Should I Break Up With Him? Posted: 06-03-05 21:17pm
Hi, please someone help me. My boyfriend
is bipolar and he is going through a manic
phase righ now. We've been toguether for
10 months and lived toguether for 8.
We've been planning a trip to move to
europe since we met, he waited for me
patiently until I was sure about him, and
talking to my family about leaving,
leaving my job and selling my car. He
even moved first to europe and rented an
apartment and made everything confortable
for me when I arrived. In the last 2
weeks he was acting pretty weird, he also
started hanging out with this group of
friends that he knows they use him, but
that's another story. The thing is that
he ended being robbed in budapest, with no
passport or car now. He called me after
dissapearing for a week, he told me he
cheated on me and was sorry and that he
loved me so much but for my own good we
could't be toguether for now. He interned
himself in a clinic in budapest, we can't
have comunication until the doctors tell
him he is ready again to face the worlds
problems. Please someone help, I am dying
here waiting for him to call. My family
and friends say I should forget him and
keep going on with my life and if he comes
back I should not talk to him. But I love
him and he was a really good person all
this months we were toghether, I was at
the hospital and that man took care of me
like no one would had done, except my
family of course. He said he will call
when he was ready, when doctors say. What
should I tell him?? Help!!
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Macias
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Hi Posted: 08-18-05 01:04am
I think that i'm in the same situation
like you, my bf has bipolar disorder,
today he told me that he doesn't know what
to do toward me, he told me that he has to
come to meet my father for engagement, I
told him as u like... He's still studying
and I know that we should wait until he
finish his studies and so on, but he told
me so. After word he told me the opposite
thing which is he can no longer be with me
coz he's feeling that he's abusing me and
hurting me ( how? I don't know) anyway I
wasn't shocked because i'm used to hear so
from him when he's depressed, and when
he's in his stable mood, he doesn't
remember that he told me anything about
breaking up. Anyway this time, i'm
shocked from another thing, he told me
that he cheated on me from a long time in
the beginning of our relationship :( I
don't know what to do seriously, i'm in
love with him, I overcomed many things
since the beginning, he hurts me a lot
when in depression... I wanna continue
with him, he told me that he'll never
cheat on me again. ( I think he was in
mania when he did it, and he's telling it
to me now coz he's in depression right
now, and wants ofcourse to feel guilty).
I'm totally confused really.
Can someone explain to me how and why the
bipolar person cheats on the one he's
loving?
