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Q: Pitty Party

asked by: southcoach on May 1st, 2005

Experienced User

Someone please help me. I am at the end of my rope here. I know this topic has been discussed over a million times in this forum but I don't know what to believe. My penis is around the 6 inch mark, at its max. I am with a girl who is much more experienced and has now turned to a vibrator to get pleasure. She claims I am still okay but I know she doesn't mean it. I am very inexperienced to begin with and I feel my very average (at best) size is doing nothing for her excecpt causing disappointment.

What I am wondering is do drugs such as extagen really work? I have heard some people say it is a scam and some say it works well. I was nervous about trying so I tried the raved about jelqing method I heard about..........That is until I also heard about many problems it can cause!! I know drugs like extagen may cause some higher blood pressure, but if mine is low is it worth the risk? What is the harm in trying it out for myself? Suppose it does work? It would turn my love life around. Please, I don't want to hear anymore of what people 'heard' but if someone has a good idea about it or has taken it please help me. It is straining my life and my depression is taking a turn for the worst.

Also, I am breaking out on my shoulder area. Does proactiv really work? My girlfriend saw it right after a mediocre 10 minutes of sex that she told me to hurry up and cum (sorry to be graphic) because she was tired of it. I just want to please her and at least tolerate myself. My girlfriend is absolutely beautiful (most beautiful person I have ever seen......Honestly.....I thought that before I even was introduced to her). I heard proactiv doesn't work from some people, and does for others. Sorry to ramble. Anyone's comments are welcome even though I probably won't get any. There is no hope is there. I should just end it with her to avoid her hurting me later. :cry:

Replies(9)

sandyallen

replied on May 1st, 2005

Extremely eHealthy

Hi there! It does sound like she might be verbally abusing you now. There are other ways that you can satisfy her and you might try other positions. It does not sound like she is doing much for your psychological aspect. I cannot tell you what to do, that is your choice. Sex is not everything in a relationship but it does help and remember, beauty is only skin deep.
Good luck!
Sandy

nex

replied on May 1st, 2005

New User

Your penis length isn't as important as your girth is, but your size is fine. Most chicks cannot even take a penis longer than 7", since most find the sensation of the penis hitting the cervix to be extremely unpleasant.

Penis size is not the issue here. Rule it out of your mind. She's turning to a vibrator because you're not having enough fun with her clit during foreplay. Get her off before you have sex (tongue is the best method). Try experimenting with some g-spot stuff. It's located about 2 inches in the upper part of the vagina. Press against it with the pads of your fingers. It can take work, but she'll love it.

If you want more explicit directions, simply download the video "squirters 2" by seymore butts. It's an amazing video.

It also sounds like she's running the show and beating you down. Take control. You could have a 4 inch penis, and she'd be sexually satisfied if you're being the "man" in bed. It's not what your packing, it's how you're using it.

2ferano

replied on May 2nd, 2005

Extremely eHealthy

Or maybe she just needs a large penis to be satisfied. Clit, yes, that definately helps, but you can't say that is what is wrong here.
If she is being verbally abusive towards you, hun, then I would definately consider leaving her. However, she told you that you and your size are fine, so that wasn't being mean or anything. Some women just prefer a large penis. And, length and girth matter. It all depends on the woman. Whether they like them big, small, long, short, fat, skinny, etc. So, no one person can sit here and say size does or doesn't matter, it has to be thick not long, etc., because it is all a matter of preference.
Maybe you could use the vibrator with her? I mean, on her, not yourself of course, unless you are into that. Have sex, but then maybe when you are done, or as fourplay, use the vibrator.
I wouldn't know if the pills work, but I am doubting they do. If you have the money to try, then ask your doc which ones work/dont work or if any of them work. But, if you dont have they money to blow, or if they cause health problems then I wouldn't even try it.
If she loves you then she will make due (which it sounds like she is doing with the vibrator). But if she start being mean about it or ignorant then don't put up with that.

