually loving relationship.
Best wishes to you, hon.
Yes ..... I think you are right.... Just give her the space and live her alone, maybe she did something wrong afer being with you and than she feelt bad about it, and the way she is tring to work it out is to not work it out, if you know what I mean, if she is just 18 and you 20 don't worrie too much belive me , I had a crush on someone before and right now I don't even remember hes last name.... So just take it easy, the way it sounds it's her fault. Just walk on by, if you can't I would ask her - whats her problem? - if you feel, she thinks you did something wrong just ask her k?
Ps: write back I really wanna know what's her problem ?
Do the same thing back to her!
Get her drunk, and have sex with her, then do the cold shoulder thing to her.
You sound like a nice guy. And nice guys finish last.
It's better that you found this out at an early age.