Well, if your friend is truly the only reason you can seewhy not to cut yourself... Then at least do it for her. I can think of a lot of reasons and I don't know you. Dont tell me I dont understand because I do. I have been there, done that, and probably had it 1000x's worse than you. But, I am sure that you can overcome this. Do you really want scars all over you so that when you grow older you have to explain to your husband/wife/kids that you used to cut yourself? That makes no sense. There are better ways. Trust me. Do you think that your friend enjoys worrying about you? What if she were to start cutting because of you? Would you be happy then? How about you just stop cutting. Just stop and think about life for a second. You are here for a reason. You are. I personally belive in god. Whether you do or not...I can't help, but god got me through my mess. Espeicailly when I figured out that he loved me and would never leave me. Just realize what really great things you can do to change someones life...To make a difference. Why cut? I care.

Hi amy_j
are you in your teens? I'm just wondering, see i'm almost 25 now and when I was about 13 I was a cutter, I still have the scars on my arms which remind me how stupid it is to do such a thing on yourself.
But I can understand where your coming from its not just something that you can stop just like that.
How did I stop?
Well exactly what your are being concerned about right now.
My friends.
It takes a while yes, but when I had the urge to cut myself, I would quickly picture my friends in my mind, eventually I stopped. Plus talk it out more to other people, even a professional.

Hello ami,

self-cutting is hard to control by 'mental' means because self-cutting stems from a depressive illness that is hormonally based.


To treat "self-cutting" we need to treat the underlying depression that causes you to self-injury.


Depression is caused by a nutritional disorder that can be treated by nutritional means.


I suggest that you see a doctor and ask him to have you tested for hypoglycemia by a special glucose tolerance test for hypoglycemia (gtth). This is a different test from a test for diabetes.


It is described at our web site as:

"testing for hypoglycemia and how your doctor can help"

you mood swings and anxieties can b treated by the adoption of ten hypoglycemic diet as one major part in overall treatment.


Also read:

“what is hypoglycemia?”

it is best to discuss this with your doctor.


Jurriaan plesman, ba(psych), post grad. Dip. Clin. Nutr.

Hi there amy...

I am with jamini on your age, your probibly teen, and the majority of the time its to do with a person you like. Im going to be frank and up front, I dint want to let too much out about myself at the beginning of this, but I was there, and I think its a serious question youre asking.

Im a 16 year old guy, grade 10, and I became too attached to my best firend. And she turned my down for some problem who treats her like garbage. I started cutting myself.... It felt good, no? I sail, it was a sailing knife, even made sure it was clean. But I regret it now, because it wasnt worth it. I was crazy about her, like, she took over my life, I couldnt sleep, iwent from a 96 to a 67 in math because I slept through class. But then one day I said.... Im doing this for attntion scrictly, its ugly, nad im hurting her. So I just stopped. It jsut clicked in how stupid it was.

And jsut to proove to you, today is tuesday, saturday she told me she liked me, and I was the happiest person... I was bacl to my old self after being extreemly down for a year, and jsut yesterday she took it all back, and I would never think of cutting myself again.

I dont suggest going to a doc or 'finding god'. Frankly... Help will make you feel even more messed up, and god should find you himself.

Have good night, and good luck, hope youre alright.

When youre better, in a month, maybe even a year, let me know through this site.

Bye.

Hi amy, I am 17 years old and 18 in a few months, I have been cutting myself since I was 12, it is hard to overcome, and I understand you, my best friend was upset about me doing it but we came up with different ways of making me feel better, I started going to the gym, I took all my anger out on running, punch bags, rowing machines, yes it is so hard to try and focus your anger on something else, but you can do it, I have scars allover my body and it is hard to explain to males, where they have come from, one thing I learnt is to never tell people what you do or did do, unless you trust them fully, not everybody will understand, keep your chin up hun, you will get better with time, I did.
Love kelly xxx

Hi i'm almost 16 and i've been cutting for almost a year and I almost no how you feel. I have lost almost all my friends the only friends I do got have the same problem. So maybe we can get together and talk maybe we can help each other.

Hi there! You mentioned that you have a reason to stop and that is because of your best friend, if you do not stop it, she might get tired of it! You need to learn to like yourself and you are not doing this when you are cutting yourself, you are also losing respect for yourself, you might think of going to mental health and let them know that you do not want any info given out to anyone unless this is what you want as sometimes it does help to bring your family into this as this opens up everything and helps everything come together, that is your choice. Don't get me wrong, I am not saying you are crazy, heck, it is just that we all need a little help sometime.
Keep us posted, please.
This is always a good place to come and talk.
Sincerely,
sandy

Hey well im 13, and like I started cutting when I was twelve, and I just started up again.. I really need someone to talk to ... All my friends just sit there and talk they won't let me talk... And just lecture me and that just makes me even angrier, and makes me want to do it again, other times my friends just laugh at me and think its totallly stupid... So that triggers it off again... So if anyone has any advice just please let me know.. I relal think I need help... My parents said if I did it again I would go to depaul... :cry:

Hello blue_rebelle,

as I said before self-cutting is a sign of depression that can be treated, provided you see a counsellor.


