I am having such trouble with a guy. I
have been really really good friends with
this guy for a long time. Well we both
liked each other but we have so many
diffrences, I didn't think it would work
so we never dating, we just hung out and
sometimes made out. But I made it clear
that we couldnt do anything else.(sexual).
Well his ex girl friend, and him talked
a little for a few days and it bothered me
but I got over it. Well that stopped and
he focused on me. Well the other night
he said he didnt want to talk to her ever
again, and I said ok. But I texted him
last night to see what he was up to and he
was with her. And that didnt bother me,
but the matter of the fact that he lied to
me! He didn't try to call or text me
later that night to explain and today I
texted him to see if he wanted to explain
or if that was it, he played dumb and
first, and then pulled the were not dating
card. I told him I didnt care that he
was with her, but the fact he lied. Am I
in the wrong? I have been warned that he
does this a lot. By his best friend.
Which by they way he gets mad when me and
his best friend hang out. So I think I
have every right to be upset. Should I
be mad, should I be upset that he was with
her?? Help me understand what I need to
do!!
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Justin_Toronto
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Jan 2005 Posts: 418 Location: Toronto, ON
Posted: 03-28-05 13:14pm
- he's in the right to pull out the "we're
not dating card" since you're the one who
initiated the, "it would never work out
between us" topic.
- it's very possible that he meant what he
said when he said it. When he told you
he doesn't want to talk to her anymore, he
could have been telling the truth..
Things happen, maybe they got together out
of the blue. He would have been lying if
he did not tell you that he was with her.
You're discarding all the truth he has
told you and focusing on one tiny thing
that is likely a misunderstanding.
- he's not yours, he's free to date and
see who he likes and you are free to see
and date who you like. Making out with
him was a decision you made with no
strings attached... Since he's not your
boyfriend and you're not his girlfriend
and you've made it clear that a possible
future relationship is out of the
question.
