16 And Have Had 2 Miscarrys And Want to Get Preggy, Advice?

You should not be trying to get pregnant!! You should be thinking about school and graduating first. Babies are nice, but they're forever and they're a lot of work!! Take your miscarriages as a sign that you're not ready for a baby. I guarantee there will be a part of you that will regret having a baby so young...You're just a kid! You can't even drive yet!! Seriously, think this through. It's not a good idea. You need to be able to support the baby emotionally and financially (and by financially I don't mean medical assistance and wic) and be able to provide a stable, nurturing home. You can't do any of that right now. How long is your boyfriend really going to stick around if you had a baby?? Most don't stay too long once they realize all the work involved and that their social lives no longer exist. You should get on birth control asap!!

I don't think you should be trying to get pregnant at 15.It is not that easy as it looks, it takes more than dressing up a baby to raise one..Go and get your neices or nephews and spend time with them..I used to be just like you, and I am glad I haven't gotting pregnant yet..Finish school! Go to college! Get a job! Get married! Then have a baby! You have plenty of time to go. You dont wanna be 29 with a 14 year old kid. Lmao

I think you should think it through because I am as old as you are and I know atleast at my school a lot of girls are pregnant and they regret it for a long time. I am a guy but I feel I am in touch with my feminine side :)
you can take my advice or dont but my suggestion is think of the long term plan and also think of whats right in your mind

Listen, im 17 and about to give birth to my first baby, my daughter. As much as I love her and I would never say that I regret choosing to keep her, just being pregnant at his younge of age is really hard! When I got pregnant I wasnt even 100 pounds and not much has changed. I am in pain all the time because I have no cushoning to help me carry a 5 pound baby. At first when you dont show people will still treat you the same but when you start to get bigger people change and they treat you different. All of a sudden mothers are whispering into their daughters ears, pointing at you and frowning and as much as I told myself it didnt matter, it really hurts. And your boyfriend wont always be there for you, he will get his fill of playing house and then leave you for some other girl who does not have attachments! Just think about what you are doing, do you think that you can raise a child when you are still a child yourself? Atleast I graduated early and im in college, you still have 4 years of high school ahead of you. Please think about your choices, think about the baby you would be bringing into this world. Could you live with yourself if something happened to it and it was your fault?

I think that if your ready than go for it I was 16 when I first fell pregnant I did have a bf and was ready I sorted out doing yr 12 then once the baby came doing night classes. If you think your ready mentally and financially and your bf will stick with you than go for it theres always a way getting around it at a young age my son was stillborn and ive had 2 miscarriages since after my last I decided it wasnt my fate to have a child just yet 4 weeks later I found out I may never have children. I do not have a child now but the thought of drinking and partying doesnt appeal to me at all maybe it is a sign that its not your time just yet but do think it all through very well. Good luck

Hi honey,
do you have parents to talk to about this? I can't believe they would be in support of you getting pregnant. In the end they will be the ones who will be raising it. There's also a 99% chance your boyfriend will not stay around. If you can't talk to your parents about this then go to your school therapist or nurse or a teacher and talk to them about this. I've never met a woman who had a baby at such a young age that thought it was a good idea. They all love their kids but would never go back and do it again. I beg you to think of the concequences of this. Children need adults to raise them. Even though you think you're ready, there's no way that you could possibly be able to give this child a good upbringing. You're just a little girl yourself. Please think about this! Angi :(

I married at 18 got preg right away and had her at 19. I am now 31 and have another daughter and am still with my husband. I love my daughter with all my heart and wouldn't trade her for the world. Think of what you will miss out on. You only get one chance to be young. No more parties, no more clubbin. What about college??? We never got to be newlyweds and do stuff other people our age did, because we had a baby so young. I look at all my friends on classmates and see what college's they went to, what careers they have, where they've traveled, and it makes me wish I would've waited. Oh, one more thing. All of my daughter's friends parents are all way older than I am, so it's kinda hard to find something in common with them.
Don't rush into being "grown up". One day you will wish you hadn't and could go back.

Hi there you really shouldn't think about having a baby right now you are young and haven't even seen the world yet you really should wait until your older. Trust me after that baby comes your boyfriend will be gone you have your whole life ahead of you and who is to say you will be with the young man your with for ever. Please honey take everyones advise on these replies if not you'll regret it so so much.

