Ok bobba, I read your post not knowing your gender which is irrevelent actually since genderwise abuse is committed by both sexes.
You are a very lucky man which you will realize in time. Contrary to popular belief thanks to daytime talk shows far more me are the victims of abuse than you would think and you are absolutely victimized whether you realize it or not.
I was in couseling three months into my marriage and had two subsequent therapists during the 24 year term of my marriage that is currently in divorce stage initiated by my wife for the 2nd and last time.
I will be filing counterclaim this week. The 1st 2 therepist were found by my with therapy recieved at my insistence. These sessions ended when the therapists discovered credibility was not a virtue of my wife resulting in her refusal to continue therapy. She sought the last therapist we saw only to be used for an attempt in court to create a false appearance of dedication to the marriage. Odds are you initiated your counseling sessions. Now enough about me and now I will provide some counseling based on wisdom gained by experiences of myself and others known to me.
Your spouse is not a nice person and does not and most likely never loved or cared about you except for personal gain of some unknown, sick agenda she has. People can become addicted to other people just as much as one can to alchohol and/or drugs. You are addicted to her and now it is time to de-tox and re-habillitate yourself. By constant criticism and disapproval she was making a concerted effort to remove your self-esteem and to subjugate to into a spineless pile of dough. Bottom line is the health forum is a control freak to the extreme. She doesn't like anybody and that includes herself even though she acts otherwise. I have seen many men do the same thing to their significant others. These peope prey on the "givers" of the world and they are the "takers". They should be drawn, quartered and hung in my opinion.
I would bet money she tried to distance you from your family which is your support mechanism. Mine insisted that each holiday was spent with her family and never mine. Sex with your wife was probably on the verge of non-existence soon after you were married. She always provided a good reason for the lack of intimacy but it was an excuse nontheless. Believe me you will discover she was having sex on a regular basis but not with you. That is when you get pissed and put on your combat gear and start to get your life back. However, always remember there is a fine line between love and hate and you will not be completely de-toxed from her until you let go of her and the hate!
I could not pick your wife out of a police line-up but the smart money tells me you are affluent or belong to a family of high social stature. This would be the most likely reason she chose you be her husband but not necessarily.
She wanted children for monetary gain regardless of what you were told.
Mine had wealthy parents and sisters with children so she wanted her parent's attention and child support when the time came to divorce me.
You need to rent the movie "cat on a hot tin roof" with liz taylor and paul newman.
Yes you are a lucky man because you are about to cut your losses early unlike myself enduring the abuse for 25 years. I do have and love my children but she has managed to brainwash my daughter and alienated her from me perhaps forever. Time will tell if this is true.
Now go out there and start enjoying life, throw a filet on the grill, drink a cold beer (but do not self-medicate) and have a fornication festival. You will be surprised that compliments from women will become a common occurance in your life which will get better, that I assure you. Father tme
is a great healer but a terrible beautician. Divorce her and kick her ass in court!
