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arielm

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Abortions And Fertility
Posted: 06-12-05 18:26pm

This is very sensitive subject and I really appreciate any honest advice and shared experiences.

I am 32 years old and facing the choice of abortion or not. I have had 2 previous abortions (one at 17 and the other at 27). I am humiliated by this, but now have a new boyfriend who is certain that the timing is too premature to carry this child to term...Which I agree with, but at the same time I fear infertility as a result of too many abortions. I cannot find stats on whether or not 3 abortions can affect future fertility.

Does anyone have experiences which they can share? Or thoughts? Thank you thank you thank you.
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mayhi

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Abortion
Posted: 06-13-05 05:49am

Hi, I am no expert on this, but my sister only had one abortion, and she now cannot have children because of it. So, what I am saying is that, any time you have an abortion, you risk the chance of not being able to have children. Hope this helps.
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mayhi

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Posted: 06-13-05 07:17am

Ok that is the sickest thing that I have ever seen on this forum and I cannot believe that it was allowed to be posted. Are these posts not checked???
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nikkis916

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Pregnancy After Abortion
Posted: 06-13-05 11:40am

I would like some advise on this please. I am 20 years old and I have had 3 abortions. My family threatens me that they will cut off all ties with me if I have a child, I was scared and didn't have anyone but my family. Know and then I regret doing what I did. I had my first when I was 15 then one in november of 04 and I immediately got pregnant again in feb 05. I am back with my 1st love/boyfriend and he wants to have a baby. He already has a son that I am great with, I have no doubts that I wouldn't be a good mother but I am scared now that I may not be able to conceive. And then if I do will my baby be deformed? Has anyone else been in the same place I have? Have you conceived a healthy baby after an abortion , months after?
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mrswilson

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Posted: 06-14-05 12:47pm

Ok first response......To the 32 yr old. Keep the baby if it is healthy, why risk losing your fertility for a man period. You may never be able to have any more children, why risk losing that blessing? I had one when I was 16 and me and my husband has sex w/o protection and i've never gotten pregnant and I am curious to know if I can ever concieve or if something got screwed up. I want children badly but in about 4 yrs when I am 27 and we are both ready to be parents. I wish some teens would do the same thing instead of being a child and having a child. But this second post is for ieatdeadbabies. How sick and demented are you???? Ar you a 14yr child who can think of nothing better to do with your time than to write things like this is sensitive subject forum? You need help you are sick and I will pray that god work wonders on you, you need to seek god and not be so demented and say such cruel things. That's wrong, but I am not the judge of you, that's left for the man upstairs.
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* cheryl *

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Posted: 06-14-05 15:22pm

ieatdeadbabies wrote:
sure have an abortion.........So I can eat the dead fetus....Mmmmmmm


you are one sad ass sicko :x
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mrswilson

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Posted: 06-15-05 13:46pm

You are sick and need help and for a 21 yr old you have the mental status of a 5 yr old. You sound so ignorant. Grow up. And god will judge you for things you've done and said, you should repent.
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Posted: 06-16-05 09:06am

Can I just suggest that any correlation between having abortions and subsequent infertility is likely to be spurious (i.E. Incidental)?

Someone having multiple abortions is probably more likely to be having unprotected sex, possibly with multiple partners. That means she is more likely to be exposed to infection and sexually-transmitted diseases. Chlamydia, in particular, may show absolutely no symptoms but result in infertility.

So what may seem like abortions "causing" later trouble in conceiving is actually not the case. The unwanted pregnancy and the eventual infertility were, instead, caused by the same behaviour.

Please don't flame and say you know someone who wasn't promiscuous but still had an abortion and now can't conceive. Remember that when you have sex without a condom you are being exposed to whatever your partner has been exposed to in the past. Also, there are many reasons why someone can have trouble conceiving. Most women who have trouble conceiving have never had an abortion. Besides this, men's sperm ain't what it used to be -- get the guy checked out first, before you start blaming yourself.
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arielm

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Posted: 06-16-05 13:16pm

Your post regarding behavior leading to stds and abortions makes tons of sense and makes me feel much better about proceeding with the procedure as I don't have any stds and thankfully never have. I would certainly say that the entire medical community needs to make information about multiple abortions easier to find and more objectively researched. No one wants to have more than one abortion, but a woman in this situation should be able to get consistant information. I have not-one doctor says there's a correlation, another says there's none.
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steen

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Posted: 06-16-05 17:57pm

There is virtually no connection. Remember that about 40% of american women have abortions, and they are not all infertile, or even remotely so. In fact, abortion is much less likely to cause infertility than giving birth is.


