Just thought I'd share my experience. I've been on and off Effexor for the past 7 years. And all the of the horrible things they say about the withdrawal is true. I've gone through it twice. Things also get pretty bad if you miss just one dose because of its short half-life.
But I also went through all the other SSRIs and SSNRIs. They all have side effects and not everyone who takes them experiences them.
For me Effexor has been the only thing that's worked. It has helped me overcome my anxiety and I have been happier because of it.
This is not a testimonial, a recommendation, or plug. I'm only sharing my experience with Effexor.
The main thing I've learned is, not all drugs help all people and not all drugs work the same with all people.
My advice is to keep trying meds till you find the one that works for you. They all have thorns, but you may end with a beautiful rose.