For a lot of people, having an eating disorder has nothing to do with being thin. For some it does, but for most, it has nothing to do with it. I would rather have a man who liked me as I was, than one who placed judgement on me or wanted me to bear him children. Most men do prefer thin women though if you want to be honest here. Not all, and I agree why would you want a man who only was interested in you because of your body, but the majority of men do want a woman with a rock hard body and big perky boobs. Not sickly thin though! Everyone should just be happy with what they have, or work with what they have in a healthy way. Eat healthy and excercise and your body will become what it is suppose to be.
Not everyone lives their lives according to what men (or the opposite sex) prefer. I personally couldn't care less what men in general like or are attracted to.
Having an eating disorder is like having depression or anxiety or any other illness. You don't choose to have it and in a lot of cases it isn't influenced by a magazine or someone's standards. Magazines and society may influence crash dieting, but for the most part they have nothing to do with eating disorders. But, they also influence what a lot of men find attractive in a woman. Not only do they influence what girls think they should look like, but they also influence what men think women should look like.
But, that is never going to go away. I see no problem with wearing the latest fashions, or perfecting your make-up and hair, but please try to be happy with your bodies, girls. God bless.