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Q: Just Need to Know If Anyone Else Feels the Same Way!!

asked by: BoydFan on November 6th, 2003

New User

I just posted this on the depression forum as well, but since I don't know what exactely I suffer from I wanted to share it here as well!

Hi everyone, I am new on here and was really relieved to find a place that we can talk about our problems. I'm not really sure if I am suffering from depression or anxiety, I seem to have characteristics of both. Basically lately I am scared of everything, mostly change! I got married in july and things were going great till about 2 or 3 weeks ago. My husband and I live with family, my parents and my younger brother and we are happy here, but still want our own things. But lately I don't want to leave, I don't want to grow up, I worry that by getting older the ones I love get older and I couldn't live without them. I try to not let my mind wander but no matter what I do it does. I'm scared as hell to lose my parents or my brother or husband, and I don't think I can go when I do. Before the last little while I have been an avid person that lives everyday to the fullest and now i'm not, i'm too worried about what is going to happen one day and not enjoying what I have right now. And i'm scared one day I will be alone, what if i'm the last to die, how could I be by myself?? I keep thinking it would be so much easier to be dead and never have to worry, but i'm certainly not suicidal. I just don't know how much longer I can live like this. Does anyone else feel like this and how do you live with it??

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cynthiaforbey

replied on November 13th, 2003

New User

Re:anxiety/depression

Hi! My name is cindy and I suffer from anxiety/depression and have panic attacks also.The anxiety and depression kinda work hand in hand as also stress will trigger the both. The only thing I can suggest for you to do because I also fear the lose of people in my life and i've actually have lost three people in my family in less than 2 years,which has been very hard to deal with. But you take one day at a time go back to living each day to the fullest. I would find a hobby something to keep busy ; it always helps me to have a little distraction in my life to get thruogh the day.
Sincerely ,cindy

qt3

replied on November 14th, 2003

Experienced User

Re:anxiety/depression

cynthiaforbey wrote:

hi! My name is cindy and I suffer from anxiety/depression and have panic attacks also.The anxiety and depression kinda work hand in hand as also stress will trigger the both. The only thing I can suggest for you to do because I also fear the lose of people in my life and i've actually have lost three people in my family in less than 2 years,which has been very hard to deal with. But you take one day at a time go back to living each day to the fullest. I would find a hobby something to keep busy ; it always helps me to have a little distraction in my life to get thruogh the day.

Sincerely ,cindy

hi cindy,
I suffered from panic, anxiety and depression for years and was on meds until I discovered cognitive behavioral therapy (cbt). Cbt is not like other talk therapy. My favorite starter book on cbt is "been there, done that? Do this! By sam obitz. You may also want to check out the mood gym site for further research on cbt. Take care.

Munoz1226

replied on December 23rd, 2003

Experienced User

Anxiety/depression

Hi, I also suffer from anxiety and at times have been very depressed and lost a lot of weight. I now gained the weight back and am feeling a lot better because I started finding hobbies also to keep me busy. What about church? Or if you can't attend church, just finding a quiet place to talk to god would help. There are times when I think that I will not get past my grandparents or my mother dying. I worry about my family and daughter a lot, but I have to strive to keep faith in god. He knows what is best. Anytime I start to worry about people I love and care for dying, I pray and ask god to please help keep us healthy and safe for as long as possible. Then if I get too stressed out about it, I tell god that I cannot worry anymore and that I am handing my worries over to him. Try it! God is so powerful!

2ferano

replied on December 23rd, 2003

Extremely eHealthy

Once you get those thoughts in your head, they are hard to shake. It is probably anxiety. What you have to do is just try so hard not to think those things. All of us would go crazy if we focused on the bad things and worried about what will someday happen. Try as hard as you can to get back into your normal frame of mind without meds. Just live every day to the fullest, so that if you do lose someone close to you, you wont regret the time you didn't spend with them, because you were too busy worrying about losing them! If you cannot overcome this on your own, then see your doctor and ask for help. I wish you the best.

purple333

replied on December 24th, 2003

Extremely eHealthy

I believe that I replied to your other post earlier this week. Still it bears repetition.

I totally agree with those above who said you need to concentrate on the good things, enjoy your life & the lives of your loved ones now so you won't have regrets later.

It does sound like a combination of stress/anxiety/depression & too much change. I lived with my now husband for a year prior to our marriage & I was 28 & thought all would stay the same (we also lived with my mother) but after we were married I went through a period that a friend (who was also a psychologist) later helped me see was me trying to somehow live up to totally unreal expectations of working, being a wife, daughter & doing everything "right" rather than just continuing as things were before we got a "marriage certificate"!!

My point is, that we sometimes respond to even minor "paperwork" changes in really way out stressed ways. You need to figure out what's set this off & then you'll probably find yourself laughing about it, as I did(i also felt pretty silly!!)

a couple of things that help stress are gentle 30minute walks between 6 & 7 am when the sunsrays (even if it's overcast) work to balance stress causing chemicals in our brains & eating foods high in tryptophan (it occurs naturally in lots of foods eg. Turkey, yoghurt, most nuts, alot of cheeses, pumpkin seeds etc etc).

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