28 Year Old Virgin - Help

Hmm..28 huh? Living at home......

Not that horrible. I mean I can't really say since I am a woman and lost mine young....

Yet, I honestly don't see that as being a bad thing...Just beucase you have an issue with your penis/preformance, doesn't mean that you have to look down on yourself. There are plenty of people out there with problems like yours...Yet, don't get all upset!

I am 26 and in the same boat with you. For me I grew up in a religious family and just a rumour of having taken a picture with a girl was enough to land you into the committee of church elders for some serious couselling on the dangers it can cause.My looks are ok and the size is also average. I have even been approached by about 7 girls now but I have always ended up disappointing them. To make things worse, I have even undressed 3 of them but in the middle I remember the church thing and I just end up disappointing them. And again after sometime I find myself regretting my actions. The worst fear that has struck me is that I found some rush on my penis 5 years a go. I went to a doctor and with all the shame and told her straight that I was a virgin and there was no way it could have been an std. She smiled and told me it was a heat rush (but she didn't carry out any lab tastes to confirm). I went to a different lab and carried out a syphillis taste but it gave negative results though. For 5 years now the thing has failed to go off. I have tried all sorts of antibiotics and bacterial lotions but nothing has happened. Now I regularly get sores on my pubic region and this has ruined my ego.
Back to the topic..... After reading all this I have realised that I am not the only one in this boat. I am still not going to just have sex for the sake of losing virginity. I will wait until one day someone comes my way. And I am not gonna tell any of my friends that I am a virgin . Neither will I tell any girl until I have had sex with her and she has said that I am good at it. Lol:)

Hey dude. Let me tell you i'm really good with women, but I used to be like you. Right now i'm charming, like a don juan. Anyways... To get good with women takes work and you have every part of your life set. Your lifestyle, goals, confidence, charm, humor, etc. Work on all that and also your looks and you will get better. I can go out and pick up a girl from a bar/club any night I want. 7 years ago I was socially anxious, a virgin, and had nothing going on for me, but I worked on it and i've slept with literally hundreds of girls. You need to work on your hobbies and lifestyle for a start. Get out there. Push yourself outside your comfort zone. I take it that you're an extremely shy person. Be social, get some friends and go hit on girls.

Also, if you find your first girlfriend don't just settle for her. Move on and date around so you can really see what you want.

Email me and I can give you a lot more stuff because frankly I feel bad for you...

Ps I measured my penis and it's a little over 4.5 inches erect measuring from the top no one's complained

I can definatley relate to a lot of things people are saying here. My situation is that i'm a 31 year old virgin. I feel like I missed the boat too like that other guy said. And its even harder at 31, that number just goes over and over in my head. Why did it happen? At least when I was younger I had friends and girls to hang out with. But every girl I have asked out turned me down. I mean consistant rejection over and over again. I hear I have a boyfriend, i'm married, or wrong phone number, wrong email. It takes its toll after years of it. I used to be happy but not now. Its not just me, its also my 2 brothers. I think they are both in the save vote as me. But we never will talk about it. We don't even talk about girls. My parents didn't help much either. They made me ashamed to like woman when I grew up. I used to turn my head when people kissed on television. Now I just watch in envy or I ball my eyes out if i've been drinking. Plus a very nice case of acne for my whole teenage years through high school and 7 years after that. Wasn't till I was around 25 that that hellish period started to go away. But crushing to the confidence no less. Spent most of the time looking at the floor. Didn't want people to see me. I thought I would get confident afterwards but still got plenty of things to be insecure about. People are kind enough to remind me of my insecurities.

My friends seemed to have the same problem, but eventually they were able to get out of it, i'm the last but they are all gone now that their lives are on the up and up and left me to go down in the gutter. no namers never helped me. And its not like I stay at home. I travel, go camping, bike riding, go to the beach, go to bars, volunteer for the community.

I missed out, not just sex, but companionship. I'm still missing out, something that should be so normal is a complete mystery to me. The
only ones that can relate to how hurtful it is are the others like me, like
the people on this site. Just years of endless pain.

Keanu2000, so you are saying I shouldnt stick with this girl even though shes awesome and is everything I was looking for?

Shes afraid im gonna leave her to try new things and be with different people. Shes says shes glad she was with other people and had relationships with other people because it helped her know what she wants. Now she knows she wants me and we have great sex. Unfortunately, she knows of my less than stellar love life and even though I had a few girlfriends and a few hookups I never had actual intercourse with them, sure I did other stuff, but not that. Any advice?

Makes me sick when I think about her with other guys. *puke*

Man, oh man, I feel for you!

Heey! Just like all the other women are saying on here, don't worry about it hun. I mean, in general it comes across as being a virgin is a bad thing, but it really isnt. It shows you have respect for not just yourself but women, and yah! So dont worry! And about the size of your penis, it seroiusly isnt about the size, I find wider is better than longer for sure, so dont worry about it! You'll find someone who luvs ya for u!! Good luck!

Go to a massage parlour that practices safe s.E.X. Ok
the girls will look after u..X

Ever try internet dating?

i notice this is an old post. but i'm curious ....since you've posted, have things changed in your life? were you successful in losing weight ? did that give you enough confidence to meet someone?

I think being 28 and a virgin is just fine, its not the norm, also too from a womens point of you, i rather date a virgin because hes more open to what i women wants and enjoys. My bf now has not has many partners nor has tried a lot of things, so i feel honored when he askes me for more of what i showed him. if you find the right women she wont care your a virgin and she will be willing to teach you and show you things. and i know there are a lot of women out there willing to do that. Also to i would suggest to stay away from the bars when looking, because i knwo a lot of people who havnt really found anything worth much from there.
Maybe you should look into a dating website. there are so many now adays, and thats how my bf and I met. and this way you get weed out people you want to talk to, and also too u can tlak and get to know one another before meeting.

