It's really sad that it has to come to a blood test result in the year 2005 to rule out a "risk."

however, most people have "close calls" and may be given a 2nd chance. I guess people think that the virus is like a night out drinking. When you drink too much all night, you throw up in the toilet bowl wishing it would end, praying, etc. I mean you'll get a bad headache, but after the hangover...It goes away.

This kind of stuff never goes away. I still pray! No hiv confirmation yet, and I hope it stays that way.

I liked your posting! It was real human emotion and experience.

Hi there! Good post! I believe that most people young and old have it drilled in their head over and over and alot of them feel that this will not happen to them, they feel that their partners appear to be clean and how many people do not realize that they have std's until after they have had sex with others.
Sincerely,
sandy

I would just like to ask if theres any way of telling the 'likeliness' of contracting aids. I know the more people you sleep with, (particuarly if its condomless) increases your chances. I am a male 18 and for a regretable time I recieved anal sex to try it out. Both times were unprotected and about a month or so away. As yet I don't feel any different except what I think as hemmorhoids. (itching, painful swelling, and a lump) I assume it was because of the straining from anal intercourse. Should I get checked from and std clinic. Truth is i'm scared and although it was only 2 times, both were unprotectied, and I know its more likely when in from anal.
Also, can hiv be tested soon after you have had sex. Or does it take a while for results to show?

Being the recipient of anal sex may be considered the riskiest of transmission, especially unprotected, especially more than once.

Poor decision! However, it's not the end of the world. Hiv is difficult to catch and it depends on many cofactors.

Tests do exist that can give a clue if you are in the early stages of hiv, but only an elisa test at 13 weeks is what is recommended and conclusive.

It is very important to remember that while you are young and are experimenting with your sexual identity, that you make sure that you use a condom. No exuses! Do not have sex, if you are the insertive partner either or the receptive, until you test.

Though I don't think you are having anything to indicate hi, you must take the responsibility and prevent anyone else from catching it. It is part of the eradication nation concept. Refrain from sex until you test at week 13.

It doesn't matter how many people you sleep with, or how many times you have sex with them, because it only takes one time. A lot of people on this site will try to tell you your odds or say that it isn't very likely, but that is nothing more than an uneducated "guess"
i wish you luck, I really do, but in the future, use condoms.

There is plenty of info about aids out there, and all other std's and consequences of sex, protected and unprotected. I honestly don't understand why so many people choose not to listen. In some schools, I don't doubt that sex ed is taught way too late, and probably by someone who is too embarassed to really teach it, and therefore, leaves very important parts out. That is really the only valid explanation I can come up with for so many people with hiv/aids, all other std's, teen pregnancies and unwanted pregnancies (accidental ones that is, not rape, incest, etc.) I know the majority or people are stupid, but for goodness sakes, please tell me not that many! And I am not saying that everyone who has ever had an std or an unwanted/unplanned pregnancy is stupid, so please don't twist my words! But the people who come on to these forums and ask things like, "he touched me down there, am I pregnant" or "i only had unprotected sex once, so I can't have aids right?" and the like questions, it just makes me worry about our society.

I did want the insertive partner to use a condom but he ran out after practising it with me once before, than went on without a condom. The other time was for the same reasons, and did it regardless. I should get this checked out I feel really shameful and scared. At such a young age I wish I didn't in the all together but I was rexperimenting and have promise dmyself never to try it again! Regarldess of hiv- results...

It makes it worse because none of my family no i'm openminded and got up to such things. I can't confound in them without the fear of getting kicked out my house. So, I guess I should go to and std clinic and get it checked out! No signs yet of anything but theres not always signs at early stages...

You don't need to discuss your sexual affiliation with anyone. All you need to do is practice whatever decision safely. Personally, i'm heterosexual and feel that's the best way to be. However, all I can do is give you advise on safe sex, not what type of sex.

Try chruch! You'll be surprised if you can talk to your pastor. Unless you trust the person, keep your desires to yourself.

You still require an hiv test at week 13. I hope you understand that, and yes, you might as well get a profile on all std's.

Good luck!

Actually it can take 6-8 months to get an accurate test result for hiv. So, please be very, very safe and then get tested when it is time. Good luck to you, and make sure you always have a steady supply of condoms!

There is no "best way to be" when it comes to sexual orientation. There is only the way that you are!

Wow...Well...A few replies...That actually have anything to do with this thread...Lol...I"m teasing you all that went off in a different direction...Please don't take it personally.

