I have been married now for nearly two years. My husband and I have a great relationship and are close friends. I run a theatre school for 60 kids on saturdays, but having our own family was never really on our agenda. Although we said "if it happens, it happens".
Well, it did. And he isn't so relaxed or cool about it now. I am scared too, but mainly of what this could potentially do to our relationship if he really isn't prepared to be a father. You can't guess this stuff - how he will be after the birth, will he see it differently later etc. He has always been quite intolerant of small children and isn't particularly relaxed around them (not sure he was ever allowed to be one either).
If I abort this child, I won't have another. I'm 33. I never planned to have one either. It was always going to be an accident. The whole thing scares me too much to make an active decision to get pregnant. I would be a good mother, but ending up alone with a child is a horrible fear.
Any words of wisdom out there?