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Q: Who's the Father??

asked by: pinkbutterfly20 on June 4th, 2005

Experienced User

Hi,

i am confused.. Im 24 weeks pregnant and im not sure who's the father is.. The last day of my last period was dec 18 2004.. And I had sex with 2 guys after that.. One was with my long lost highschool boyfriend ;) which I didnt see for 4 years and the other was my boyfriend.. I remember my hs bf releasing everything in me on dec 28 (which I know he did on purpose).. But I was still having sex with my boyfriend after that, until the next month (january) I found out I was pregnant.. I worry less when me and my boyfriend have sex bcoz he always pulls it out and we've been together for almost 2 years and we never slipped once.. (but we broke up weeks later =( )

but can it be possible he may have spilled some in me?? Now me and my hs bf are back together and I know it's easy to say he's the dad bcoz he actually did it.. But what confuses me is, he was also doing this back when we were highschool but I never got pregnant.. Plus, he said he also do this with his other past girlfriends and they never got pregnant either.. And now I just suddenly got pregnant.. Could it be my xbf of 2 years? =(

my mistake was, I should have made sure about everything first before I told everybody the news about me having a baby.. And now, everybody's expecting he's the father.. What if im wrong and turns out the other way?? Is it possible to have a dna test b4 the baby is born? Coz I read an article that drs can take a sample of the placenta and test it.. I dont want to consider abortion either.. I just want to have a peace of mind.. And I dont want my baby to have the last name of the mistaken father.. Please, can anybody give some advise??? Sorry it was kinda long..

Thanks,
kaela

Replies(77)

mom2trevor

replied on June 4th, 2005

Active User, very eHealthy

When did your dr tell you that you most likely conceived? You are just gonna have to wait unti the baby is born to find out who the father is. If you had unprotected sex with both of them around the same time then you are probably just gonna have to wait.

pinkbutterfly20

replied on June 4th, 2005

Experienced User

Hi thanks for replying..

I dont have that much choice right?? My doctor didnt ask me anything about when I conceived.. She just told me my due date which is september.. I wish I haven't told everybody yet until I was sure.. I guess I just gonna have to cross my fingers until I give birth.. :(

thanks,
kaela

babymamahr01

replied on June 5th, 2005

Experienced User

Put your last period date into a due date calculator and it says conception occured around saturday, january 1, 2005 and your due september 24th. Hope this helps some!

Laurianna

replied on June 9th, 2005

Experienced User

Trying to determine the conception date from the due date isn't really accurate or reliable. Not all women haver 28 day cycles, and even within a 28 days cycle, there is a three day window in which most people with a 28 days cycle ovulate.

Your problem isn't that you don't know who the father of your baby is. You're a promiscuous person, and I sincerely hope you grow up within the next few weeks and realize it's *not* acceptable or healthy to be with multiple men when a child is involved.

pinkbutterfly20

replied on June 9th, 2005

Experienced User

Know me personally before trying to make an inapt verdict to my grounds.. But I appreciate the "help"...

lil_blaze2004

replied on June 9th, 2005

Supporter

laurianna wrote:

trying to determine the conception date from the due date isn't really accurate or reliable. Not all women haver 28 day cycles, and even within a 28 days cycle, there is a three day window in which most people with a 28 days cycle ovulate.

Your problem isn't that you don't know who the father of your baby is. You're a promiscuous person, and I sincerely hope you grow up within the next few weeks and realize it's *not* acceptable or healthy to be with multiple men when a child is involved.

nice. This is a support forum. Learn some compassion. I'm sure she didn't say "i'm gonna sleep with 2 guys and get pregnant"

seksiHily

replied on June 9th, 2005

Active User, very eHealthy

There was no need to call her a promiscuous person.
Have you slept with more than one guy?
Then I guess you are too.

lil_blaze2004

replied on June 9th, 2005

Supporter

seksihily wrote:

there was no need to call her a promiscuous person.

Have you slept with more than one guy?

Then I guess you are too.

hey hil!! How's everything?

seksiHily

replied on June 9th, 2005

Active User, very eHealthy

Pretty good
signed up for college in the fall
u?

lil_blaze2004

replied on June 9th, 2005

Supporter

seksihily wrote:

pretty good
signed up for college in the fall
u?

good for u girl!!! Congrats!!!

Baby's due in 2 weeks and 1 day!!!!

Laurianna

replied on June 9th, 2005

Experienced User

Quote:

know me personally before trying to make an inapt verdict to my grounds.. But I appreciate the "help"...

i know that you slept with two guys within a small enough period of time to not know which impregnated you.

