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GirlRacer2005
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I Lost My Baby 4years Ago And And Im Worried My Ex Will Talk
Posted: 06-02-05 18:36pm
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Please help me!!
I got pregnant at 13, 4years a go and I
lose my baby at 5months pregnant. I told
my ex boyfriend because he was asking
questions. He's got a new girlfriend and
im really really scared that he will tell
her. He promised me he wont say nothing.
And also every time I hear people talk
about babies I get really upset. Im
16years old now do you think I should
leave it in the past or not?
Please help me
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your_wish
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Hey!
Posted: 06-02-05 19:17pm
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I got pregnant when I was 14 and well my
story was kind of different I guess
because well I had an abortion. My
boyfriend (at the time) wasnt willing to
be by my side and be down for me so well
today I still remember that day at the
clinic and well I dont think that I could
ever get over that when I lost my baby I
totally feel for you girl and I dont think
that you will ever be able to forget about
that. Thats like a scar that stays with
you forever.
Now im pregnant and well im 16 me and my
boyfriend are very happy about the whole
situation. But today I found out he went
to jail for probation of probation. So
thruthfully I dont know what will happen
now!!! :-] good luck!
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GirlRacer2005
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Posted: 06-03-05 05:12am
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Thank you, good luck with your new baby!
Do you fink that my ex will talk? So is
it normal that we cannot get over losin
our babies? But we will be able to get on
in life, like we have new boyfriends and
other children. When you have this child
are you going to say that you had
abortion?
Thank you so much with your help!!!!
(sorry about all the questions)
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lil_blaze2004
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Posted: 06-03-05 09:52am
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Why are you so worried he will talk?
Even if he does, it's not like you did
something wrong, a miscarriage is in god's
hands it's nothing to be ashamed of.
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GirlRacer2005
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Posted: 06-03-05 12:45pm
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I don't know, I just blame myself for what
happened. Yeah your right, thank you
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lil_blaze2004
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Posted: 06-03-05 15:28pm
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| girlracer2005
wrote: | | i don't know, I just blame
myself for what happened. Yeah your
right, thank
you |
don't blame yourself for a miscarriage
unless you were punching yourself in the
stomach or something. A lot of women go
through miscarriages. I had 2, at 16 and
19. I'm 25 now and expecting my first
child in 3 weeks!
Even if he does talk, no one would look
down on you. Don;t stress about it.
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steen
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Posted: 06-03-05 16:26pm
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It is actually more common to miscarriage
than to give birth, but most happen within
the first couple of weeks. Another wave
of miscarriages happen about half-way
through, often per hormone irregularities.
Neither is something you have control
over. You are no more guilty of
miscarrying than you are for getting
thyroid disease or asthma.
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mom2trevor
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Re: I Lost My Baby 4years Ago And And Im Worried My Ex Will
Posted: 06-03-05 22:44pm
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| girlracer2005
wrote: | please help me!!
I got pregnant at 13, 4years a go and I
lose my baby at 5months pregnant. I told
my ex boyfriend because he was asking
questions. He's got a new girlfriend and
im really really scared that he will tell
her. He promised me he wont say nothing.
And also every time I hear people talk
about babies I get really upset. Im
16years old now do you think I should
leave it in the past or not?
Please help
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i'm sorry that you have had to go through
something so stressful. I agree with
everyone...It is not your fault and you
can't blame yourself for it.
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sandyallen
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Posted: 06-03-05 23:27pm
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You need to let it go, sometimes things
happen for a reason and we do not always
know the reason. You need to forgive
yourself and move on and if you need help
look up emdr, it has helped a lot of
people with situations.
Sincerely,
sandy
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jessamyn
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Posted: 06-04-05 00:14am
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What will it effect if he tells his new
gf? And why would he anyways?
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GirlRacer2005
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Posted: 06-04-05 01:59am
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Thank you everyone for all your help!
Im not sure what it will effect. He may
not even tell her.
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your_wish
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Posted: 06-09-05 13:24pm
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| girlracer2005
wrote: | thank you, good luck with
your new baby!
Do you fink that my ex will talk? So is
it normal that we cannot get over losin
our babies? But we will be able to get
on in life, like we have new boyfriends
and other children. When you have this
child are you going to say that you had
abortion?
Thank you so much with your help!!!!
I dont know your ex so personally I cant
tell you if he will talk. Or not. Yes it
is so not normal for you to get over it.
caca I dont know I never could. But as in
for now im so happy caca is going on so
good. But I just hope that it will last
my boyfriend knows about my previous
abortions. And your welcome girl!!
(sorry about all the
questions) |
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2Boys4Us
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Posted: 06-09-05 22:23pm
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If he tells anyone after 4 years, and
that's a problem to them, he's dating
crazy people. Everyone has a past, and
you have a right to yours. Everyone in
the world has skeletons in their closet.
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madisons_mommy
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Posted: 06-13-05 23:34pm
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| sandyallen
wrote: | you need to let it go,
sometimes things happen for a reason and
we do not always know the reason. You
need to forgive yourself and move on and
if you need help look up emdr, it has
helped a lot of people with situations.
Sincerely,
sandy |
have you ever experienced the loss of a
child through miscarriage? If not, then
you cannot possible know what you are
talking about. You cannot just "let it
go!" that baby was not only a human
being, but your child as well, and that is
something that you will never and should
never allow yourself to forget. I'm not
saying you should walk around depressed
all the time, but it is impossible to make
yourself forget about the death of your
own baby.
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