I found out earlier in the week that my
girlfriend has bipolar disorder, I
realised today that it's much more serious
that I had previously thought it was after
she had a relapse and was admitted to
hospital. The problem is that yesterday
she said something awful about her father
(which caused a lot of trouble), which is
untrue. She's not a liar, she just
believed so strongly that what she said
was true.
My problem is what to do if something like
this happens again, am I supposed to be
sympathetic and believe (or at least
pretend) to believe what she says, or am I
supposed to tell her what I really think,
which is that she's delusional. I know
that the latter will be likely to upset
her, and she'll refuse to admit it. The
problem is also that in future, how am I
supposed to know whether she is telling
the truth? I suppose if she is in a manic
state, it might be a giveaway, but to be
honest; yesterday I didn't even notice
that she was in a manic state.
I really don't know anything about bipolar
disorder, if anybody can offer any helpful
advice or if you have any links to
interesting articles etc. I'd greatly
appreciate it.
Thanks.
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paramedicman
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 May 2005 Posts: 8 Location: michigan
Relate.. Posted: 05-10-05 23:14pm
Hey, I can relate to this. I just got out
of a relationship with my ex girlfriend,
she was bipolar. I can tell you this, it
was hard to deal with her problems plus
try to ease the way I feel about it. The
biggest problem for me was to be able to,
after being with her and hearing her fight
with her mom and sister to go home and try
to tell myself that its just how she is
and not to worry about it. But allot of
the time it tore me apart. I couldn't
help her because she didn't want my help,
she wanted to do what she wanted and
anything else was just a attack on her.
It was a condition that I was just not
ready for. But I remember that I was
always there for her and anything she
needed, even after I would help her so
much give her everything she needed or
what I thought would make her feel better.
After I gave her as much as I could and
told her everything I thought would help
her, or at least was my good advice, it
all came down to her. She will not let
you help her unless she wants the help.
Thats what broke me apart.
I told her so many times that she
needed to stay away from this drug or that
drug because its going to destroy her.
But she didn't listen, at first I thought
it was because she didn't like me but it
was just because she didn't want to tell
me how she felt because she was so angry
at everything else she didn't know how to
tell me. Or at least she didn't
understand.
The thing is, and i'm not a pro at
this, is to tell yourself its not you,
she's having trouble with her self and you
can only help her as much as she wants.
Just be there for her, I know you heard it
before but, you just have to find a way to
ease yourself or it will drive you crazy..
Try talking to her about it..
Jacob - w,
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paramedicman
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 May 2005 Posts: 8 Location: michigan
Actually Posted: 05-11-05 17:10pm
You know what man, it may not be a good
thing to talk to her about it, that could,
as you know spark something. Just be
there for her thats all I can say. You
can only do as much as your mind will let
you...
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halfmoon
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 May 2005 Posts: 6 Location: East Coast
Regarding Those Delusions . . . Posted: 05-15-05 04:54am
I have just started seeing a guy who is
bipolar. I am so glad to have found this
forum because I thought I was the one who
was going crazy. It is good to hear what
others have to say about this. This guy
can be the sweetest guy in the world and
then turn around and be verbally abusive.
I have been confronting him with his
behavior because I think that is the only
way I can possibly stay in the
relationship. From what I have heard
from other people I think he needs an
increase in the dosage of his medication
and I am working on getting him to the
doctor as he has not been in a while. We
aren't kids . We are both in our 50's.
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halfmoon
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 May 2005 Posts: 6 Location: East Coast
Regarding Those Delusions . . . Posted: 05-15-05 04:55am
I have just started seeing a guy who is
bipolar. I am so glad to have found this
forum because I thought I was the one who
was going crazy. It is good to hear what
others have to say about this. This guy
can be the sweetest guy in the world and
then turn around and be verbally abusive.
I have been confronting him with his
behavior because I think that is the only
way I can possibly stay in the
relationship. From what I have heard
from other people I think he needs an
increase in the dosage of his medication
and I am working on getting him to the
doctor as he has not been in a while. We
aren't kids . We are both in our 50's.