Quote:

this is a support forum.

support is more than telling someone they're okay, they're doing great, etc. Does anyone here think it would be acceptable for her to bring two guys around a once after she has a child to emotionally harm with it?

Quote:

have you slept with more than one guy?

yes, actually. However, I did it after taking an emotionally healthy break between relationships. I didn't randomly hook up with "some guy" and still stay with the first guy. On top of being dishonest and skanky, it was sexually risky behavior. I especially loved how you thought it was sad that your bf and you broke up after you messed another guy.

lil_blaze2004

replied on June 9th, 2005

Supporter

Hmm. Did she say that she was gonna bring 2 guys around after the baby was born?

Laurianna

replied on June 9th, 2005

Experienced User

lil_blaze2004 wrote:

hmm. Did she say that she was gonna bring 2 guys around after the baby was born?

this is from her original post:

Quote:

"my mistake was, I should have made sure about everything first before I told everybody the news about me having a baby"

so, sleeping with two guys isn't a mistake? She doesn't express any remorse that she put herself in this position to start with.

lil_blaze2004

replied on June 9th, 2005

Supporter

laurianna wrote:

lil_blaze2004 wrote:

hmm. Did she say that she was gonna bring 2 guys around after the baby was born?

this is from her original post:

Quote:

"my mistake was, I should have made sure about everything first before I told everybody the news about me having a baby"

so, sleeping with two guys isn't a mistake? She doesn't express any remorse that she put herself in this position to start with.

it still doesn't say that she's gonna bring two guys around.

As to the original post, yes there is a way for dna testing while pregnant but it's too late for you:

prenatal (before your child’s birth) dna testing:

amniocentesis: this test is performed in the second trimester, anywhere from the 14th-24th weeks of pregnancy. During this procedure, the doctor uses ultrasound to guide a thin needle into your uterus, through your abdomen. The needle draws out a small amount of amniotic fluid, which is tested. Risks include a small chance of harming the baby and miscarriage. Other side effects may include cramping, leaking amniotic fluid, and vaginal bleeding. A doctors consent is needed to do this procedure for paternity testing.
chrionic villus sampling (cvs): this test consists of a thin needle or tube which a doctor inserts from the vagina, through the cervix, guided by an ultrasound, to obtain chrionic villi. Chrionic villi are little finger like pieces of tissue attached to the wall of the uterus. The chrionic villi and the fetus come from the same fertilized egg, and have the same genetic makeup.This testing can be done earlier in pregnancy from the 10th-13th weeks. A doctors consent is needed to do this procedure for paternity testing.

http://www.Americanpregnancy.Org/adoption/ paternitytesting.Htmlmake sure to decapitilize the h in html.

And why even mention abortion, you are 24 weeks along, the only way youcould get an abortion now is if your life or the baby's life is in danger.

Laurianna

replied on June 9th, 2005

Experienced User

Quote:

t still doesn't say that she's gonna bring two guys around.

she didn't say she wasn't, either.

Also, abortions at 24 weeks aren't *that* hard to come by. Under us law, a women is entitled to an abortion for life or health reasons at any gestational age. That includes psychological and familial health.

lil_blaze2004

replied on June 9th, 2005

Supporter

Ya, life or health not cause she wants one. And I don;t live in the us so I don;t follow their laws.

Laurianna

replied on June 9th, 2005

Experienced User

Quote:

ya, life or health not cause she wants one. And I don;t live in the us so I don;t follow their laws.

well, then, maybe you better stick to getting tattoos and stop giving advice about us abortion law, hmm?

sxcgirl_me

replied on June 9th, 2005

Experienced User

Lauriana or watever ur name is, I think you should grow up and not judge people when you dont know them, how old are you? 12?

Thats how you act, life isn't high school so get over yourself,

and abortion at 24 weeks?

Gee I dont know about the laws in the us but in australia where I live, that's considered homicide, mostly because at that far along the baby does feel pain.

Look, things will work out no matter what happens, wether its your exes or current boyfriends baby, people will still love and support you so things will work out ok? :) hope this helps

sxcgirl_me

replied on June 9th, 2005

Experienced User

And by the way, do you know what they do to baby's at 24 weeks, they either stick a needle in ur cervix and burn the baby to death,

or they deliver the baby and then stab it in the head a couple of times til it dies,

or deliver it and just leave it in a bowl til it suffocates,

sounds like homicide to me

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