And again poopoopoo's post is right on the mark. The biggest cause of infertility in the us is something called "clamydia." it is an infection that you don't really feel and thus carry around all the time. It is estimated that 25% of all young women in college is infected with clamydia, and because it is so common, it is a big reason for intertility. So if you are worried, *that* is what you should get tested for.
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Lisa01443

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Posted: 06-22-05 09:50am

Well I do not believe in abortans but if the time is not right for you then carry on but dont do anything over a man and I bet you it will bring you closer in the long run.
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rainbow77

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Posted: 07-20-05 17:21pm

Please leave this lady alone. Its her body and nobody elses. Personally I am not a huge fan of abortion but this person has had to make two difficult choices already she needs support not critisism. I understand a lot of ppl here are trying for a baby or are already pregnant. Nobody critises their decisions about keeping their babies. We are all individual and lets try not too judge as hard as that may be.
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mum2beee

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Posted: 07-21-05 09:18am

Hey ya, I think its up to people whether they have an abortion or not. But people will give you nasty replys and you may be better taking your questions to the 'abortion' forum.. They will prob be able to help more and some may be in the same situation as you. X
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Nicknack

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Posted: 07-26-05 13:19pm

Having abortions are wrong, however they are not eating of the fetus? Whereever you heard that fro mis wrong!
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Ambience24

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Hi Honey
Posted: 08-10-05 05:33am

You know the implications of having an abortion having gone through two in the past. I am not against abortion, but personally wouldn't have an abortion again myself, as one year later I am suffering a fair bit of grief, and having phantom pregnancy symptoms, at least this is how I feel. Tests are all negative though. However if I did ever get pregnant, I would keep the baby no questions, no matter what situation.

I think that you are very strong as a person to go through so much, and don't feel humiliated, it's not something to be humiliated about. It's just something that you have to live with.

I feel that you should take time to look inside yourself, mediate, or go to a few meditation classes and truly look into yourself to see what you want, not what anyone else wants. If you look inwards you will know the answer, whether it's time or not, just don't doubt yourself okay!

You know what's best for you and how this will effect you, noone else.

Good luck honey, take care x
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mikenlex

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Posted: 09-12-05 13:06pm

Why nor adopttion I will adopt your baby for goodness sake. If you have had tow abortions you should not be able to have anymore if you go thrhough with it. There are so many people like me that would give up all they had for a baby and you want to kill yours. Get a life adn use some birth control for goods sake. I am sure you could go get the shot it is every 3 monts or is that to much to ask
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angel6932

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Posted: 09-12-05 13:19pm

Amen!! What the hell you should use protection.
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liz5

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Posted: 09-12-05 14:06pm

Well, sweetie there are people like me in the world who have been trying to have a child and you have been able to have three of them so I agree that this is probably not the best forum to participate in because it is call (getting pregnant). You would probably get more useful answers somewhere else. May god bless you :)
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mikenlex

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Thanks Ladies!!!
Posted: 09-12-05 16:35pm

Thanks for the back up ladies!!!!
I was having a really bad day with the fertility thing today thought I would seek some outside help or advice an ear to bend,and then came across this. I have been so upset. I am going into our 3rd year of fertility treatmentsat age 29. I would love to just adopt but we don't make enough money. And my husband has a job where he is gone alot but his insurance covers our fertility so what are you going to do.
Then I came across this. I was deeply saddened and have been depressed all day.
Why if there is a god would he bless someone like this with a baby that is just going to kill it. When there are so many women out there selling there soul just to get a glimmer of that precious gift.
And if 40% of women have had abortions and 50% are having fertility issues you do the math. If you don't want the baby someone else sure does. I do support abortion if you are addicted to drugs. But not just because you are to selfish to carry a baby for someone who would love it more then there own life.
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yctat

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Anybody Know?
Posted: 09-13-05 15:49pm

Anybody know, in malaysia the gorvernment approve women make the abortion operation?
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