Please get on some birth control like asap

Girl wake up!! Why do you think you want to have a baby? I'll answer that question for you. Beacause they are so cute and you just want something or someone to love, right! That is the lousiest excuse I have ever heard! How do you expect to raise a baby without being able old enogh to drive or work? You can't. It's little girls like you who want to play house that make me sick. Grow up, get a job finish high school for petes sake. Go to college make something of yourself. Quit being so selfish!! Think before you act.

Your body isn't stron enough to support a baby and neither are you. I am not saying anything bad but having a baby is like no freedom. No free time, and you have to put the baby in front of you it comes first like if you need something really bad and your baby needs something and you only have a certain amount of money then your definately getting what the baby needs you know so think about it

Hey girl it is extemely hard to raise a child as a teenage mom I was 16 and my now husband was 15 almost 16 we were young and dum. I was lucky enough that he stayed with me we had a beatiful daghter that is now eight but even to this day it is hard becuase she is getting older and she is starting to want more then we can give her we also have a4 year old son.Think about it before you do we are now 25 and 23 we cannot get pregnant now I really wish now that we could have waited becuase now I cant get pregnant when we want one. If you want email me I can help if you need it ok I know from experinece

I was 15 when I got pregnant with my son he is 10 years old now and I wouldnt take anything in the world for him but I will tell you that there were alot of times when I had to sit back and watch my friends going out having a good time and I was stuck at home, at times like that I think I should have waited but I was in love with my then bf and eventually we married, unfortunat ely he cheated on me and I divorced him at the age of 17 all I can say is definitely think it through first bc its the only time you are ever going to be a teenager you dont get to go back..

Hello iam 18 and going to be having my first child in april but ill be 19 in january anyways I wish I waited..I mean I grad in june and everything so its not like I got pregnant before I finish high school..Anyways, I wanted a baby so bad then I stop trying in after I grad two months later I found out I was pregnant...I dont believe in abortions and I am not giving my child away..The father and I are gettin married next saturday been together for two years...Happy....So just wait to have a baby...They are alot of work and responsibility...


First time mom

becky

I would wait if I was you. I wouldnt want to have a baby at 15 or 16. I got pg when I was 17 had her when I was 18. I got married when I was just 17 and there is so much I missed out on. When I was 21 I didnt get to go out and party like must ppl do because I had a 3 yr old I had to take care of. Its harder than you think trust me. I know you have heard this so much, but your enjoy being a mom when your done doing what you want and going through school. I was pg when I graturated, I missed walking down the aisle being I was in labor with my daughter at that time. Stay young and have some fun!

I think you are crazy!!!! It's not as easy as you think. Trust me, I have 2.

First of all, I think you should learn how to spell (pregnant).
So, that shows that you need to be in school, not trying to have a baby.
Grow up first, your baby will thank you for it.

Hey im also 16 (sorry if words get stuck togeather my spacebar is being a jerk) anyways when reading through alot of these posts I see alot of hipercritical people (sorry I amnot good with big words) alot of you say oh the man will not stay with you. That isnt nessacarily true. Just because your man left u and u hear about it all the time dosnt mean it will happen to her. Im almost 17 and me and my boyfriend are currently talking about getting engaged. I also want to have a baby and he is fine with it hence why we arnt using protection but we arnt trying that hard because we want it to be more of a surprise. But yeah I think you guys should stop being so hipercritical. Not all guys are the same. Can you immagtion what a guy would think if he came onto this site and read some of your girls responses? He would be highly offended. I told my boyfriend of what some of you said and he agrees it is very hipicrical. So stop dissing guys, yes I do agree some are jerks but there are good ones too, who will forsure stay with you for the bad times and the good.

My advice would be to get your butt to college and wait like a decade till you can have some chance of looking after the poor thing. Don't sell your life short kid geez.

First can I say you are nuts!!!! At 16 I was thinking of what homework needed to get done and what college I wanted to go to not about getting pregnant. Your body may be telling you it is not the right time. Maybe waiting until your 20's would be better than when you are 16. A baby is a huge responsibility and it changes your whole night life. Please reconsider and wait until you are older. Be a kid or a teenager for a little longer. :?