Please have yourself tested with the a special test for hypoglycemia, that is described at our web site as:

"testing for hypoglycemia and how the doctors can help"

please discuss this with your parents in the first place.


Jurriaan plesman

I know what you mean I am 24 and I cut it makes the feelings go away it hurts so much inside I just have to cut I don't know how to stop?

This might be a stupid suggestion but may be worth trying.

You should place a thick rubber band on your wrist and whenever you get that urge, snap the rubber band on your wrist.
It will give you that physical pain that you normally get.

Worth a try.

I started cutting when I was 14( im now 20, I was really depressed because my father and ister were so horribly meen to me, they would call me a stupid fat health forum or any other fat name u can think of, ive always had a problem with my dada talking about my weight. When I was 10 he said he would pay me for every pound I lost. Not to forget, at scool kids were always teasing me up til tenth grade when I droped out of school, the depresion was so bad I just wanted to be alone. The cutting started in 9th grade, I havnt done it in a few months, that pressure to be better than I am is always there. I feel like I can never be what my family wants me to be. I always think about cutting. One thing I found that has helped me is writing, I write poetry, it helps me exspress my pain and anger. I hope you find a way to control it, it will take over your life.

Trust me I know how you feel. My friends think I haven't done it in a long time but I still do, I can't stop.

I used to do it all the time too, I still do things of that order sometimes like punch myself or something. It just helps relieve that pain. I stopped cutting because of my current boyfriend whom I love a lot. If you cant do it for yourself do it for your friend.

I tried to stop cutting for many of my friends but the probl;ems is sometimes they get to involed and do it them selfve "just to see how it feels." that what they tell me. And I don't want to go to them any more because I don't want to bring any more people in to it. I don't know what to do any more. Things are getting so hard at home. And I live in the middle of no where and I don't have many friends who live around me. So I can't really get out of the house, the olny times I do is when I go to school and cadets. I don't ussaly cut on my arms, but on my legs tummy, and shoulds. Some times my hands. I don't know what i'm going to. During the winter times I do cut on my wrist becuase I can easliy hide them and what not. But I don't know what to do. I can't go to my parents they have enough problems. I've been cutting since I was8. I'm now 16 going on 17 in 21 days. I don't want to go on like this. What should I do?

It is hard to fight the temptations to stop cutting. With the way the world is today. For me I did not like to talk about my feelings to anyone, and still don't I took it out by cutting. I am 15. I started when I was 13. I have now stopped, it was really hard to do though. The last time I did it was 4 months ago. The way I stopped is my best friend. She kept telling me how important I was to her, and how I meant so much to her. Then I prayed to God, and asked for help, and then I got help from my youth pastor. Looking at the scars is really hard to do, I wish them away but it will not go. I really hope you stop cutting, because you are loved, and your best friend really cares about you.
Good Luck.
Me

I used to cut all the time. It became an addiction and i do think it saved my life from myself a few times. But, if you really have reached the point that you want to stop then you need to take action in yourself. Realize the difference between wanting to stop because you know its unhealthy and wanting to stop because you really don't like doing it at all anymore.

If thats the case, here is what helped me:
-Journaling. I started a diary on opendiary.com where people who didn't know me could talk to me and help me. people that actually knew what i was talking about. It didn't help me stop but when i wanted to, sometimes, not all, i could get on and write all my feelings down and then i wouldn't need to cut anymore
-When you want to cut do something to bring yourself up. I would put on glamourous make-up and my favorite clothes and take pictures then edit them so that i looked really hot. It really helped me feel good about my self.
-Talk to a counsler that you actually like. I've been to a few counslers and always thought it just never helped then i met Kevin, my current phycologist. He is much like me and we think alike. I think having an opposite sex counsler can help more because you can get into the opposite mind if your problems revolve around them.
-Take anti-depressants. I have been on them sense i was 13 but a one month perscription lasted a year. I'd start taking them, forget, feel i don't need them and fall back into depression for months till it got so bad i'd try again. For the first time in my life, i have been taking them every single day in the morning. I have a beta fish i feed and i take my pills when i feed him.
-Work with kids. I teach little girls how to swim at the rec-center for extra hours and i didn't know how much i'd love it. Making swimming their favorite thing during the week is amazing and i love the feeling i get when i'm done. It sustains me all week. Volunteering at daycare or at hospitals or anywhere is good too.

I have attempted suicide and ended up in the ER over a boy and sense then my life has turned around. I never thought i would be as happy as i am right now. I really thought it impossible.

Keep your chin up and stay at it! one day i looked around and just realized, wow i haven't cut in sooo long. then you realize your cured.

The one thing i'll tell you though, you can't stop for a friend. Litteraly it is pretty much impossible to stop unless you really really want to for you.