Making Peace With Myself And Giving Up

Well that decision is for you to make. I hope you don't lose all those good qualities that you are proud of though.

Thanks badsal. I'm keeping the qualities that make me what I am. I could never change those -- it is what I am -- frankenstein!! :d

Frankenstein???

Just joking... The emoticon was supposed to be a cap d...

You know what- i'm a little ticked off the more of think about this. Poor you- you're big and 43 and don't have a significant other, so you are giving up. Well go right ahead. But let me tell you- being married to someone doesn't always mean bliss. Just like you said- life is too short to waste time trying to show greatness to someone who just doesn't care. That can be whether you are married or single. Happiness doesn't depend on your marital status. And grief---- grief is being married!!!!!

Im 15, the same thing is happening to me, its getting me down. Everyone says "oh you're such a great guy" but it hasnt made a difference. I dont know what to do realy? Actually make an effort or just leave it and hope? Life seems a bit harsh...Looks like "nice guys finish last" is pretty honest?!

Cheers

Anything new thecling????

Nice guys do not always finish last, it jsut sometimes takes a little longer, but then slow and steady wins the race right?

Besides I am 36, nice looking and have never been married, so it happens when you dont look is what I think.
My mothe divorced my dad when I was 12, she remarried when she was 50, so there is hope out there, she was single for a while and loved it, and is married now and loves him.

Try online matchmaking sites :o don't give up 'til you've tried everything, I say. If you're single and truly unhappy, that is.

As for nice guys finishing last, you may want to stop feeling sorry for yourselves(who ever complains about nice girls finishing last?), because that sure isn't attractive. =/

Well thruth be told is that if one is unfortunate looking no matter how nice and sweet and caring you will most likely not find someone. I think if one wants to find someone first thing to do is trying to look your best. If that means loosing 50 pounds then one should do it. Go to a hair stylist and try everyhaircut until you find the one you will look best and so on. But if you prefer to do nothing about it then it is definetly best to resign to love life and enjoy life as an eternal single.

To everyone you are all beautiful and not many like to hear this but god has a plan. And for some people single is the plan but you have to trust in him. And for you horrace your 15 believe me there is plenty of time lol

Well jessica it is true that god has plan but let's face it, if you let yourself overweight and you dress and clean yourself poorly you cannt think it is god has a plan for you to be alone. Doctors make good money right? But to be a doctor you have to study a lot, sacrifice a lot before you are able to enjoy the money etc. So nice compassionate words are nice but thruth is you got to works on your looks if you want to get someone. You don't eat a plate of food that doesnt look tasty right? Love is a need of every human being, everybody wants to be with someone to share love, I don't think that god wants you to be alone, but you have to help god to make it happen.

Well, first off. Being single, as above, doesn't necessarily mean being unhappy. It's kinda being comfortable with who you are first, and loving yourself first. I just ended a relationship, and even though yes, there is someone there to back you up, it doesn't necessarily mean true "happiness." it also means, conflict, love, confusion, communication, good times, bad times. I'm not saying, give up on it. Just be open to whatever comes. Be happy with yourself first though. People shouldn't "need" someone else to make themselves feel affirmed, it has to come within yourself to be truly happy.

I've given up on my relationship because 1) I wasn't happy in it 2) I don't think that we communicated well and 3) I wasn't happy with what I became. 4) I wasn't happy with who I was.

Right now, i'm still trying to figure myself out. Lots of things are confusing, and if you choose to close the book, do so, but leave it open for anything that comes. Life's full of little quirks. Don't wait for it, just go with what makes you happy. And if it's being solo for a while, then do it with style and grace. Nothing's wrong with being single. Sometimes it's even better. Just do whatever makes you happy, whether it's with or without somebody. :wink:

I'm sorry if I am a little raw when I post what I think but I like to say things as they are. Being single does have it's advantages. You got less responsabilities, you don't need to worry about cooking, you can pass gas whenever you feel to (hahaha) but the big problem of being single is the no sex part of it. It's terrible. And there is nothing you can do about it except to masterbate. Sex is a need for any person that is normal.

Getting married and having children are the things that makes life meaningfull regardless of the up and downs of it. People who are commitment phobics miss this.

I don't know who you are but I feel that you are a really nice person who has a lot of positive qualities! Don't give up but don't go looking for love either, let it find you. People have been known to ge married reaaly late in life. You do have a significant other, don't give up on love.