Afraid I Might Not Want It? Posted: 05-23-05 04:02am
Hi,
i am now 12 weeks pregnant and I keep
having awful thoughts about not wanting
the baby, going through labour and the mid
wife saying would you like to hold it?
And me saying no. Has anyone else felt
this way?
I've heard of women getting a little
scared, and thinking they dont even want
their baby. But I think it's normal, it
may be the nervousness....Unless you have
reasons why you wouldn't want your
baby....
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Mariebaby
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Apr 2005 Posts: 13 Location: N.Ireland
Posted: 05-23-05 10:34am
Nowi don't have a reason me and the father
both really love each other very much and
we have been together for four years. I
just feel that I won't love it that I
don't want it and I 'll not care for it in
the way I should. I feel this almost to
the point of being sick and i'm getting
worried so much that muy mind won't change
and I won't want it?? Does anyone know
why this is?
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katie_33
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Apr 2005 Posts: 172
Posted: 05-23-05 13:18pm
mariebaby
wrote:
nowi don't have a reason me
and the father both really love each other
very much and we have been together for
four years. I just feel that I won't
love it that I don't want it and I 'll not
care for it in the way I should. I feel
this almost to the point of being sick and
i'm getting worried so much that muy mind
won't change and I won't want it?? Does
anyone know why this
is?
I have not felt that
way.. In the beigin when I first found
out I was alittle scared and didn't know
if I was ready for a baby.. But now I
can't wait until I see my little baby and
hold him for the first time. Hopefully
your feelings will change.... Good luck
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angel505
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 May 2005 Posts: 5 Location: Glasgow
Normal... Posted: 05-23-05 13:59pm
I think it's really normal to be scared
when you become pregnant. I had all the
same worries during my first 3 months.
Even though millions of women have babies
all the time, its still a massive deal
when it happens to you!
Did you know that your hormones are all
over the place during the first trimester
and that its likely that they will settle
down during the second?
That could be contributing towards your
feelings of not living up to your
expections when the baby comes along.
I had a friend who, throughout her entire
pregnancy didn't want her baby at all.
She was adament that she wouldn't love it
or be able to all the normal mum stuff
when it came along. But when it was born
(about 6 weeks ago) she just knew what to
do, held her baby straight away and now
says she wouldn't change it for the
world!
I hope the above has helped a little.
Good luck, rest as much as possible and
take care.
