Someone plz listen. I am in indian
growing up in us for the past 12 years.
My parents are so incredibly'
overprotective of me being traditional, I
am 16, I am not allowed to date, watch
practically anything on tv, go to friends'
houses or anything. I have never had a
close friend in my life. I am lonely and
miserable because of them. I am crying as
I write this. They have made my life
terrible, all they care about is my
grades, that's not fair when will I ever
have fun? They already told me they will
never let me go away to college, I have to
stay home while going to college and I am
jus so mad and miserable about my life
which really isn't a life. It is just an
endless thing fighting with my parents all
the time. What do they think they are
doing? Maybe I deserve this? I don't
know what to think. Tonight is my junior
prom and i'm sitting at home in my room
while everyone having fun and i'm not
allowed to. What kind of life is this. I
do suffer from other eating problmes too
and I am just depressed beyond words.
What's my next step plz plz tell
me!!!!!!!!!!! :cry: :cry: :cry: :(
:( :(
|
ggshawy
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Apr 2005 Posts: 39 Location: herts
Posted: 04-16-05 04:41am
By any chance darling are you an only
child, all parents want the best for
their children but yes they are a bit over
the top, although maybe when your older
and succesful your thank them or maybe
your reject them for holding you back as a
child its a tough one.
I hope your ok though, keep your chin up
and you can email me if you feel lonely
or down, thanks for replying to my post.
Gg_9@hotm
ail.Co.Uk
|
wakkochic17
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Mar 2004 Posts: 494 Location: South Carolina
Posted: 04-18-05 13:10pm
No one deserves that.. Unfortunately
since you are under you parents care there
isn't much you can do other than finding
ways to cope, and maybe finding
alternative ways to keep yourself busy and
happy. Maybe write your parents a
letter, like you have on here, describing
how you want to make them happy, but that
you need some freedom to be happy
yourself! As for college, maybe try to
get a scholarship or finance your way to a
college of your choice. Once you are 18
they can't force you, although it may
strain your relationship so that's always
a hard toss-up. Your next step is to
keep talking about it.. Talk about it to
friends at school, etc. Keep a journal
to get out all your feelings. And try to
keep focused that you have less than 2
years before you are in college and will
have at least some greater ability for
freedom!
|
erics_gem01
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Apr 2005 Posts: 3
Re: So Miserable- Help Posted: 04-19-05 13:45pm
Dear so miserable-
well my parents are the complete
opposite I am 16 and well I can do
anything I want but get this all I have is
one parent be lucky and happy to have two
parents.. My mom is a great mom but
sometimes she can't be in five places at
once she has to deal with her life my
brothers and mine... Just sit down and
talk to your parents and let them know
your problems talking about it with them
will help and let them know you are 16 and
trust me babe once your 18 you can get the
hell out of there...You will be your own..
Tell your parents they can't control
everything you do because you need to
learn from your own mistakes... Put your
foot down..I did with my dad but thats
just because he is a loser and I had to be
his parent....I'm here for ya because when
my mom won't let me do something I get
pissed and throw a fit don't be like
that..Be mature about everything
|
poetmcc
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Mar 2005 Posts: 273
Thanks All of You!! Posted: 04-21-05 15:57pm
Thanks all of you. I'm really happy
someone cares enough to answer. I guess I
will do like you say- write in a diary and
wait till i'm 18 for independence. You
guys have really helped. I am surviving
for now both my parents and my eating
disorder. Thanks again.
|
twentyone
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Mar 2005 Posts: 61 Location: uk
Posted: 04-29-05 09:26am
Poet just read your post.......... I was
reading a few posts and u wen u replyied
saying the age u were I cudnt believe it
you r so mature and caring. You seem a
great person despite they way your parents
treat you. Hang in there try and be the
happiest you can be. One day hopefully
you can look back with a beautiful wife
and children at your side and learn from
the experience. Keep your chin up sweety
.
|
poetmcc
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Mar 2005 Posts: 273
Posted: 04-29-05 11:33am
Hi twentyone, thanks for the reply. Yeah
I am 15 years and a high school student.
