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Q: What Did I Do Wrong???

asked by: 2lonelyandlost on April 7th, 2005

New User

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i am now 4 moths pregnant and a8. I will be 19 next month. And I already know that I willl have to get child support from the boy who was my "boyfriend". He was really sweet to me, and did things that nobody has ever done before. But once I was pregnant he was around for the first month. That was it.
He wanted me to have an abortion.
Then told me that he would support whatever decision I make.
Then he wanted too see me. And stood me up twice. Never called to say he couldnt make it. Never apologized or say that he was sorry.
I have never lied to him. Cheated on him. Decieved him. I am just tired of cryin over thangs that I can not fix or change.
I am not understanding his thiniking. What did I do wrong?
They only thing that I have asked of him is just to be able to see him. :(
this really hurts me a lot. I wonder if theere is another girl.
I am orignally from atlanta now in kansas and he keeps asking me when am I leaving. And I think that he does this to try to get me gone before the baby comes

Replies(10)

BrianBaby

replied on April 7th, 2005

Extremely eHealthy

I'm sorry to hear about your situation hun, but it sounds like he dosn't want to be a part of your and your baby's life. That's his loss. Right now you should focus on yourself and your unborn child, and not worry about the dad. Make sure he pays his child support too

Kia

replied on April 7th, 2005

Supporter

You didn't do anything wrong. He's just a guy, he never expected this to happen and when it did he was able to run away from the fact because it didn't follow him everywhere.
You probably didn't expect this to happen, but it does follow you everywhere so you have to face up to it.
No, you didn't do anything wrong.

redsugar

replied on April 7th, 2005

Experienced User

I'm sorry hun! If he's gonna act like this he doesn't deserve to be a part of this babies life! Get all the child support you can from him!!! Just concentrate on keeping yourself healthy!!!! You will find someone who is so much better than this guy!

Innchik18

replied on April 7th, 2005

Experienced User

Hun listen.. Men are just men...
I can guarantee you.. You did nothing wrong. I have gone through the same thing. Its their own insecurities that force them to act this way. Just try to focus on your pregnancy which is wayy more important. Hopefully he'll calm down and come around to being the great person you once knew. One piece of advise I would give you is not to be nagging.

2ferano

replied on April 7th, 2005

Extremely eHealthy

You didn't do anything wrong! I'm not going to say that he is a man and that is why he is being like this, because not all men are jerks. He is a jerk yes, but it had nothing to do with him being a man.
He is obviously irresponsible and immature and I am so very sorry that you have to go through this! But, it isn't your fault at all! It is just the way he is and that is a darn shame. Be strong, u can do this!

mommytobe16

replied on April 8th, 2005

Experienced User

Sorry hun, yes make sure he pays child support becuz this is his child too, but you are probably better off in the long run being a single mother

melissa1985

replied on April 8th, 2005

New User

Know What Its Like

Everyone is right you did nothing wrong! I would know I am 19 and just had my son on march 9, 2005! I am a single mom, and have not talked to my sons father since I told him I was pregnant. He even tryed to tell all my friends its not his baby! It hurts, but you have to try and overcome it because you have someone much more important to worry about now, your baby. I won't lie to you and tell you that its easy to be a single mom, but when you hold your baby for the first time, it will make everything worth while! Hold your head up and forget this guy, trust me when your baby is here you'll see hes the one missing out on something!

sftbllchika06

replied on April 8th, 2005

Experienced User

You did nothing wrong. My baby's father is the exact same way. He took off and left. I just told him and myself that it is his loss that he will never know his child. Im me is you ever need to talk aim: hch hottie06 or pm me

haliparot

replied on April 9th, 2005

Experienced User

I know that this really hurts but try to not be affected with what he is doing. I think he is trying to hurt you to get away with the responsibility and to make you decide to abort the baby. Please don't do this whatever he does. Because this is immoral and your concience will hunt you for life. So raise to child, if you're boyfriend can't support you, ask help from trusthworthy older people. Like your parents etc. Your life can still be successful and beautiful even it is now a little bit harder. I know you can do it. You will never regret if you decide on not aborting your baby.

Super Nova

replied on April 15th, 2005

New User

Don't worry about him, remember the courts will make him pay child support. You should really just forget about him. The courts can make him pay child support but they can't make him help you raise the kid (aside from the money part).

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