Come typically refers to a guy ejaculating and yes as you say it is obvious.
However usually when a guy ejaculates it is at the moment of orgasm and so the term is pretty much synonimous (sp) with orgasm.

Some guys can ejaculate with out orgasm and some can orgasm with out ejaculate.

But the short answer is if you are orgasming then yeah you're comeing/cumming (either is correct)

some women do produce an amount of ejaculate (vaginal fluids) in a kind of spurt, but most women will just find they have become "wet" during arousal.

Im 23 yrs old and I have had 3 partners, before when I would have sex with my x's , I would feel like im having a orgasm one thats it, I would be wet and everything. My boyfriend that I have been with for 3 yrs. He can make me cum just by fingering me alittle bit and then he'll rub my clit and wow! I leave a puddle on the bed it just flows out of me and , before that would never happen, now I when we make love I have several orgasms like to the point when were done , he asks me how many times did I cum? I really couldn't tell you, and its kind of grose but he loves it when I leave "juice" all over the bed . Sex gets better with time , you learn your parteners body and what they like and wow its a wonderful thing :)

Not all women have a 'noticalbe' amount of fluid.

In my experience, normally when a woman comes you know it.

Don't think of your fluid being the same as a mans, it's not, womens is just like a lubrication liquid.

Good luck with everything :)

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sorry had forum error.

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 years. We are very much in love with each other and our sex life is wonderful!! But I have a problem with not having an orgasm!! Although I am very wet during intercourse, I just dont seem to reach the ultimate peak!! Am I normal or what?? Would I even know it? All I have to go by is porn movies with how the women react to having an orgasm. Is that the only way of knowing you are having one?? I need help on recognizing this or advice on reaching the ultimate!! Thanks

Wow kmc, your lucky, haha, most women have enough problems orgasming once let alone you over there having many, good for you! Thats awesome. :)

And margarita, you should definatly know when your have an orgasm, its just a feeling you couldnt miss. :)

I am very inexperienced, I have never had sex before but my boyfriend and I have mucked around a bit, he has 'fingered' me, and when he asks if I have come I dont know what to say.

Is coming an orgasm? Would I know if I came?

I get very wet but I still dont know. We are planning on having sex soon and I want to be able to orgasm and come... But I dont want to dissapoint him by telling him 'no' or 'i dont know'.

Help!!

Question which I think I know the answer but i'm not sure. Cuming and an orgasm are the same correct? I'm a female that has not had that much experience and i'm just curious about things. Please help?

Cumming is when a guy ejaculates and orgasm is when women have muscle spasms caused by the clitoral nerve transmitters. But they are interchangable in common talk.
As far as if you know or not you had an orgasm, if you have to ask, then you didn't. Some women go their entire life w/o ever having an orgasm.
The spurting of body fluids from a women does not guarentee they've had an orgasm.
An orgasm can be reached by many ways (clitoral stimulation, labia stimulation,etc. Even breast stimulation) but it always the result of the clitoral nerve endings. The clitoris, though just useally a small round protrusion, is actually about 2.5" long and is "y" shaped with the bottom of the "y" being exposed. The two branches of the "y" are giant nerve transmitters that attached to a nerve center for the abdomen, buttocks, and leg muscles. That is why most womens, abs, butt, and thighs will contract and tighten during orgasm.

Unfortanately you will probably disappoint your boyfriend because you usually dont have an orgasm the first time you have sex. I am 24 and I have been married for 6 years. We have great sex and now he can make me orgasm several times in a row. I dont know about other people, but I go through cycles. Sometimes I go a couple of months when it is harder to orgasm and I only do it on rare occasion and then some months I can have multiple orgasms. I guess my body just goes through cycles. I dont know why, but sex definately improves over time. The first few times it is probably not going to be mind blowing.

I think it really depends on the man and how he's making you cum. Yes we cum you just can't feel it. The other day my boyfriend made me cum 11 times in 45 minutes and it was damn great. The thing is though he said I was squriting juices, which I didn't feel, but he saw and felt it. I quess it depends on how good your man is and what he's doing to you.

When I "orgasim" I get this tingeling feeling and my muscles do tighten up and it feels really good. No liquid has ever come out tho. Im confused if I am actually having an orgasim or not.

If you fell a "sense" of relief, then it is an orgasm. Most women never ejaculate any type of fluid during an orgasm. If you are feeling a tightness in your muscles but no sense of "completion, relief", just keep on with what you are doing. Sometimes it takes quite a few of these muscles contractions before you body can process it all completely. I know as a young boy, I had many "dry" ejaculations before the real thing. They felt good, but it wasn't like the first time something came out. Even then, it was a number of times more before I felt the true "relief" when I ejaculated. Don't despair!!! It will come in time. Just keep masturbating and you will come to know the feeling. It is not something to be rushed, just enjoyed. If you have felt contractions-you are on your way!!!!

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Ladies please go to "what's up with you ladies" and read what I (granps) copied for you to read about women's organsims and the "g" spot. This may help y'all better understand what might be happening to y'all when having an organism.
Cheers and enjoy your experience.
Granps
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My wife and i we having great intercourse the other night and she had a orgasim as i thought was good one but she started crying, I asked if i had hurt her she said no it felt great but couldn't stop crying why i don't understand this is the 4 the time in 13 years that this has happened. PLEASE HELP ME OUT.

When women get emotional, sometimes they cry. It can happen even during happy moments. I've cried during emotional moments before, although not during sex. It could still happen.

I still find it sorta amusing that after 5 years of marriage my husband asks, "did you come?" No...i was just shaking like crazy cause I'm cold!!!
Veronicca