What would you gain by getting married to this man? You have the legal issues taken care of and you're not going to have children. What would you gain from a marriage license that you don't already have now?

I can understand your desire to be married. But maybe if you give it some more time he will come around.

I would gain the feeling of having family. I have nobody left from my immediate family, no children, no brothers or sisters and both of my parents are deceased. I am never going to push him into a marriage or even bring it up. I am thankful that I have him....
Thanks

Well, I hope you'll someday get what you want. Have you told him how you feel about not being part of a family? I believe because you live with him and plan to be with him forever that you already are family.

Hi sunshine. Well I think that you should ask youself why his first two wives turned on him? From this you might learn something new about this guy? Also why doesn't he want to get married? Is he still getting over his divorce?
Good thing you said you wouldn't force him into marrying. This might only cause more trouvble b/c it is against his will.
You must really feel bad that you cannot have immediate family right now. But you said you are glad to have him so enjoy the time with him, talk to him if you can (i know you said you wouldn't bring it up but you might want him to know how you feel...?) if he doesn't you'll know that you still love him and you tried.
Take care

He is very bitter because the first wife ran around on him, the second took control of the money and did not pay bills and etc. He really did not have anything in common with either. He and I are so much alike plus we have the same interests. We have great communications. We talk about everything. He once said that if I really wanted to get married, we would but he is afraid that piece of paper will ruin our relationship.
Thanks for the responses. I will just give it time, because I know that he and I will be together forever.

Having been through a very painful divorce, some 10 years ago, I know how I feel.

As someone else has already said and I share the feelings entirely.
What's to be gained by being married?

From my standpoint it's the worry of it going wrong again. Men seem to really get the raw deal when it comes to the financial side of divorce.

After my divorce I feel deeply in love, thought I never would. All she wanted was to get married.
From a financial aspect, she had nothing. I have a nice home, very good job and total financial security.

If it wasn't for the fact that she became pushy about this issue and going on the mortgage, I would have married her.
But alarm bells started ringing.
That was ten years ago. Since then there have been other men and if I had have signed a licence she would have all the financial security and I would have nothing.

Clearly these are just my experiences but marriage does have a financial aspect and there is a certain balance about what one person can put in, to a relationship, compared to the other.

Sorry if I sound like just another one of those men. I'm not.