Military Deployment Ended My Relationship> Should I Go Ba Posted: 06-18-05 21:22pm
I was in a relationship and then I was
deployed overseas with the military.I am
still currently deployed. However my
relationship failed.. Ive cried forever
and a day but theres nothing I can do
about it. We still keep in touch however
and even flirt. My thing is now that
were apart and they are sleeping with
other women, I wonder when I get back
should I take him back or should I just
let it go..You can look at it 2 ways..If I
take him back then its like well you left
me slept with other women and now that im
back and its convenient for you, you want
me back or I really love him and think
about him constantly and want him..And
just say f who your with, im here
now..Your leaving with me..Help
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Joined: 21 Jun 2005 Posts: 22
Posted: 06-22-05 07:19am
All depends on if you love him.. If he
has slept with a few chicks its obvious he
doesnt give a medical question about you..
If he did, it explains that he doesnt
care for you, or wants you for sex.. Like
im in a 10 month relationship and would
die if I ever got dumped.. Literally..
If I did or dumped her for w/e reason I
would prob never be able to love ever..
Im soo madly in love with her.. Im only
14 but the way I fell is on a completely
different level then when we just
started.. Back to you.. It all depends
on you.. You in love him or no? If you
do this shall be hard.. If he has had sex
with a few chicks literally all I can see
is that he dumped you for sex, and just
wants sex.. But if you really want him
and was really in love with him I would
give him a very good talk, and dont be all
goody on him, make it serious.. Show him
you really love him and are quite
disappointed in what he did.. Keep
writing :d
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ladyjhai
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Joined: 18 Jun 2005 Posts: 2 Location: ohio
All Depends On If You Love Him.. Posted: 06-22-05 15:58pm
Well ive tried to ocnvince myself that I
dont and that I ll get over him. And
mabye what I need is just closure because
im overseas and all I can do is wonder.
My heart still wants him but he doesnt
deserve it. I mean I talk to him
everyday, flirting and talking for hours
online but I know hes with someone else.
He told me before I left that even if we
broke up while I was gone and if he got
with someone else he would come back to
me! Ive closed myself to everyone here
because well im deployed and thats a whole
nother story. Everyone out here is just
trying to get some. I havent slept with
anyone else yet and he is the last person
that ive been with so maybe when I get
home I can get closure and just be single
and lookin
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Joined: 21 Jun 2005 Posts: 22
Posted: 06-22-05 16:25pm
Im sorry to hear that but honestly I think
all he wants is sex.. Put it this way..
He dumped you to have sex right? So all
he wants is sex.. That is absolutely
disrespectful.. Im only 14 but I know
alot about respect and grew up all around
respect.. If my g.F ever showed off her
boobs.. Trust me I would be giving her a
long talk.. Even flirting with another
guy makes me mad.. I was born like this..
Ganster town where everyday I would get
beat up.. Now that im a bodybuilder boxer
and hockey player.. I can defend myself
right? Thats close to your case but with
a complete different story line.. If I
were you.. When you get back dont even
think about him.. Go have fun get drunk
get high w/e lol just have fun.. Trust me
the #1 will come by some day and you will
know it.. I know you rly loved him but if
he did that to you he didnt love you
meaning he wasnt the one.. Ive loved
some1 before and I found out she used me
for fame over the school bcuz I was
biggest in my school.. Stupid reason.. I
honestly think my g.F right now is #1 shes
all I think about, I know im only 14 but I
have never felt liek this in my life.. I
havent even told her I boxed nor worked
out lol and she says she is in love with
me =) could be caca but hopefully she is
"in" love with me as I am madly in love
with her. But back to you.. I would go
have fun dont even think about him.. If
he wants you back tell him to stick his
dick up his ass lol no dont do that just
say the truth, that your mad he broke your
heart and stuff, remain just friends.. I
understand how much you love him and im
really sorry but I figure this is the best
way out of this.. Sorry if you figure im
bad at giving advice :( plz write back
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lovely22
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Joined: 24 Aug 2005 Posts: 20 Location: washington state
Posted: 08-24-05 17:48pm
I know all about what your going through.
I just got out of the army. I was engaged
to be married when we got deployed and
then after a six months of us being apart
things didn't go very well. I was
deployed for 15 months. Now iam married
thea man who was in the same unit as I and
he will be deployed next year. So sweetie
it 's hard but what I suggest is that when
you get back to the states you guys go out
just the two of you to dinner or
something. Test the waters again. If you
don't like it then don' stay. But hey I
know what your going through belive me it
sucks really bad and even worse when your
deployed. But just know that there are
people out there like me who have been in
your shoes. Hang in there, keep your head
up, and be safe.
