I am new here.. And frustrated about
having gained all my weight and more back.
Since I can think food has been the most
important thing in my life. I am super
big again and don´t know what to do
anymore. I had gastrid banding surgery,
lost 120 pounds in 2 years and gained 140
back in 2 more years. My weight is
preventing me from being in a
relationship. I feel like a prisoner and
I still fight every minute with me to stop
thinking about food. What can I do?
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lostoyou
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Jan 2004 Posts: 170 Location: Ireland
Your Not Alone Posted: 04-21-05 08:44am
Hey there! You know surgry won't change
you on the inside only the outside. You
need to work on how you feel and think
about yourself. Have you considered going
for therapy? I am in therapy because I
have an eating disorder and there are many
people that are overweight that are in
therapy too because its not about your
size or food. Food is just a way for you
to deal with how you think and feel,
therapy helps you to change your thoughts
and feelings to be more positive about
yourself and your life. It really doesn't
matter what size you are because all
eating disorders are the same, the reasons
behind the behaviour are the same for all
people who suffer with an eating disorder
regardless of shape or size. I really
hope that you get some help because it
will make the world of difference. I know
a women who was overweight and spent 10
years in her house because she didn't want
to go outside, she was afraid the world
would judge her. Now that women is in
therapy and she is feeling so much better
about herself, for the first time in years
she has gone on holidays and enjoyed
herself so much. She is getting her life
back. Please do your best to get help and
don't let anyone tell you that you don't
need it, that all you need is to lose
weight because its not true. You need to
feel light and thin in your head and that
will only happen when your feelings and
thoughts become more positive.
Remember there is always hope and you can
recover from this. I wish you the best of
luck and write to me anytime you want to
talk ok. Take care of yourself
jenny
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poetmcc
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Mar 2005 Posts: 273
Posted: 04-21-05 15:49pm
Hey max, how are you? I'm sorry that your
weight and eating problmes are keeping you
from having a normal life, but I can
definitely relate so you are by no means
alone. My eating problems also has me
thinking about food a lot so I know how it
is to fight that thought all the time.
Somtimes your own body feels like a
prison.
I guess you should ask yourself why you
gained all the weight back? Were you
eating more? Were you using food as a
comfort source? Were there complications
from surgery? Also did you have an eating
disorder such as complusive eating before
the surgery? This might have followed you
after your surgery as well. This is what
it sounds like to me.
Eating disorders are frustrating and
tiring, they can really drain you
emotionally and physically. But there is
help for those who choose to take it.
Reach out to someone and they will reach
back. I can't advice you to go to a Dr.
Immediately because I would be being a
hypocrite. But I hope that you don;t end
up like me- keeping it a secret which
begins to control you I hope you go to
therapy like lostoyou mentioned. Think
about it, its your life, you have control
over it. Keep me posted and remember you
are not alone and there is a solution if
you look. :d