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long viewer
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 May 2005 Posts: 17 Location: pa
People Think That Being Bipolar Makes You Not Human Posted: 05-19-05 23:08pm
She has a disorder, she isn't another
species. Treat her like she were a
really emotional person, because that is
what she is. That whole big jazz about
not wanting their significant others help
is crap- this is a very very serious
disease that cannot be helped just by
saying, "i want to be there for you".
If you really want to help her encourage
her to get treatment, and point out when
her mood seems less than her normal state.
This will give her the motivation to
want to change.
Lying is not a symptom of mania that I
know of, maybe it is just the way she is
and she is more inclined to lie when she
is not of normal mood. She may believe
the things that she says, which isn't
typically lying.
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long viewer
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 May 2005 Posts: 17 Location: pa
People Think That Being Bipolar Makes You Not Human Posted: 05-19-05 23:08pm
She has a disorder, she isn't another
species. Treat her like she were a
really emotional person, because that is
what she is. That whole big jazz about
not wanting their significant others help
is crap- this is a very very serious
disease that cannot be helped just by
saying, "i want to be there for you".
If you really want to help her encourage
her to get treatment, and point out when
her mood seems less than her normal state.
This will give her the motivation to
want to change.
Lying is not a symptom of mania that I
know of, maybe it is just the way she is
and she is more inclined to lie when she
is not of normal mood. She may believe
the things that she says, which isn't
typically lying.
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BPjoe23
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Oct 2005 Posts: 111 Location: dfw tx
Re: People Think That Being Bipolar Makes You Not Human Posted: 10-11-05 21:20pm
long viewer
wrote:
she has a disorder, she
isn't another species. Treat her like
she were a really emotional person,
because that is what she is. That whole
big jazz about not wanting their
significant others help is crap- this is a
very very serious disease that cannot be
helped just by saying, "i want to be there
for you".
If you really want to help her encourage
her to get treatment, and point out when
her mood seems less than her normal state.
This will give her the motivation to
want to change.
Lying is not a symptom of mania that I
know of, maybe it is just the way she is
and she is more inclined to lie when she
is not of normal mood. She may believe
the things that she says, which isn't
typically
lying.
right I couldn't of said it better my
self. You should tell her the truth
but use caution. Be like lately to me it
seems you been up/or down I just wanted to
point that out to you. Which ever case it
may be. If you truely love them you are
going to be there for them no matter what
and give the support and encourgement.
It amazing to read half these post and it
all "well I loved him, but he was so etc
etc etc,but you end up leaving, I question
if you people where really in love. You
have to remind bipolar people have a
illness a disorder there's things called
therapist,and relationship/marrage
counstlers(sp?)
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poetprose
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Oct 2005 Posts: 22 Location: Ontario
Re: Delusions Posted: 10-29-05 13:45pm
paul_
wrote:
i found out earlier in the
week that my girlfriend has bipolar
disorder, I realised today that it's much
more serious that I had previously thought
it was after she had a relapse and was
admitted to hospital. The problem is
that yesterday she said something awful
about her father (which caused a lot of
trouble), which is untrue. She's not a
liar, she just believed so strongly that
what she said was true.
My problem is what to do if something like
this happens again, am I supposed to be
sympathetic and believe (or at least
pretend) to believe what she says, or am I
supposed to tell her what I really think,
which is that she's delusional. I know
that the latter will be likely to upset
her, and she'll refuse to admit it. The
problem is also that in future, how am I
supposed to know whether she is telling
the truth? I suppose if she is in a
manic state, it might be a giveaway, but
to be honest; yesterday I didn't even
notice that she was in a manic state.
I really don't know anything about bipolar
disorder, if anybody can offer any helpful
advice or if you have any links to
interesting articles etc. I'd greatly
appreciate it.
Thanks.
hello!! I am diagnosed with bipolor type
1,
i understand dellusions, let me explain
how overpowering they are...
4 yrs ago in the throws of a full
fledged "mania" I believed so strongly
that everyone should just get a divorce at
40 that there should be a law telling
people to divorce
so I filed for divorce but told my hubby(
husband) he could come over on weekends to
sleep with me if he wanted, but that we
had to get divorced (how crazy is that)
i was also convinced that my husband was a
spy.... Lol
i was caught , captured and medicated....
Thank goodness the whole divorce thing
only endedup costing me a few hundred
dollars , it could have been alot
worse.....So in that case the medication
was a must
