Some of the symptoms of someone being bipolar are mood swings. One minute they are happy love life and the next minute they fly off the handle and think the whole world is crashing down on them. Some times they will want to be by themselves in their house for days and not have any contact with the out side world. They may loose interest in the things they once loved to do and simply not want to do anything. Just want to sleep until the pain goes away. If your boyfriend is happy one moment and goes into a rage the next, there is a very good chance that there is something wrong with him and if he is willing, a trip to the doctors will clear everything up. He is the one that has to want to go though. Maybe if you ask him that you are very concerned about him and that you want nothing more than to have a great relationship with him he may consider it. Living with someone like that is no cup of tea and perhaps if he is not willing to help himself, you should consider breaking it off cause it will only get worse as time goes on. The more comfortable he gets with you in a relationship, the more apt he is to have major mood swings cause he knows you'll stick around anyways. It can be very exausting dealing with someone like that and takes a whole lot of patients!!!!

Good luck

My boyfriend is bipolar, and I feel like I am putting bipolar in a bad lite

i just have been through heck with my bf , I did not understand for so long

i was ignorant to this. I still do not fully understand why the brain does what it does,

because one hour things could be wonderful,simple,"noraml"
just watching leno and then conan laid back
renting movies, eating popcorn

or we could be at a theme park having great silly fun
kissing here and there

go hiking enjoying nature, the clouds, the sunset

and then other moments, of me asking a teenager a question about a product and my bf goes off the handle, saying I was parading around him
i am an adult,and have no interest in this kid, I was simply asking a question

my bf would create all these outrageous scenerios, it was unbelievable
he would forget alot of things, he is not old,

i would be patient, I wish I saw the red flags eariler, but I had nothing to base this on, it was all new territority.

He thought I went around in the neighborhood and was a prostitute
( I never cheated on him)

he would look in my garbage can, he would look in my purse
once I had a business card with a hotel name on it
it also happened to have a male name on it, the manager or assistant manager of the hotel
and he freaked out!

I had the darn business card, because we stayed there, and went out to go to the clubs, drink, and I wanted the address of the place in case I was too buzzed to remember it
and I kept the darn card in my purse a long time, so I could write on the back of it, if I needed something to write on quickly

jeez

and the outrageous scenerious would go on and on

i would call him silly on other things, because the positives outwayed the negatives
and then it got worse

and I said, despite all the positive aspects, this is unhealthy and crazy
and I had to let it go

and now he is filling up my email mailbox with mean things about me
and he has done far worse things to me

i pray for my safety, and he will just let me go
i did not lead him on, I told him, we have no future together

i suppose he is in denial

maybe he never loved me, I was just his obession or a fantasty
i really fell in love with him though, he has no money, nothing really to give me, he was a great person, really romantic and sweet to me for a long period, he treated me like a princess for a long while
i was so proud of him, I went back to school, and he bought me some school supplies, he got excited with me,buying me healthy food
to have in the morning, as he told me good luck on my placement tests

where is this guy, what hapened to him?
It breaks my heart, I feel so sick to my stomach

his dr, said he has bipolar
i wonder if something more is going on

life is so bitter sweet, :cry:

anyone who read this all, bless your heart!
I am going through a crisis, the worst thing ever in my life
thank you for 'listening'
may life be sweet and wonderous to you. :)

Hey I was reading your post and it reminds me of situations with my boyfriend. Even though hes never told me hes bipolar I found some depakote pills so im assuming its true.
The moodiness is very familiar to me. He hasnt been too accusing but he has made comments jokingly about me being with someone else and one night when I missed his call he called like 10 times in a little over an hour. When my phone rings he goes off about it but its ok when his does late at night...
I feel like our relationship has gone down hill at times and then other times it seems perfect. I just never know whether it will be a day that he likes me or hates me.
Is there really any good advice on how to deal with him when he gets in these moods? I wanna stay with him cuz even though sometimes I dont know how he feels about me I love him.

My partner is bipolar. Yes his moods hurt but, just think about where his head space is at to be going through this.....
When ever my boyfriend goes through and episode I just have to grit my teeth and bear it because without him id be nothing, our love is so much stronger than this condition! If he is on his meds and they are the right meds for him.... Treating bipolar is not written in stone it can take a long time to get the right treatment, the sideeffects from the drugs can be horrible, just admitting that this condition effects them can be harder than youd ever imagine. So I know that it gets better. Its not a case of drugging someone up till it goes away, its the right doctor, support groups, family support to treat this condition. He is the most loving and sensitive partner ive ever had. I guess it just takes time and education. If you love them find out more about it, talk to people who know things about it....Research it. All I know is it helped me. Not understaning it makes it seem so much bigger and badder.

right I couldn't of said it better my self. Us bipolars are not bad you just have to give us a chance. Also normal mood swings are not bipolar.
Everyone has mood swings.. How long does his mood swings last? Is his mood swings effecting his family life,work, and friendship?
Why don't you just ask his parents if you can, or keep a track off when he seems down and when he seems up and how long they last.
Everyone has ups and downs.. It depend on how long the mood swings last .

Four years ago my fiance fell in love with a 51 year old woman who is bipolar. For 10 years she had been having an affair with a local architect and when he finally told her that it was over it brought on the depressed part of her cycle. P.... Became more and more drawn to her helplessness and decided to leave me and the children. He had known her for years but it was only now that he was involved that he found out how destructive manic-depression was. Her son and daughter (now 23 and 29) revealed a childhood of continual abuse. She would lock her daughter upstairs for days and her younger brother would have to smuggle up food. They would regularly be punched in the face and physically abused and they got to recognise the cycles. 1. Depression 2. Increased self-confidence working up to manic stage. 3.Uncontrollable mania. 4.Going to bed with anyone willing 5. Getting a pet to love stage.....Because everybody had been alienated by now. 5. Depression and restart of cycle. We are now in the pet stage. During the manic stage she attacked p... Twice, nearly removing his eye with her nails.(no joke), accused him of rape, screamed obscenities in the street at other women calling them b.....S, and repeatedly tells her children they should have been aborted. She has to control everything and everyone and when sex, lies eg: (tells people she is dying of cancer) all fail she turns very violent. Pills are no good...She refuses to take them and the local mental health team can do nothing without her consent, so their hands are tied. P... Has had to face the fact that the relationship she promised him never existed, her children have been forced to disown her and the biggest tragedy of all.......She knows she is bipolar.

I have been dating my boyfriend for 4 years now, the mood swings are so severe that he has stood over my bed and yelled and screamed,never hitting me but intimadation,negative results,calling me names,control issues,,when liquor is involved,and if he's mad about something,its even worse,,then he acts like in a couple of days, we should be getting over it,,,,i cannot stand this contol behavior,he is seeking counceling but i never know when the next time it will happen,,,sometimes i cannot even ask him a question in fear he will go off with anger,,i know he has anger issues and we have broken up before,,,i am at the stage now,,i am falling out of love with him because of the verbal abuse, he gets viloent and i want to break up again,he says he will try meds,which i am glad buti am scared of him when he is mad,,,he does get in my face and shakes his finger and verbally abuses me....i need help,,,so sad in il.