Man, your penis is NORMAL. And if you've got the bucks, the Vegas hooker romp would probably be a BLAST, so have at it and have fun.

Don't feel ashamed. Plenty of people are still vergin I think. They just don't tell you about it.

Everything you say is nonsense. Don't think about it. Women need you. Find a woman who you really like and then think about her and don't think about yourself much. Everything would be OK, I'm sure. You are not a teen and you don't need a girl for walking and dancing. You need a Person who needs you. She doesn't need your penis. As for your penis just increase it. My husband used it.

I'm glad to see that this is a supportive thread on this subject. I myself am a 22 year old virgin, and in similar contrast, was focused on technology in high school, and more on school later on in high school and college. I used to have ADHD when I was younger and was placed in a ''Special'' class in high school where I can say there was NO female presence in. Likewise, I attended a tech school for college (DeVry) -- and, surprise, no females there either. I know I cant blame it all on that (and in a way it,s good that I didn,t slip to the wild life)... still feel that I have not lived.

My problem goes abit beyond the virgin thing, though. I have not even been on a single date, and have never even felt a woman's lips.

Working in IT, I sure dont see any action happening anytime soon, either.

My worst fear is that I will meet someone I am passionate for and she will want to have sex... before marriage. Yes, I'm very liberal but do hold a few of my faith's values deeply.

Most singles groups within my church are either between the ages of 30 and 50, or are thinking of choosing vocations as their career... when I am faithful but not to that extent.

If any of the above makes sense.

(Sorry if spelling errors are numerous... spell check does not work on Pocket IE)

i'm lost my virginity at 31. No big deal. And actually got a std from those first encounteers. There is plenty of time for sex. Your sex life is not over yet.

I AM A VIRGIN AND COULD REMAIN ONE!!!!!!!!!!! I am 18 years old. I have never in my life had a full erection or even one at 90 degrees. My right testicle is incredibly small whilst my left one is incredibly large. But on the whole I believe my testicle and penis size is small. My penis is between 2.5 and 3 inches when flaccid. But when it is hard/turgid (the hardest it gets) it is about 4.2 inches. But this is not my full erection!!! It is pointing downwards and is floppy!!! It does not even reach the 45 degrees level pointing down. It just points down and stays floppy!!! Also, when I masterbate, I therfore tense my penis and then masterbate and ejaculate. Once I have ejaculated, I instantly lose my sex drive and interest and clear up. I do not orgasm that much, very little and it just dribbles out everytime! Also, when my penis reaches the 4.2 inch level pointing down (i have never in my life not even once had a proper/full erection) I cannot pull my foreskin back, it is tight. But I can pull it back when it is 2.5 - 3 inches long. Also, my penis and foreskin is together by some flesh on my penis. I showed it to the doctor and she said it is quite large. Also, I do not have full facial hair, just side burns and on the chin and above the lips, I have a bit of armpit hair (someone once asked me if I shave them! But I do not, but my physique is ok). I have pubic hair though.

I have never ever had proper erection, therefore I believe there is physical problem. As I have never ever had an erection in the mornings of randomly!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Never!

I have only had 2 wet dreams in my life!!!

Also, my sugar level and testostorone level came out to be normal. My blood pressure was normal too.

Can you please realistically from any knowledge and experience explain to me what is the problem and how can it be dealt with.

Also, due to my problem this has not led me to potentially have my proper penis growth/size.

I do not smoke and drink and my health is on the top. Please I am desperate.

Due to my problem, I have never ever had any physical contact with women, not even a kiss or a hug!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Next week I am seeing a private specialist and I might be getting a tube stuck into my urethra so the doctor can see it from the inside, my veins etc on the penis. Also, I am getting an ultrasound done on my penis and testicles. Can I have more help please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I don't know what the problem, so I'd just suggest going to doctors and specialists which it seems like you are doing. Hopefully one of the tests would reveal a problem.

As for your other problems, maybe I could allay some worry.

Facial hair is a very odd thing it seems. Out of my three main friends and myself, not one of us has the ability to get a full beard and/or mustache. My hair grows thick and fast along the jawline and below, but the front of my face has very few and sparse hairs. Perhaps a couple hundred spread out in random spots. I can't even grow full sideburns. Other friends have spots that won't grow hair at all really. Body hair is even more random as many men will never have much.

Only two wet dreams? I don't think I've ever had even one, and I'm 27. That's likely because I've masturbated regularly since I was 11 or 12. So I've probably never gone long enough for my body to create the need for nocturnal emission.

Penis size is something hard to judge in the flaccid state. It's size will change easily and dramatically depending temperature, pressure, activity or what you have in your body, such as alcohol or drugs. Mine probably ranges from 3-4 inches normally, larger at times and unbelievably small at others. Since you've never had a full erection it's possible you could be average, but wouldn't know.

After you masturbate losing your sex drive is completely normal. It's a refractory period that nearly every male gets. I could masturbate and have the most beautiful naked woman walk in afterwards and ask me if I would like to have sex and I could say, "Nah, I'm good." Of course, I'd kick myself later. The refractory period is different for different people. It may be a few minutes or a couple hours. It can also be shorter than you think, but usually you're sated and do not seek arousal further.

Do you exercise at all? Eat fresh, raw fruits and vegetables? Not saying that's your problem, but you mention being healthy.

Are you aware of your pelvic floor muscles? Often called the PC muscles, more appropriately BC for males. These are the muscles you'd use to stop the flow of urine or defecation in the case of the rear muscles. Exercising these muscles can help make erections more rigid and upright for males, as well as making orgasms stronger. You can search the web for programs on PC exercises of Kegels.

Have you ever contracted these muscles regularly? Do you use them to reach orgasm?