a Great Question For the Ladies

Well it's not really a concrete answer we get in 5 minutes but it's usually a first look at men and a first impression of being next to him and sensing whether we could ever be attracted enough to kiss him and if we like the way he talks or just his whole character and if we're attracted to it or not. Men do the same thing. It's not a bad thing...It's that first reaction with someone..You know. After that initial reaction and if we're attracted then we move to the next step so to say. It's just a normal thing I guess. Because if we were not attracted to something in that person initially then it would be a shame to go any further and pursue something that could hurt someone in the process. I'm also wanting to make myself clear and say that the word attraction that i"m using is not just looks but attraction to personality, humour, intelligence or just being comfortable with someone. It's those little things that attract or repel us from eachother that we should be so aware of instead of just jumping into things.

Thats kind of odd that you said that because I was sitting in a bar and this guy walked in, never seen him before in my life but I had a sudden feeling he was going to be my next boyfriend. Three months later we were living together but 4 years later we were split up! It was wierd though how I just 'knew' he would be my next boyfriend, it was a very serious relatoinship....But then he turned out to be a bit of an a*ss!!!

It was strange, I met my husband back in november on a singles site. We went out on our first date 13th, the 19th we told one another we loved each other, the 28th he proposed and on april 2nd we got married. I knew he was the one on the first date. It was that complete content feeling. We never wanted to be seperated so you can say from the 1st date on we lived together I was constantly staying at his house and spending the night. It can happen, it happened to us and we've never been happier.

I met my future husband 3 years ago on a blind date that my sister set up for me. She was working with him at the time and as soon as she met him she knew that he would be good for me. I was doing the dating thing at the time, and continued to date for about 2 weeks after I had my first date with him. One day when I was getting ready for a date with another guy all I could think about was my current bf, I went on the date but it was not feeling right the whole time and I told the guy that I couldnt go through with seeing him anymore because I had fallen hopelessly in love with someone else. He was fine, and I left the date and told my bf how I felt and here we are 3 years later, happy, still in love (even more now than ever) and we are getting married and planning a family. So yeah I do believe in knowing from the minute you meet someone that they are going to be the one that you spend the rest of your life with.

Yes it is very true!!! That's what happened with my fiance and i. But I guess it's also kind of like the whole soulmate debate. I belive in both of them. You can't really understand unless you've personally experienced it, but you know when you do!

-sunshine

I think it is very true but many times it takes a woman several guesses before getting the exact one right... Alot of time the woman will desire the man to be her husband and be ready to marry him but for some reason the awful guy refuses to marry the woman. If life was perfect I guess you could say yes this is true.

Yes, true, it does happen for some but you always want to remember too that 1st impressions are not always the best impressions, heck, I have known of some people that have been married for 30 plus years and wake up one day and tell the other one that it is over, that they do not love the other one anymore, sad but it does happen.
Sincerely,
sandy

I'm still a young'in, and to date i've had 11 girls (that I can remember.. Maybe more?) claim we were going to get married, or even ask me to marry them in my years of dating and courtship. All of them apparently just based on personality and how well we get along, compatibility.. They knew it was meant to be.

Guess what, I didn't marry any of them.

I think a girl can tell if a guy is 'a good candidate' for her... But if it's going to happen, well that's just prediction. If I ever do meet a girl like that, i'm going to get her to buy me some lottery tickets too.

That happened to my mother...He was walking down the hall at her school and she leaned over and told her friend...That's going to be my husband someday and he was and still is...26 years later

and that's what happend with my husband too..When I first saw him (we were working at the same place and same shift) I knew he was something special and that we'd wind up together....And I was actually dating this guy (who also worked that shift) that was emotionally abusive towards me all the time and I was reallllly unhappy...I finally ditched the guy after getting advice from some of his own friends...And my husband not even 2 weeks later told me he wanted to take me out....6 months later we're married...And have been together for 2 years without even 1 argument.

It's not hard to see what's in a man's heart because it's written on their faces most of the time....That's how a woman can know...That's how I knew...I could see who he was without even talking to him

That means she just thinks you are good looking and wants to fancy a medical question.

I believe that it can happen-my mom and stepdad got married 3 months after they met and have been happily married for 15 years now, but I also feel that it can go the other way too...My best friend and her fiance hated each other (she thought he was rude and inconsiderate-he thought she was a lesbian!)...He ended up asking her on a date (during an argument) and they have been together for 5 years now...So it can happen either way...

It's easy for a woman (especially a good looking one) to say these things on 1st impression and go out and make it happen. But how many guys are able to say the same? I'd be willing to bet that there are very few guys who new they were going to marry their wife from the 1st moment they saw her.

The first day we met he heard a voice you will take her home, to help her and her friend (since we had no where to live at the time). You will fall in love with her and she will be your wife. I dint know--i just knew I had never been so sexually attracted to anyone in my life, and I was 36 years old at the time. With my share of experiences. Already been married once and one live in relationship.

I think it could happen..The first time I saw my bf I just knew that he would be in my future, I could feel it..And now I have this feeling that he is going to ask me to marry him soon...He's been talkin about it a lot and talking about looking at rings & such.

Also my mom & step dad we're together for 3 months before they got engaged married 6 months after that..They've been together going on 14 years now.

It's just a woman thing..Lol

I dunno about judging a husband... But I do know this and I say it all the time. I get very strong vibes from new people and I can tell in the first 5 minutes of meeting anyone, if I like them or not. And I can tell you what characteristics about that person I like and do not like in the first 5 minutes. And if it is the case that I get bad vibes in the first 5 minutes, then you that person is permanently written off in my book and I can tell you that this has proven to be effective on numerous occassions.