Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 yrs. And before him I would have a few orgasms... But now when I cum... I leave puddles, like you. And its great I can't even count hom many times I cum. I have learned to sort of control how much comes out of me when I cum, I let a little out and after my boyfriend cums I go to the bathroom and drain it all out, I know its gross but it saves me from washing my sheets every night when we have sex.

It's nice to know it's not just me. I guess the real problem is that my boyfriend is very uncomfortable about it. For some ungodly reason he thinks that i'm peeing on him (that would be very gross). This is new to both of us. I've been trying to reassure him of the fact that i'm not doing that but I really do not think he believes me completely. Can I ask you what you do to control this? I know it's really personal so you don't have to tell me if you're uncomfortable. I could really use any advise though as it is starting to affect not only our relationship and sex life but also my self easteem. I don't think I can hear one more time "would you stop that already? Or "i think you may have some serious problems going on." I love him to death and so do my children but i'm not sure how much more I can take and still be happy. I don't want to break up with him over something like this and to tell the truth I just don't think I can handle any more comments. My marriage had been both physically and verbally abusive so it took me a long time to get this close to anyone again. To my baoyfriend's credit he has none of these negative factors he just does not (or at least had not) always realize that I take these comments to heart many times but have a lot of problems talking about feelings etc. Etc.

I understand that what you are experiencing is a massive female ejaculation. The woman's body in some cases can produce secretions similar to that of a man; however, there is no reproductive value to your ejeculations. There is no "cure" of sorts that I am aware of. The best idea is to discuss the issue with your boyfriend. If he feels uncomfortable about contuing after you have had an orgasm and are "soaking," then try to have an orgasm first, with a vibrator or oral stimulation. Does the majority of the secretion happen before, durring, or after your orgasm? As long as you are not too sensitive after orgasm, you should be able to "cum" first, clean up somewhat, then engage in intercourse so he can acheive an orgasm. Make sure that you discuss that with him before hand so he doesn't feel cheated out of his orgasm. Let me know what esle I can help you with. If this all fails, make an appointment with your gynecologist and bring him along. Ask him/her to explain what you body is going thought when this happens.

Thanks for the info. I have talked to him tonight about it. He is still very uncomfortable about the whole situation. He said to tell you it is about a pint (i think this is an exageration) it is acidic, with a strong odor. He also said it is very clear and thin. Niether of us agrees that my having an orgasim first will help due to the fact that in the last 6 months (we've been together for about a year) this was not even an issue in the first few months of or sex life as it did not occur. I continually have more orgasims each time we make love. (last time he counted apporox. 8. He also said to tell you that he is 40 years old and it takes a long time for him to cum. We always have to make sure we have at least an hour where free before we can do anything. I on the other hand do not need this much time but fully enjoy it. It's not like I get bored or impatient by any means. His solution is to give him a nobber every time and forget all about having good old fashioned sex in any other form. This is not something I am willing to do. An occassional nobber yes...Nobber only no.


If anyone has an opinion or solution or even a comment please let me know.

This is probably not the answer that you want to hear, but you should schedule an appointment with your gynocologist to see if you have a physical changes that might have resulted in this new condition. The gyno will examinue you and if there is nothing wrong, will probably refer you to a sexual psychologist. I think that this will help in your situation. Good luck.

Jason
thanks for all of your advise. This weekend we worked the problem out. I took the advise on one of the other postings about the washcloth. We also decided to experiment with venue. Making out in the car after our date night (one night a month with no kids for 24 hours). We put the passenger seat back got a little frisky and I rode home with nothing on but my high heels.....Anyway we broke in the garage with some oral... Than got a blanket and made love on the trampoline in a light rain....Very romantic. By the time we made it to the bedroom he was rearing to go again. Anyway I need to go............Thanks again

I am glad that it worked out ok. Good luck in the future!

I am 17 turning 18 years old this year and I have a question that really buggs me. I don't know when I am cumming only it just feels like I am producing a little enough for easy motion. I know when he cums, but I don't know when I do. My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a month now, and I was his first and he says it turns him on when I do but sometimes I lie, the truth is I don't know, omeone please tell me when they know when they are cumming or producing enough vaginal fluids.

trust me, you'll know when you have an orgasim. Its not about producing vaginal fluids or being wet because that will typically happen during foreplay or during sex. If you're producing enough for it to be easy then thats enough. If you don't feel like you are then you can use lubrication (or spit, that works too). But don't worry about the cumming part. You're young and it doesn't always happen as easily for some girls. And it might not be an issue with you but your boyfriend just isn't hitting the right spot. My advice would be to try masturbating or using a vibrator and figure out what works for you. Once you've figured that out, tell your boyfriend what you want him to do. But when you have an orgasim or cum, you'll know it.