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Q: a Few Questions
asked by: mandywib on May 27th, 2005
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Ok, I was wondering if my mom found out that my boyfriend and I were having sex if she could press charges. He is going to be 20 and I just turned 16. I read something that said as long as I was 16 and he was under 21 it was legal. Is that the truth. I mean its my body, I should be able to make the decision, and its my choice to say yes so its not like hes raping me or something.

~~~~just another question~~~~~

im on the pill (my mom took me to the gyno because my periods were all crazy) and the gyno put me on the pill because of that...And the added fact that im having sex. Anyways I take my pill when I wake up, it is normally at a different time every day, but its never that different...Maybe 45 minutes or so. Should I change the time to where I take it the same time every day? And if I do change the time, will it effect the effectiveness of the pill?
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hailstorm
replied on May 27th, 2005
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If He Is Over 18 It Is Considered Illegal Until You Are 18
No offense but maybe your not doing the right thing if is against the law. Not even you and want you want now is above the law.
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mandywib
replied on May 27th, 2005
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Different States
In the state I live in you are considered of legal age when you are 17 for girls...So one more year and my mom couldnt do anything right?
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hailstorm
replied on May 27th, 2005
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Legally She Is You Gaurdian Until You Are Out On Your Own ..
You could be 30 living at home but until you provide for yourself her rules of the house need to be respected because its her house. If you don't like it move out otherwise make your life alot easier and follow the rules. They are just protecting you and you will regret doing what you think is so important now anyway. I had to learn the hard way too. But a guy is just a guy until he marries you. Focus on things that are more important your education and your interests. The stats are against you that this guy is the one regardless of your emotions. Guys can be a deterrant from knowing yourself and setting goals and dreams. You will be glad you focused more on yourself then arguing with a parent(s) that are just looking at your own interest and your career. You do know that 50% of pregancys are not planned its so shocking to girls when they get pregant and all of a sudden the guy they thought loved them have nothing to do with you and want you to have an abortion! A true guy is someone who wants you to have good relations with your family ( they are the ones afterall that will be there for you to the end) and for you to grow mentally and spirituallly and forcused on your career. Plus he should be focused on his career he will have to provide for a family soon so is he going to school, serious about his studies or is he wasting his time fooling around? You'll bllink and youll be older wondering what you did with your life. Hope this will help give you a reallity check. I sure needed one at your age.
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steen
replied on May 28th, 2005
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In many states, if he is more than 3 years older than you are, esp if he is over 18, then it is considered statutory rape, and you can almost be certain that if you end up pregnant, he gets sent to jail.

And most likely he already knows this.
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mandywib
replied on May 29th, 2005
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There Is Going to Be No More of That
Yesterday, after reading the post that I have been left, I told him that although I did love him, we don't have to have sex to prove that to each other, and he fully understands. I told him that it wasn't worth him getting in trouble over, and if we love each other as much as we say we do, than we can wait like we should have done in the first place. Even though I am on the pill and he wears a condom, i'm sure not ready to be a mom yet and not having sex is the only fool proof plan when it comes to that. And I am glad that he understands.
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MissShortie
replied on May 29th, 2005
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I am really glad to hear that he was suportive and it wasnt just all about the sex to him. I can understand what kind of position your in. I met my boyfriend when I was 15, and he was 19 almost 20, I had a lot of issues with the 'males' in my family not approving, thinking he was just trying to get in my pants and leave me. I did wait a long time before actually even dating him, and then waited a while before having sex with him too, and his friend always told him how if he got me pregnant hed go to jail and everything. Thank god though that my mother likes him and allowed us to be together, (i live with my mom not dad) now I am 17 and my bf is 21, and he now lives with me. It is very important for your family to be supportive and just give it time, don't rush into anything too crazy, all my family, including the 'males' brothers and dad now like my bf they just needed to be sure he wasnt using me and I wasnt going to get hurt.(just protecting me like family should) and we've proved our love and have stayed strong together through a lot of tough times, so I am telling you just because everyone doesnt approve don't give it up like that, but just take your time, and be sure to keep your own independence. Best of luck.

Oh ps! You should be taking your pill at the same time every day, yeah 45 min. Isnt much but I try to take mine right on the dot everyday, more on time you are, the better protection :)
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mandywib
replied on May 30th, 2005
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Same Thing
That is the exact situation I am in. My b/f is exactally to the day 3 yrs and 10 months older than me. My b-day is april 24, his is june 24. My mom loves him. And next year I have full intentions of moving in with him. I know he loves me and is not going to hurt me, just because of the stuff he has stuck out with me. I think my mom realizes that too, but it's gonna take time for her to fully trust him as much as I do. You are alot of help "missshortie" and I am glad that you fully understand my situation instead of being like other people and telling me that I need to realize that it's not going to work out and stuff. Thank you!..Oh...And what do you think the best time to take the pill is....And when I change my time...Will it make me sick in any way?
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MissShortie
replied on May 30th, 2005
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Um if you change it to a time thats close to the time your taking it now, it shouldnt be to harsh, and I take mine at 7pm, but I have an alarm that goes off on my cell phone everyday at 7pm to remind me, otherwise id always forget! So you need to have some type of alarm system, a good time to take it is all up to you when you wake up is good but you need to set a time your going to wake up (if its too early one day wake up take your pill then go back to sleep) I am really glad I was of help, it is possible to be young and find the one you love, my sister got married at 17 and she said it was a tough ride, but they got through it and now have children and everything, they waited like 6 to 8 years after being married to have their first child, and her husband is a few years older so he was in his 20's when they got married.(they are in their late 20's and early 30's now) just really try hard to keep your independence, its so easy to get comfortble and want to do everything he does, but try to still have your own things going on, cause if it doesnt work out you dont want to feel like youve lost your whole life or something. So be good stay out of trouble, and enjoy the love :)
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MissShortie
replied on May 30th, 2005
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How funny also my bday is april 29th, we are both taurus's :)
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mandywib
replied on May 31st, 2005
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That Is Neat
That is neat that we are or have gone through almost the exact situation and we are both taurus's. :) I guess that kinda says something about taurus's.
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