Hello, you might not want inormation from me, since im a guy, but I too, had a first love. Skipping all the information and onto the bad part, I seen her cheating on me with guys on numerouse occasions.....And what I did to forget her was to ignore her...And if she comes down the hallway I wouldnt look at her......But when I see a glimps of her my chest feels like its in some sort of pain.....I know all this stuff you might not want to hear, but to get to the point......My sugestion is to slowly drive yourself away from him...Like he is doin to you.....But, since im a guy and havent had "female" thoughts of idea's...I wouldnt know if this is the right form of approuch for you.....

Ps: more then 89% are pigs and are just out their to use women...You dont know a man/boy/guy unless you know his true personality....I wish I wasn't a guy :heh:

I'll never forget my first love, I had a situation similar to yours. It'll all get better soon, just be really nice to him and things will even out, whether or not he ends up your boyfriend. Good luck and let me know how everything went!
:) vickie :)

No matter who you end up with in the end, there will always be one that got away.... :shock:

:( i'm not sure what I should do. I'm not sure if what I feel is normal. If there is anyone out there that can assure me that they feel the same, I would really appreciate it. I still have overwhelming feelings for my first love, whom I had an on and off relationship with for a few years. This was when I was sixteen, and now i'm twenty-six. I am engaged to a man I have been with since the last time I saw this first love. I see him from time to time, but it's only in passing, and only for a few minutes a few times a year. And each time it leaves me in tears for days. I think about him all the time, hope to see him when i'm out (we live in the same town), and have dreams about him 2-5 times a week. His memory is haunting me. I love it, because it's the only time I get to be with him, but I hate it, because I can't move past it. It is to the point where i'm considering not marrying my fiance, for when this man gets a divorce from his own wife, and we get married. I know that must sound absolutely psyco, but it's a feeling I have in my gut. It's the way he looks at me when he sees me. I feel like we both feel the same, but neither one is brave enough to say or do anything. Am I completely crazy?, or should I be going by my gut instinct? Please, be brutally honest. I need to know if it is normal to still have this strong of feelings over someone I haven't really known in eight years.

I think you made the most valid point right at the end of your post. You have feelings over someone you haven't known in eight years. So you are not really imagining that person as they are now, you are holding on to the image of them as they were then. And eight years can change someone an awful lot, especially if those eight years were the transition from teenager to adult. But you will have also changed an awful lot, perhaps without even realising it.
I have been in exactly the same situation as you. I am a 28yr old male, and when I was 18 there was a girl who I was abolutely head over heels in love with. I would have done anything for that girl, and I believed we were soulmates. Then circumstances split us apart, and I spent the next 10 years feeling like there was unfinished business. Then I met up with her again and re-visited the whole thing. But you know what? The reality was that it was not the same, and that what I had seen in her in the past and had built up in my mind to be so wonderful just didn't appeal to me anymore. The only benefit that I got from seeing her again was to be able to put the whole thing to bed, and now I never think about her anymore. And I too am now engaged and very very happy.
I think that you should concentrate more on the reality of your current relationship than the fantasy of your past relationship. Don't jeopardise what you have now, your partner deserves more than that and so do you.
Take care...

I think what you all need to ask yourselves, is what you had experienced real love?