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I am 15 years of age and I have noticed that my labia minora is so unequal. I'm talking about the left side being 4 times the size of my right. I am embarrassed to admit that I use to rub the two lips together when I was younger, now I am scared to touch at all. How can I even think of sex when I am older with such a horrific site? What do you suggest? Should I try get the right lip to match by doing the exact same to what I did with the left side? I sometimes get a throbbing pain out of the blue sometimes because there is so much.

Thank you for reading, I hope you can take this as serious as I can, as I have already been laughed out of a forum for asking the same question.
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replied June 8th, 2005
Okay, nevermind.
Carry on giving advice to women who don't know whether they are virgins or not. :shock:
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replied June 9th, 2005
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I cant give advice of whats wrong because ive never experienced this or know anyone who has, have you spoke to your mother or a doctor about it? I could understand you being un comfortble with this, but hey maybe theres something that can be done to fix it, so mise while see. Its mostly just skin down there maybe there is a surgery that could cut off the extra length on one side, (not trying to scare you about surgery) but I dont see anything else that could fix it? Just talk to a doctor I suggest : )
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replied June 9th, 2005
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Both my labia minoras protrude. I think protruding labias are better than the labias that look like your butcrack just continues on. Lol. Get my picture? Those labias seem like they are underdeveloped. Im proud of mine.
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replied June 19th, 2005
Help me out here. I feel extremely low about how I look down below.

I'm all wrinkled on my labia majora and when I look in a mirror, when standing and my legs slightly apart the view is horrendous. Seriously. I have so many fold and wrinkles on my labia majora and minora area. Almost like an old woman's. Does anyone else look like this when looking at it in this angle?
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replied May 29th, 2012
Same here -_- I sympathize for ya gurl Sad your not alone and I'm glad I'm not the only one Smile
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replied June 19th, 2005
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Every womens !**@! is unique..... I wouldn't worry about it too much.. Your just paranoid...And guy that has the privledge to see you naked, is not going to say,"...Oooh my god, your labias are bigger than the other"...Trust me...That will be the last thing on his mind
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replied June 21st, 2005
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Size, Shape
Sammy is right, guys really don't care how a girls vagina is shaped. I think you may end up surprised too, when you find out what you have really turns some guys on. It's all well and fun, no matter the shape or look, and when a guy really cares for you, it's not your !**@! he's gonna fall in love with, it'll be you!
Through my life, I have seen and had sex with a lot of different women, and some had some really different shape of the labias, but the girl I married (22 years now!), is because I fell in love with her, not her 'cute' !**@!.
Don't be so hard on yourself about this! Learn for it not to bother you, and believe us, it won't bother any guy who truly cares for you.
If a guy makes a remark about it when he first sees you naked, get dressed and leave, he is not yet a man no matter how old he is!
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replied July 10th, 2005
I know exactly how you feel....I'm 14 and it sounds like mine looks same as yours.... I'm glad that i'm not alone!..... It's one of the reasons that i'm still a virgin. I'm too self consious to get naked in front of a guy cuz i'm scared he'll be like "ewwww never mind!!".... Eh oh well.... Large labia unite! Haha
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replied July 10th, 2005
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14, gee I used to think it was barbaric the way they married 12 year olds off in india, but now I see that girls are so stupid in the usa that they want to just be used at that age without even any benefits of marriage...

My daughter is 13 and I tell her to enjoy her childhood because when it's over it's over and there's lots and lots of time to be a woman, a wife, a mother later on.

