That is a big mess. I really cannot tell you how badly you need to choose and leave the other one. You are stringing them both along and in the end you are the only one who will be left alone. You have to choose one and let the other down gently....

Well first I dont think you should be in an abusive relationship. Second you shouldnt be cheating either. And then its with family. That is very messed up. Its like saying, whos next? The uncle? The cousin is also going through a divorce and its not final. So he's still married and then hes gonna quickly jump in another marriage? And youve been with this guy 3 years and the cousin as a hook up and you love them both? I think it sounds like you got yourself mixed up in a jerry springer conflict. You need to leave both these guys and find a new one. And dont go to his cousin either. You need to make up your mind and decide before they both dump you.

We cant tell you who to choose thats on you. But to me it sounds like you need a break.

Well.....It sounds like ur in a right mess. Firstly, if u did love them both,u wouldnt b cheating secondly, how cud u do it? Theyre family!! Thirdly, nikki's right, this is one for jerry!!!
U need 2 decide who u want or what u want cos what ur doing is so unfair 2 both of them-u must think ur a real babe 2 have 2 guys on the go!!!!!!

I dumped my abusive boyfriend over the weekend and told his cousin that if he really does care then come back after the divorce and everything. Then me and him may talk. As for loving them both I do really love the cousin. I loved my ex bf but it had changed for a love you love you to a like you love you as a friend kind of thing.

Whoa, that last sentence lost me! Love you love to love or something...I didnt catch that one. But thats good you dumped the abusive one. And for the married to call you up when everything is final was smart too. You made a great decision for yourself.

Thats really good to hear hun!! And niki I think she meant to say instead of saying she loved her ex she would change it to like you get it now?? Its okay it confused me at first too!! I had to read it like 4 times!!!Lol!! Well much love ya'll and god bless!!

Jen

I told the cousin if he called after everything is final thats ok. But for now I am trying to move on. I was asked out by a really nice guy and we are going to the movies friday. I know jumping to soon. But he is really nice and it is just a date. Thanks for the help.

Thats great! Its just a date so thats good. As long as you dont come back here seeing stars! But have fun!

Nikki_caro, thanks i'll let you know about it on monday. I will be a good girl. I know what I just got out of. I'm not looking for a relationship right now.

Well I am glad that the girls were able to somehow help you to make it through. Choosing which one is right for you is always hard, because then you fell bad if the one you choose doesnt work out. Ya get what I am saying. Sometimes my boyfriend gets violent, but things here are getting better. I find it amazing how I am able to connect in so many ways with some many different types of people. I do think however, that you should
"just date" for awhile. I know that if I was to go through a break up right now that I would not even date for a long time. But it is different with me because my boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years and have s on together. I am praying that everything works out for you, and that you are not hurt by any guy, and that you are not put in that type of situation again. I know things like that can be really hard to handly, but when you try you can do anything.

Loads of love, laughter, and joy!!

Stacie

Ok me and the other guy went out dancing. We had a lot of fun and then went home. Nothing big. Then I saw him thanksgiving because he is my best friends brothers family. I went to there house for thinksgiving and he was there.

Oh dancing is fun! Im glad you had fun! So are you two just friends still or planning on another date?

Well we are still just friends but my best friend and her boyfriend are celebrating two years together friday night and she wonts me to go. She said somethings in front of him and he said he would go with me so I didn't have to be like the third wheel. We are going dancing again. I think it will be fun.

Thats great! A double date! I always want to go on those with friends but nobody will go with me!! I only have 1 friend! Its so annoying. I love dancing. I used to go so much. Have fun!

I know your in a difficult spot right now, but you gotta make up your mind. You cant keep going back and forth, its not fair to either of them. Either pick one or pick none, you cant keep lying to ur bf or his cousin. U said your bf could get abusive...Well, he'll be happier knowing rahter then you lying to him, even if you dont understand that now. Just dont let him take advantage of you or hurt you. You gotta be fair about this, to both guys.