Joined: 07 May 2005 Posts: 2 Location: winchendon ma
Just Found Out 2 Weeks Ago That My Daddy Has Lung Cancer Posted: 05-07-05 14:26pm
I guess I dont really know were to begin
so ill start anywhere my dad has had
several heartattacks and he has diabetes
he only runs on 10 % of his heart back in
oct he had to have his big toe removed and
at the same time he quit smoking after
smoking for like 45 yrs its now may and
his toe is healed pretty much thank god
and hes now in physical therapy
he had fluid in his lungs a few months
back so they gave him a catskan and a xray
to check it out well 2 mondays a go all
8 of us kids were called to go to my moms
we knew something was up and she sat us
all down with our daddy and said his foot
is very good but he has a tumor (which
mesures about 4-5 cm) in his lung and 2
large swollen lymp nodes
hes to weak for chemo and we dont know yet
what kind of lung cancer he goes thursday
for his biopsy but any surgery is out of
the question 4 days before we found out
about my daddy we got a call and my uncle
was diagnosed with it he started chemo a
few days ago . I have dealt with my
dads heart attacks and bad heart and my
mom having chrons disease and both of them
diabetic but cancer I dont know why he
is going through this im scared and cry
all the time is his time coming to an end
I cant deal with that I never knew how ppl
went throgh this and now im living this
nightmare an dmy 10 yr old is so close to
him and he cries alot and its hard when he
asks me to promise him grandpa will be ok
I just tell him the best doctors and alot
of praying and of course my mom being
there every step of the way
i guess the question I have is what am I
facing here and how will I make it through
this I love my daddy more than life
itself and hes being our strength when he
is the one going through this like I said
treatment hasnt started yet cause he is
doing the biopsy next week so alls ok now
but help me start this long journey I
want the best doctors around mass. Area
please
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poetmcc
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Mar 2005 Posts: 273
Posted: 05-07-05 14:51pm
Hi there, how are you doing? I am sorry
to hear what you are going through. It
must be completely devastating to see your
father like this and even more devastating
for your 10 year-old. I sincerely hope
you're father is ok and feels better.
I really think a counselor could help you
out a lot. They talk to you nwithout
judging you and they show you good outlets
for the pain and geif you must be feeling.
Sometimes relaxation techniques help,
maybe you could try a few of them, there
are plenty to try. Of course you will
alwys be anxious and sad missing your
father, its totally understandable.
Also there are many people who are going
through the same thing you are. I am sure
there are people on these forums and other
websites that you can connect to and I am
sure they could give you great tips.
I wish I could give you a few tips, but I
am really not in that position as I am
also only 15.
I just wnat to let you know that I think
you are a wonderful person having stood by
your father with his lung illness and your
mother's crohn's disease and diabetes.
You are truly one of the most caring and
kind people. Your parents and son are so
lucky to have someone like you to help
them.
Please take care of yourself and keep
posting on how your father is doing, I am
thinking of you...
Bye for now,
ps- I hope your eight brothers and sisters
are allright too.
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hunbug7e
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 May 2005 Posts: 2 Location: winchendon ma
Thank You Posted: 05-07-05 19:19pm
Thanks for your concern I speak to my
daddy alot everyday and we say our I loves
you and all my biggest problem is guilt
my boyfriend stole alot of money from him
due to a drug problem years ago I did
break it off but went back I need him to
know how sorry I am that he had that done
to him I tell him all the time and h says
he knows I cant get over it though
so it makes it all worse he is being so
brave my little daddy I just cant even
think of life with out him hes my one
true love besides my 2 little guys will it
go away
i mean come on we know theres a cure but
the drs and hospitals would loose to much
mney I say screw the money I want that
cure for my dad and im sure you all feel
the same
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spannerpan
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 May 2005 Posts: 3 Location: UK
Posted: 05-14-05 19:37pm
Hi
i am so sorry you are having such a
difficult time. I agree with the other
person who answered, perhaps you would
benefit from seeing a counsellor? You
are so kind and caring towards your father
and it is so good that you are able to say
all the I love yous to him.
I hope your father is feeling better
now...
Anna
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wademan
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Sep 2005 Posts: 2 Location: Sweden
Posted: 09-15-05 16:34pm
My grandfather past away by this rare
cancer called mesothelioma and I am
researching this subject. I found an
informative website about it.
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SRA01
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Sep 2005 Posts: 5
Posted: 10-11-05 07:44am
Spend as much time with him as you can.
Every last moment. Same for your 10 year
old. Cherish the time.
Where it me, i'd quit my job, pull my kid
out of school, to spend every moment with
the person. Granted, I am bias by the
fact I have lost so many ppl and my father
to a lung disorder and find myself wishing
I had spent more time with them. But
still. It's what I would do. Because
even if they survive you don't regret the
time spent, and if they don't make it you
really treasure it as well.