We just returned from the oregon coast, she rode her bike, rented a moped, went swimming, explored tide pools, watched movies, got a caramel apple on the boardwalk...It was beautiful to see that innocense and know that's about the most serious topic on her mind, how to have fun, not a wrinkled labia, not pregnancy, std's, getting screwed over by this guy or the next. I tell her, her family tells her, every day, that she's beautiful, she is tall, has long blonde hair and big blue eyes and pink cheeks, and she knows that she is, and she doesn't have to prove her worth or get love by spreading her legs for some hormone driven dog-boy. She's a competition dancer, can sing beautifully, and writes wonderful essays. She knows that it's her heart, soul, and mind that makes her a full human being. I know she'll experience pressures, so I am not even allowing her to go to middle school, she's home-schooling from now on and we're going to travel the world. When I used to visit the junior high school my son went to, the girls had see through skirts with thongs, belly shirts galore, there were some making out in full view in the hallways, and as bad as it was when I went to school it's just a porno-toilet in the public schools any more. Kids are so stupid they convince themselves that oral sex isn't sex and they're sucking and licking and feeling ok with that...But essentially they don't or they wouldn't kid themselves as they do.


I am so disheartened to see the levity behind such young girls playing with their bodies, their reproductive powers, as if they're nothing. I know my diatribe won't change anything, but at least I will do the best I can to keep my own kids from either hurting anyone else or getting hurt themselves. Even the loss of self-respect from acting our sexually prematurely is harm, and it's sad.
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replied July 11th, 2005
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I am really impressed with your way of thinking, and I completely agree with all what you said.

I hope girls will realize how some guys are just using them as sex toys specially in this very young age. And as I guy I am saying that the girl who respect her body and dont just give herself to anyone is lot more valuable in the eyes of men.

Men who are looking for real relationships and marriage would prefer very much a girl who is just taking care of herself.

This is my point of view
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replied July 11th, 2005
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Ok, the girl didn't say she wanted to know this information so she could feel "normal" and then go out and screw everybody in sight! She's a girl that has just entered puberty and just like the rest of us were at that age, she has questions about her body that she's scared to ask her mom or anyone else because she's scared she'll be labeled a freak. That's what this forum is for, for anyone of any age to ask questions about anything. And what does being from the u.S. Have to do with her question? She wanted to know if something was wrong with her, and the answer to that question is...No...God made us all different and unique. Her having or not having sex isn't just indiginous of the u.S., from what I can recall, some people in europe bring their boyfriends home, have sex with them in their parents houses, get up and have breakfast with the family in the morning, and then go home. You had the impression that girls every where are wearing the same things and doing the same things, not so. You found it in your school. That's one school out of millions. It's not the only one, and not all kids act that way either. It all come back to morals, how they were taught, and if they were taught to have any.
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replied July 14th, 2005
Thank you so much carolscreation!! At least someone understands that girls post besides me!!
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replied August 4th, 2005
Re: Labia Minora
iamanonymous wrote:
i am 15 years of age and I have noticed that my labia minora is so unequal. I'm talking about the left side being 4 times the size of my right. I am embarrassed to admit that I use to rub the two lips together when I was younger, now I am scared to touch at all. How can I even think of sex when I am older with such a horrific site? What do you suggest? Should I try get the right lip to match by doing the exact same to what I did with the left side? I sometimes get a throbbing pain out of the blue sometimes because there is so much.


Thank you for reading, I hope you can take this as serious as I can, as I have already been laughed out of a forum for asking the same question.


maybe you should (sorry if this is gross) pull the smaller one so it stretches so they can be equal. Or you can go to a gynocologist and he/she can do labia reduction to even them out. That cost between $500-$1500 I think.
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replied June 2nd, 2007
Labia Minora
i was just checking out cosmetic surgery sites before i found this forum..I have horribly protruding labia minora, they're dark and wrinkly and seriously just ugh. I knew my ex hadn't been with anyone before me so he couldn't compare me with others but now i'm dreading anyone else seeing me. There is a fairly simple cosmetic procedure but its a very scary thought! i was wondered if anyone has had it done and if so what was it like?I'm talking pain/ healing wise...i would really really appreciate an answer because my self esteem is taking an absolute battering. Sad
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replied June 2nd, 2007
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Have you seen many other vaginas?

Go ahead look around the internet. They come in all shapes, sizes, colors, wrinkles, loose, tight, hanging, pink, black, brown, hairy, shaved, etc, etc.

