Joined: 07 Apr 2005 Posts: 3 Location: overland park
What Did I Do Wrong??? Posted: 04-07-05 12:53pm
:(
i am now 4 moths pregnant and a8. I will
be 19 next month. And I already know that
I willl have to get child support from the
boy who was my "boyfriend". He was really
sweet to me, and did things that nobody
has ever done before. But once I was
pregnant he was around for the first
month. That was it.
He wanted me to have an abortion.
Then told me that he would support
whatever decision I make.
Then he wanted too see me. And stood me
up twice. Never called to say he couldnt
make it. Never apologized or say that he
was sorry.
I have never lied to him. Cheated on him.
Decieved him. I am just tired of cryin
over thangs that I can not fix or change.
I am not understanding his thiniking.
What did I do wrong?
They only thing that I have asked of him
is just to be able to see him. :(
this really hurts me a lot. I wonder if
theere is another girl.
I am orignally from atlanta now in kansas
and he keeps asking me when am I leaving.
And I think that he does this to try to
get me gone before the baby comes
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BrianBaby
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jan 2005 Posts: 1383
Posted: 04-07-05 14:06pm
I'm sorry to hear about your situation
hun, but it sounds like he dosn't want to
be a part of your and your baby's life.
That's his loss. Right now you should
focus on yourself and your unborn child,
and not worry about the dad. Make sure
he pays his child support too
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Kia
Supporter
Joined: 23 Jun 2004 Posts: 6594 Location: Planet Tampaxia,
Posted: 04-07-05 16:35pm
You didn't do anything wrong. He's just a
guy, he never expected this to happen and
when it did he was able to run away from
the fact because it didn't follow him
everywhere.
You probably didn't expect this to happen,
but it does follow you everywhere so you
have to face up to it.
No, you didn't do anything wrong.
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redsugar
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Feb 2005 Posts: 140
Posted: 04-07-05 16:55pm
I'm sorry hun! If he's gonna act like
this he doesn't deserve to be a part of
this babies life! Get all the child
support you can from him!!! Just
concentrate on keeping yourself
healthy!!!! You will find someone who is
so much better than this guy!
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Innchik18
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Nov 2004 Posts: 247 Location: Oregon
Posted: 04-07-05 19:55pm
Hun listen.. Men are just men...
I can guarantee you.. You did nothing
wrong. I have gone through the same
thing. Its their own insecurities that
force them to act this way. Just try to
focus on your pregnancy which is wayy more
important. Hopefully he'll calm down and
come around to being the great person you
once knew. One piece of advise I would
give you is not to be nagging.
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 04-07-05 23:54pm
You didn't do anything wrong! I'm not
going to say that he is a man and that is
why he is being like this, because not all
men are jerks. He is a jerk yes, but it
had nothing to do with him being a man.
He is obviously irresponsible and immature
and I am so very sorry that you have to go
through this! But, it isn't your fault
at all! It is just the way he is and
that is a darn shame. Be strong, u can
do this!
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mommytobe16
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Jan 2005 Posts: 80 Location: ottawa, ontario
Posted: 04-08-05 08:18am
Sorry hun, yes make sure he pays child
support becuz this is his child too, but
you are probably better off in the long
run being a single mother
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melissa1985
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Apr 2005 Posts: 1
Know What Its Like Posted: 04-08-05 09:40am
Everyone is right you did nothing wrong!
I would know I am 19 and just had my son
on march 9, 2005! I am a single mom, and
have not talked to my sons father since I
told him I was pregnant. He even tryed
to tell all my friends its not his baby!
It hurts, but you have to try and overcome
it because you have someone much more
important to worry about now, your baby.
I won't lie to you and tell you that its
easy to be a single mom, but when you hold
your baby for the first time, it will make
everything worth while! Hold your head up
and forget this guy, trust me when your
baby is here you'll see hes the one
missing out on something!
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sftbllchika06
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Dec 2004 Posts: 413 Location: St. Louis
Posted: 04-08-05 21:28pm
You did nothing wrong. My baby's father
is the exact same way. He took off and
left. I just told him and myself that it
is his loss that he will never know his
child. Im me is you ever need to talk
aim: hch hottie06 or pm me
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haliparot
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Nov 2004 Posts: 209 Location: San Diego, CA United States
Posted: 04-09-05 03:47am
I know that this really hurts but try to
not be affected with what he is doing. I
think he is trying to hurt you to get away
with the responsibility and to make you
decide to abort the baby. Please don't
do this whatever he does. Because this
is immoral and your concience will hunt
you for life. So raise to child, if
you're boyfriend can't support you, ask
help from trusthworthy older people.
Like your parents etc. Your life can
still be successful and beautiful even it
is now a little bit harder. I know you
can do it. You will never regret if you
decide on not aborting your baby.
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Super Nova
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 07 Apr 2005 Posts: 19 Location: NC
Posted: 04-15-05 20:50pm
Don't worry about him, remember the courts
will make him pay child support. You
should really just forget about him. The
courts can make him pay child support but
they can't make him help you raise the kid
(aside from the money part).
