Hi,
after a long time I actually decided to talk about my issues with someone, so best place to start is a forum like this.
Let me explain my situation. I'm a 28 year old virgin and i'm having problems approaching women because of my "flaw" because I simply don't know how to handle sexual encounter.
I know that some people would think that I have serious psychological problems, but I think this is not the case. I am normal person, a bit overweight but all in all interesting and appealing to women. I'm fairly good looking and have no physical problems except for being somewhat overweight. It's funny how I can even sense interest in women for me but i'm afraid to pursue it any further then flirting.
For those who might ask how, in this society, this might happen, I would like to explain. When I was a kid, I was preoccupied with school, art and later technology and computers. Since I am the only child, I had the tendency to overwork myself trying to make my family proud and create something out of myself. Even though, socially very active, I missed out on a lot of things that young people my age did at that time (clubbing, going out with girls even drinking). I guess, I was saying my time will come and I should continue dedicating myself to career and that I will find someone who will be right for me over time.
Well this road eventually took me to being a very successful persona in life, however i'm afraid that I actually missed out on the most important thing in life.
Now, i'm a half a man, with somewhat lack of confidence approaching women, because I believe that any woman who would be even interested in me, would find me abnormal for not having any romantic/sexual experience as a man at my age. I also became less confident about my penis size (5.5"-6"), thinking that even if I somehow found the right person, I would be abandoned after that girl would lack satisfaction from me.
It's interesting how I can handle so many harder things in life but not one single fairly normal thing as having sex.
Now as time passes i'm seriously considering taking the easy route and just going to las vegas and having sex with a "professional" and several times at that, to try to learn more. I'm starting to think that i'm simply a very disturbed person and that this might be the only way to set myself free.
I want to get married one day, have kids and dedicate myself to family, but it seems that unless I do this, I wouldn't know how. I'm even starting to work on my body so hard, to get in top shape, hoping that this will also give me more confidence and success in making love with women.
If anyone can advise me on what I should do or if there's another way I can solve this problem I have, I would really appreciate it.
It's funny how I always believed that, it's better to have sex when you grow up, because you can understand it better, experience it with understanding of love, closeness to another person. But it seems that today, in our society, this is not the case any more and that i'm doomed to stay alone forever. It's all about good looks, one night stands, great lovers, big penises and breasts etc.
Well hope someone will be able to help me here.
Thanks for reading.
- just a guy