You might also notice that these pictures are from porn. Guys are paying for and getting aroused by pictures of what you think are ugly. You may think you're different, and maybe you are, but I've seen many girls with what you describe in pornographic photos.

Some guys even have a fetish for such things. Those fetishes often develop from having girlfriends with the same look. They get to love their girlfriends and all of their imperfections, and those imperfections become their fetishes.

I would never judge a partner because of the way her labia look. Everyone's different, no one decides what they get, and you are more than just your labia.

I'm not opposed to plastic surgery if it makes people feel better about themselves, but I think you'd find that nearly every man would accept and love you the way you are. Even the ones who have had partners before you to compare you to.
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replied June 2nd, 2007
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Hey there,
My labia is MASSIVE!! And very unequel. one side is way longer! I found this site and it stopped me having surgery and made me proud! My Z used to love them and my new chap finds them erotic! He loves my longer labia!
http://www.sexylabia.com/table_of_contents .htm
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replied June 2nd, 2007
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OK...i have long labia minoras too. and at first i was proud of them but now im so unsure. it really sucks becuase when you look at porn sites or whatever, its really hard to find a girl with larger lips. its like the industry pics only girls where the outter lips dont show the inner lips >Sad. like whats up witht that. then there was one porn clip i saw wherethis one girl did have larger lips than what you usually see in the movies and dthe title of the clip was called freak. ????
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replied June 2nd, 2007
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Yeah, but porn is so unrealistic. It's like, most porn shows girls with huge breasts, but who's to say that every guy likes big breasts?? So there will be some guys who do like your bigger labia, it's more to suck on/play with etc and some might be indifferent to it but as long as it's not causing you any health problems then why should you have to change your body just for someone else?? And like previous posters have said, a guy will just be so pleased to know that you are willing to give yourself to him (when you are ready of course) that he won't care about it, he'll just be glad he's actually seeing it. And if he does think it's weird/gross or anything, he's an immature !**@! and doesn't understand women's bodies.

If you do want to have surgery or whatever, do it for yourself, not for anyone else. Sorry if I;ve rambled a bit.
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replied June 3rd, 2007
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Right im letting you into a secret now. Im in the fetish and porn industry! The reason girls with large labia lips CANT be shown is because its considerd to hard core porn like a erect penis etc. The only place you will see them is in hard core porn vids. Its true! they once showd large labia lips in a mag and got a lot of probs from the editors as they were not aloud to show that hard core stuff! BUT its been proven it sells well and men want to see it. So dont worry!!! Its not that they dont want to show it its that they cant! Read that site i posted its real interesting. As said the industry i work in i get to see a lot and a LOT of women have larger labia lips, yeah some are small but not many woman have none existant ones out there lol.
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replied June 3rd, 2007
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i would just like to post to offer consolation to anyone who is self conscious about their labia. i too have big (or what i consider to be big) inner lips. over the years i have come to live with it much better.

i've had two boyfriends and neither of them thought it was unusual or weird. in fact i brought it up with my ex and he just seemed a little confused. what had made me so paranoid for years, he hadn't even really noticed and certainly wasn't disgusted by it!

I used to think that having neast, streamlined, short inner lips was the ideal, and was what men found attractive. i had it in my head that this is what 'porn star' vaginas looked like. but a few months back i was looking at a lot of porn from all sorts of different sites and was shocked, amazed and relieved to see that about 75% of the women in the videos had protruding inner lips. not all of them huge, but certainly noticeable. and this wasn't even fetish porn.

i think we girls must be much too hung up about our appearance down there. how often do you look at a guy and go "uuugh! one of your testicles is bigger than the other!!"? In the same way, it is totally normal for labia to vary a lot in size and shape, and for it to be asymmetrical. any man that looks at you and thinks you are ugly because of this is naive, mysogynistic, and frankly a jerk!

horrah for big wonky booty! Very Happy
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