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Std's Have Ruined My Life

I have had genital warts since I wuz 14 ,ive had ooodles & ooodles of office treatments -lazer surgerys & even aldara do it yourself creme !!Theyve neva gone away completeely pregnancy makes them grow like mad & ive had 4 9 yrs ago I wuz told I also had hep c !!Great !!!Now find someone to love me????It aint neva gonna happen!!Why does god hate me????I hate me !!I hate being lonely I hate having to tell anyone who u might be with ,that u have bs diseases ...."do u still wanna have sex w/me???"i havnt been to tha doc in 3 yrs now ....Whats the point im afraid if I have another surgergy I wont have any feeling left in my clit!& I like 2 orgasm 2-3 x's a day!! I dont wanna be alone all my life I just wanna be normal!!!
Sick of life!!!
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replied March 29th, 2005
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You must be mislead if you think you will not be loved because of std's. Love is not about sex. I think another surgery may be in order with a follow-up treatment.

If you lose sensitivity in your vagina then that is something you will have to endure. Either be alone and orgasm alone, suffer the warts. Or get them cleared up and at least have the confidence to acquire a life partner.
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Thanks for your patience!

replied April 9th, 2005
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The last person was right, love is not about sex. I think someday you will find someone who will love all of you no matter what. Just give yourself the time.

Maybe you can use your misfortune as something to help others out. Talk about std's and try to get people to protect themselves. Use it to help others!

Do whatever you can to help get rid of the std's. Technology is growing all of the time. Maybe someday something will be able to help you out once and for all.

I do feel for you and I am sorry that you feel that way about your life, but remember you got yourself here and there is nothing you can do to erase the past. Accept it, use it to help others and maybe you will find some happiness in that.
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replied May 9th, 2005
I Know How You Feel.
Idbbetteroffdead yes I feel like that to but I guess we have to regain some strength from the lord. Who wants to say "i have a std want to have sex with me? I understand you completely. Having to tell new people is the worst. I feel the same way who's going to love us. Man what a life. But I do feel we need a support group or something. I like to be alone. Just put your trust in the lord and stop looking for someone and he may send us somebody. If your not living with it you don't understand so shut up. It's almost like you want to call an escort service to get some dick you know. But o.K take care and write back. Idbbetteroffdead.

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replied May 19th, 2005
There are websites for people of like conditions to meet. Meaning you can be matched with other in your positions who are alone and afraid to try because they have a certain std. I can't think of the name of any now but I have seen them advertised on tv and the web. If I find one I will post a link for you.
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replied April 28th, 2009
you really dont know how it feels til u r placed in those shoes....
i wz recently diagnosed with hsv and i think its the worse....and to tell a potential someone u like, that if they get with u, they will risk their health...im sorry for being a downer...but it is, what it is...u cant sugar coat it...
With time u will feel at ease about it...and you still will have those horrible nights of constant sobbing..but there is light at the end of the tunnel....
take your meds...do a suppressive treatment so u wont shed as much...always use a condom, and no oral unless u use a dental dam for females and condom for males...
this is our new reality....we have to be strong, theres no choice but to be strong and smart about it.
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replied October 8th, 2009
I believe I have genital herpes myself, now I recently discovered bumps on my penis and leg even and I am going to get tested. I am currently dating a girl I have known for about 7 months and upon telling her that I may have herpes, she was decidedly upset as we had been having unprotected sex because we had both been tested for stds, but herpes is veery hard to test for if you dont have symptoms and so if i do have herpes it still wouldnt have been tested for. But the thing is, she is still very supportive of me and believes that if I do have herpes we will go over that hurdle. Love is always more than just sex. Its about taking someone as they are, flaws and all and still feeling such strong feelings for them. But I feel as though your negative attitude towards your situation will probably prevent guys from feeling okay about it themselves. Maybe see a counciler? But even if you dont, there are plently of std dating groups around with open minded people who already have been diagnosed with an std and are willing to begin a relationship whith another sufferer.
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