Can no one even offer me an opinion on the matter?

I lost a long response, so i'll summarize...
---you're over 35 your risk of blood clots on bcp is high
---the bcp you're on is basically hrt (hormone replacement therapy), hrt is associated with higher risk of heart disease, reproductive cancers, and in older women bcp usage is tied in with a certain type of liver tumor
---your ovaries age out independent of bcp
----your eggs accumulate chromosomal damage by a certain age, you can conceive but your risk of miscarriage from trisomies, downs, is very high
---you may want to wean yourself off bcp (your hrt) because the current thesis on hrt is "lowest dose shortest time"...Try skipping every other day, no need to menstruate (no sugar pills), or take half a day, or work to a quarter, or try a patch or half or quarter a patch, whatever makes you feel ok...Until you're off, it's a short term bandaid, it's not going to preserve eggs nor ovaries, but you need another bc method as long as you think you'd be otherwise menstruating
---you may have some withdrawal as your ovaries shutting down is simply being masked by the exogenous hormones, you just put off the inevitable a bit
===remember menopause in other cultures is no deal (not even a big deal, it's a nothing)...It's relief from reproductive issues, it's the end of an era, it's supposed to be this way for humans, imagine getting pregnant at 60 like an orangutan can (in their years) it's ok, don't overreact to your receptors adjusting to lower estrogen and screaming at you over it, you'll survive it even if you suffer a little along the way, your fat cells produce estrone (why meno women get bellies) and this will help you into your golden years

i keep hearing this here, which culture are you referring to? All women suffer the same biological time clock and i'm sure the physical symptoms are the same. Perhaps in some less developed countries, they do not have gynaecologists, pharmacies, or education to tell them exactly what is happening.

In some cultures, women problems are not to be discussed in pubic perhaps, but its still a pain when one undergoes menopause. They just don't make a fuss about it.

Ok ladies, this one hits home for me and being a man, I would appreciate a professional opinion especially from the female gender which certainly deserves a degree of expertise. Now here's the question(s):

my wife (a registered nurse) filed for a divorce one year ago and we did battle in court until recently. We have two beautiful childred (boy/girl twins). These kids were planned not oops born only after fertility treatments and seven months of her being confined to the bed by her obgyn since she had troubles carrying in the past resulting in miscarriage in the early stages.

Some months into what became the "war of the roses" I decided that it might be a good idea to get a vasectomy. I knew I would be dating after the divorce and I could see my life could get complicated especially for my two children because of an unplanned pregnancy with another person who may also prove incompatible.

To make it short we attempted a reconcilliation that is not working no matter how hard I try and comply to her demand$. Upon my return to the marital domicile she asked me to go by her pharmacy and pay for and retrieve her 'scripts. I was surprised to see the prescription was birth control pills. We had not had sex in over a year and not much before then. Further, she knew of my vasectomy since I put the bill on her health insurance provided by her employer.

When questioned she replied it was only for harmonal purposes to regulate her period. Don't they make other pills for that? Finally, if someone were to put a gun to your head and ask you to answer correctly or die and the question was: is she screwing around on me? What would be your answer?

Ok ladies, this one hits home for me and being a man, I would appreciate a professional opinion especially from the female gender which certainly deserves a degree of expertise. Now here's the question(s):

my wife (a registered nurse) filed for a divorce one year ago and we did battle in court until recently. We have two beautiful childred (boy/girl twins). These kids were planned not oops born only after fertility treatments and seven months of her being confined to the bed by her obgyn since she had troubles carrying in the past resulting in miscarriage in the early stages.

Some months into what became the "war of the roses" I decided that it might be a good idea to get a vasectomy. I knew I would be dating after the divorce and I could see my life could get complicated especially for my two children because of an unplanned pregnancy with another person who may also prove incompatible.

To make it short we attempted a reconcilliation that is not working no matter how hard I try and comply to her demand$. Upon my return to the marital domicile she asked me to go by her pharmacy and pay for and retrieve her 'scripts. I was surprised to see the prescription was birth control pills. We had not had sex in over a year and not much before then. Further, she knew of my vasectomy since I put the bill on her health insurance provided by her employer.

When questioned she replied it was only for harmonal purposes to regulate her period. Don't they make other pills for that? Finally, if someone were to put a gun to your head and ask you to answer correctly or die and the question was: is she screwing around on me? What would be your answer?

I am going through a rough menopause and was put on bc pills to help regulate my hormones to get through it. This method works very well for many women and is often prescribed, so in other words, don't make any assumptions.

I'm 46 and going through some hard times with my pre-menopause. I heard about bio identical creams for hormone replacement therapy. I've never taken hormones or birth control pills because of the risk's however I'm willing to try anything.

Today I thought I was seeing a specialist for hormone replacement because over the phone I was told she specialized in it. Instead she recommended birth control pills to stop my period because my period might be what is making me tired.

She said to have hormones properly checked you need to conduct a 30 day sylivia test which is very expensive. She also said she does do this type of testing. Can anyone recommend a excellent natropathic medicine doctor in Seattle or surrounding areas? I don't care how much it cost.

Or should I try the birth control pills first to see if it will help my mood, weight gain, tiredness, and memory issues?

I don't care about not having periods in fact I don't mind them, it's just every thing else I'm trying to improve on. I'm more concerned about making the best decision for myself.

You may want to 'Ask the Doctor" at the top of the page on this...I just don't have enough knowledge to advise you on this...Good luck......

Caroline