Hun the most important thing is you, you need to take care of yourself because if you get any worse you will be no use to your husband. Some people don't have an understanding of eating disorders and we can't blame them really because only the people that go through it are the ones who really understand and that is even difficult at times.
I really would not recommend a 12 step programe for many reasons, I know some people who have done that and it didn't work at all because after a few months they went back to the way the were before hand.
I think the inpatient programe is the best option because there are family sessions which are involved in it and that would help your husband to have a better understanding of what your going through.
You do deserve to get better and to be happy and if that means taking time of work then you should do that, in the long run its the better option. You are worth so much more then your eating disorder, you are not your behaviour.
I would take your parents and doctors advice, they care for you alot and want the best for you.
Think of it this way, if you don't get help now you could get so much worse that there could come a point when you cannot work because you are just too sick and then you don't have a chose you would be really stuck then, I think its better to get help now because it will come around sooner or later.
Recovery is possible and you will get through this to live a very happy and fulfilling life, you deserve that, you are worth that.
Put yourself first and its not being selfish its being realistic, you deserve to get better and to live a healthy life, don't let this eating disorder take over your life, don't let it hold you back from truley being happy.
I wish you the best of luck and I really hope that you make the right decision for you, its your choice as you will be the one who will be affected the most ok.
Write to me anytime and take care of yourself

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I appreciate your advice. I called the recommended hospital earlier this afternoon. They asked many questions and said that they would get back to me tomarrow (the woman taking my answers was not a psychiatrist). If I am serious about this, I have to go to my family doctor and get some blood work done and enroll within days after they are sent results. A friend just came over and offered support about how I really need to do this for me. I'll check with my hr person tomarrow to make sure that I am eligible for medical leave. There are people at work who have been concerned and my boss has mentioned it, but I don't think that he really knows. I hope this can work. I hope that my husband can understand too.

There is an organization called overeaters anonymous. They deal with all types of eating disorders ~ bulimia, compulsive eating, anorexia. I am anorexic but found the oa meetings helpful.

I was also in treatment at remuda ranch in arizona. It's a 6-week residential program, very spiritual as well as helpful for the physical & psychological parts of anorexia. Insurance may cover you.

Good luck! Get help! Your husband has no idea (lucky for him)how hard this disease is to beat. I've been fighting for 30 years (since I was a kid). I haven't given up yet but it's still tough!

I think that I have the abbreviation right: anorexia and related disorders. It meets once per week in a nearby city. I found it helpful. It is sort of thereputic when people voice the same thoughts and feelings that i've been feeling. It is easier to challenge negative thoughts when they come from someone else beating themselves up like I do. It was really amazing how much my struggles are similiar to these other women.
I also went to my doctor. She was concerned that I lost more weight. She is going to have one of her staff look into programs that my insurance will pay for (it turns out that my insurance won't pay for the recommended program) and/or closer to home.

Psychotherapy is an integral part of the treatment for panic attack. Support is given to the patient to eliminate extreme fearfulness and the feeling of something bad is going to happen. Sometimes, psychotherapy is enough as a treatment for panic attack. However, since the cause of panic attacks in most patients is not clear, treatment varies from person to person. And in some, psychotherapy alone may not be sufficient to eliminate the disorder.