I use klear action which is generic proactiv for my face and it works great. It should work on your back/shoulder or whatever. You can buy it online at ebay or drugstore.Com and it is under $20, where proactiv is like $50 or more. I like it a lot. Good luck.

thunder_bunny

replied on May 3rd, 2005

New User

There is no pill that can increase penis size. Many of the drugs that claim to do so are currently being sued.

The first thing you need to do is relax and have some more confidence in yourself. You are way too insecure and that is only going to hinder your performance

has your girlfriend orgasmed with other men? It's common for a lot of women to not be able to cum through penile stimulation alone. This has nothing to do with the guy. You said she was more experienced, so I imagine this is not the case for her.

You seem to need a little help in the foreplay, romance and preheating the oven part of sex. There's more to screwing than sticking it in and humping away. Like other have suggested, try making her cum through oral sex or with your hands. Ask her what she likes, what turns her on? Don't be afraid to ask her for help on this. You're not going to know what to do unless you ask.

Also, 10 minutes of straight out screwing is probably painful. I'm not sure how other women feel, but the actual act of having sex shouldn't last too long. Your girlfriend probably asked you to stop because she was in pain. Maybe you could have gone a few minutes, stopped, messed around, and then continued.

southcoach

replied on May 4th, 2005

Experienced User

Thank you all so much for your responses. It means a lot. No, she hasn't orgasmed with other guys. She had a boyfriend (who was bigger than me) for 6 years and she never had an orgasm during intercourse. It just makes me feel horrible that I am even smaller. I think I am going to at least try one of the pills though (i have a certain kind in mind). I have nothing to lose but 70 bucks. It is a lot, I know, but I have been thinking about it for so long and suppose it does work? If I don't take it I will never know for sure and some guys I have heard say it does. I researched some of the ingredients and one of the main side effects is elevated blood pressure and I checked mine yesterday and it is low, so I am going to risk it. You are right though, I am going to be more confident in the mean time and try to incorporate more oral. Thanks again.

While I agree, sex isn't the most important part of a relationship, but I know from experience that if you are in a relationship with no touching or sexual interaction of any kind (or it isn't good for both people), it creates stress and you are often not as close. I think it is a healthy thing and I want it to feel good for her.

2ferano

replied on May 5th, 2005

Extremely eHealthy

Good luck to you hun. If she hasn't orgasmed through sex with any other guy (even the "bigger" one) then you have even less to worry about. Some women just don't orgasm through penetration, and some can't orgasm while being penetrated. That doesn't mean you still shouldn't try. It takes years and much experimenting for some women to be able to orgasm at all, or through penetration.
As for the screwing thing, for me personally, if a guy is only lasting ten minutes then it isn't worth me taking my clothes off. I know everyone is different and I also know women who don't like to have sex for more than ten minutes, a half hour, or whatever their time span is. I have never met a woman who had to quit that early because it was painful, they just quit because they were bored. Which, isn't a good sign at all, but that is just how they felt. So, yeah, everyone is different in that aspect too. You are going to need to figure out how long she wishes you to go. Don't just assume that since she made you stop those times that she wants to have short sex. Especially if you quit and then she used the vibrator. That shows she didn't quit because of pain.
You two are just going to have to open up to each other and find out what the other likes and dislikes. It will all work out. But, nothing will work as long as you are so self-conscience. You need to relax, respect and love yourself as you are and then you can start having great sex. Confidence is a very important thing in the bedroom. Not, overly confident, but confident nonetheless. Good luck to you!

antoni

replied on June 8th, 2005

New User

Friend told me about extagen pills. Its the all natural male enhancement. I decided to order it from website. I dont have any problems with my erections or anything regarding size or thickness but I wanted to just try it out and see if it did anything for me. I got the package by the mail and I tried the two months cycle. And after this I notised that my penis gained full one inch! And from beginning of the cycle my erection was rock hard!

southcoach

replied on June 8th, 2005

Experienced User

I wonder if your blood pressure is much higher. I read this to be a large side effect. How much longer are you going to take them? I wonder if the size will stay after you stop.

antoni

replied on June 14th, 2005

New User

If your blood pressure is high then you should to talk to your doctor before you start to take these pills.

I know that some pills can give only temporary result. But when I stopped to take extagen during one month the result remained.

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