Also I am a female so I guess the
beauitiful wife part doesn't apply ha ha.
I am trying to keep my chin up. Thanks
again. Take care guys.
|
smith007
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Apr 2005 Posts: 21 Location: ontario
Talk to School Guidance Counsellor Posted: 04-29-05 14:16pm
Hey there...How about talking to a school
guidance counsellor? Set up an
appointment and when you go to see
him/her...You can talk about anything with
them!...They are such good help!!!!....
|
davey
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 May 2005 Posts: 4 Location: Canberra, Australia
Write It Down Posted: 05-02-05 04:38am
Hi poetmcc
you sound like a very mature and
intelligent 15 year old, I am only 21 but
here's my advice. Your parents do love
you and they will listen to you, as long
as you communicate in an adult way.
In the past, I have found it really useful
to write out what you want to say to them
- dot points, some sentences. Then
prepare yourself by saying it out loud by
yourself in your room. Then ask your
parents if you can find 1/2 hour to an
hour where just you and your parents can
talk uninterrupted (hard if you have any
siblings). Then go through the points
with them, perhaps ask if you can read
your points uninterrupted and then your
parents can speak, or go through each
point individually.
Hopefully your parents will listen, and
try and make some compromises.
Compromises are the name of the game here,
don't go for an all or nothing approach.
You are still very young and are still a
child, who is now growing up and becoming
a woman. Good luck
|
sunkissed
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 May 2005 Posts: 3 Location: Nashville
Find a Passion. Posted: 05-02-05 12:26pm
Dear poet,
my advise to you, though it may seem to
be similar to others... And this has
worked for me in the past, being a girl,
and dealing with some of the same issues,
was to find something that I could really
pour myself into...I chose music, art, and
poetry. The three kind of go hand in hand
but if you can't get your hands on an
instrument of some sort, writing and
drawing will definately help. And it
seems to me that you have already taken a
very important step by simply reaching out
for help and advice from others...You
already have many friends on here! :wink:
I know it doesn't really fill that "best
friend" void but we are all here for you.
I will be praying for you about these
issues, I know how frusterating it is to
feel like a caged bird at times but you
will pull through this! Thanks for taking
the time to read this...Bless you sweets!
|
poetmcc
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Mar 2005 Posts: 273
Thanks Sunkissed Posted: 05-02-05 20:53pm
Hey sunkissed thank you so much for taking
the time to read and reply to my post!!
It really made me feel a lot better. I
feel that I am not the worst person as I
thought I was because of all the thoughts
I had about my parents...
Thanks most of all for just mentioning
that you are out there for me- really you
are my last hope in this thing- that is
all I needed to know- that I am not
alone!! I feel lonely as I mentioned also
because of my eating problem and stuff
too...
I do write poems and my screename attests
to that...
Well take care and continue with your
music art and poetry!
|
MissJudged
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 May 2005 Posts: 8 Location: new York
Hey Posted: 05-02-05 21:53pm
Hey I hope ur feeling better and I think
you should sit down and talk to them, but
I can see ur parents really care for you,
well if anything if u need a friend to
talk to, just email me..Okay
p.S hope u feel better.
|
sandyallen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Feb 2004 Posts: 4580
Posted: 05-02-05 22:22pm
Hi there! You might talk to your school
counselor about this or your school nurse
as you do sound like you are a bundle of
nerves which is not helping your eating
problem, have you tried to talk to your
parents, or an aunt or someone that is
close to you. Keep us posted, we are
here for you.
You can also go to mental health, social
services or teen connection, I feel that
there is someone out there that can help
you.
Sincerely,
sandy
|
poetmcc
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Mar 2005 Posts: 273
Posted: 05-03-05 14:15pm
Hi sandy, yes I tried talking to a
counselor freshman year of high school- 2
years ago and I told her how my parents
are so overprtoective I am depressed and
stuff and she called my parents!! My
parenst were mad- that was the worst night
of my life :cry: :cry: I dont know what's
their problem but I am trying to survive
it. Hopefully one day I will be happy and
free from my ed.
Wel thanks for the advice, maybe I can
talk to a counselor online or call a
teenline like you said. Bye for now.