Someone mentioned something about sex ed in schools having teachers whom are embarrassed to teach the subject, thus some of the information is not conveyed to the students...And I agree with you, that it is very likely.

The biggest problem is in our homes though, when it comes to this kind of information and conversation...In the home is where the impact is felt or lack of communication is not.

The lack of communication when it comes to these subjects, hiv, std's and sexuality in general can be deadly for the child, however, it is such a taboo still that I think we continue to put our youth at risk due to our embarrassment, or lack of understanding ourselves.

Tbsouth18...Your situation actually illustrates what i'm getting at in many ways...I mean...Why wouldn't you be able to go to your parents for heaven sakes...And it seems like this is the case for many many people in this world.

Lol...Sorry folks, I sense i'm getting up on that soap box and proclaiming my ideals about society and the need for change.

But I suppose it is true, it is my desire to see one day a world where these disease's are no longer a threat because we all got together and educated each other, and became an open understanding society without prejudice or discrimination about sexual orientation, or against those whom have had multiple partners etc.

Unfortunately, hiv comes to us here in the us with a dogma of being the "gay" disease, due to the fact only that it hit that community first in our country and has tended to stay primarily with in it...Although there are millions of heterosexual couple whom have contracted the disease thru other means, and then passed it along sexually as time has passed.

Still...Because of this stigma...It makes it all that more difficult to get us to discuss these things openly, to not be embarrassed etc...And to think...Somehow that it is specific to one sexual oriented group only.

Hiv is a world wide problem, and is a disease that effects all human beings regardless of sexual orientation.

It is a disease that could be combated if people were smart about it, and simply stopped and thought before engaging in sex with whom ever.

Also, if we could loose this belief that it can't happen to us...It's sort of like people thinking that they can't get cancer...Or diabetes, it happens...And there are ways to minimize the risks, it is a matter of being more in control of yourself and realizing that even a .Ooooooo1 % chance is to much and to take precautions regardless of what your partner might think.

I mean if my partner, whom claims love for me, would leave me because I refused him sex until he was properly covered...Then who the heck is he?

Besides when you get with your lifelong partner, and you are both checked out equally and clean from std's and hiv, then it's no holds bar...Lol...No more worry unless it gets passed thru other means, like open wounds, or something...But that is rare.

Ok...I'm stepping down from my box...Sheesh...I can be long winded.

Peace all

shannix

Don't worry, even if it is hiv- than i'm never going down that path again, i'll stay clean in all circumstances. It seems funny but I don't want to consider myself gay just by this act. Im not in any way discrimination homosexuals. I did try it and it will live with me forever as propably the most regretable thing I ever done.

So its been about month now should I get checked or wait so the results are more accurate?

I believe the earliest they can detect the hiv is 3 months, and for sure in 6 months.

Contrary to popular belief...It's ok to try on different cloths...In other words, it's ok to make an educated decision about your sexuality...One way or the other.

I decided to be heterosexual, and it was a choice for me anyway.

One thing though...You don't need to feel guilty about it...Nor regret your decision to experiment...No matter what may come of the hiv...You tried something new, didn't like it...Put it back on the shelf and carry on.

Simple.

But ya...Go get tested in about 2 months...Although you may want to go down and talk to someone at the clinic about it...They may have new information or something, and as professionals would advise you more clearly.

:)

peace

shannix

No, after 28 days from exposure, you can request a pcr test. Instead of looking for the antibodies, it looks for the rna of the hiv virus itself. It's about 99% after 28 days. Most experts consider it conclusive after 28 days. You still need an elisa at 3 months (kind of like the ice on the cake), but it kind of gives you a clue. The test us ultra sensitive. It does record a lot of false positives, which is why the cdc does not recommend the test as to diagnose, but I did it anyway. In other words, your body could be fighting another type of virus or the lab could've not cleaned the posting of the prior test correctly.

The pcr is expensive too!

Good advice,

thanks...I wasn't catching on I guess...Lol...So many advances anymore these days...Very good though.

Blessings of peace

shannix

But the bottom line is still that you won't get completely accurate results until the 6-8 month period. So, if you want to get that other test, go ahead, but if you get a false positive is it really worth the stress? That's all up to you. Just abstain until you know for sure. Good luck!

Thanks, never again will I let this happen, I think if someone told me the risks before I had sex I would'nt go through with it. But I was lost in the moment and therefore did not think about the possible diseases...

The advise has been good and it's cleared my mind about alot of the worries I had