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Q: What to Do
asked by: verycurious4 on March 21st, 2005
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Ok guys I have read all the posts on unabling to get hard. This is exactly my problem. I am 23 years old and was about to have intercourse the other day but than I could not get hard or I wouldn't fully get hard. I am wondering why am I at this age having this problem. I hear I should take some pill but than am I going to have to take these pills everytime I have intercourse or is it just a one time thing.
Someone plz help
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Justin_Toronto
replied on March 21st, 2005
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Hi, for one.. At 23 you really should not require viagara or cialis. Your problem can be resolved naturally over time.

Since you have read the previous posts already, I will need more information in hopes of narrowing down what your individual problem is.. I'll do my best to help:

- are you able to get hard when alone? Say, when masturbating?
- how frequent are your erections during the day or week?
- do you encounter erections during sleep?
- do you do any recreational drugs, (i.E. Esctasy, marijuana), or any performance drugs, (i.E. Steroids, hgh)?
- how often do you ejaculate?
- were you completely aroused when attempting to have sex? Or were you developing anxiety from not being able to sustain an erection?
- did you ejaculate within 24 hours prior to attempting intercourse?

Waiting for your reply,
justin
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bkdaniels
replied on March 21st, 2005
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Hey verycurious4, how are you doing?

Justin makes a good point. Although this article focuses primarily on ed in males, one must remember that the sexual partner plays an integral role.

If successful and effective management is to be achieved, the evaluation and discussion of any intervention should include both partners.

How long has this been going on and is there any history of medical problems to concider or have you had any psycological disorders in the past?

Best wishes,
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verycurious4
replied on March 21st, 2005
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Okay here goes,

- are you able to get hard when alone? Say, when masturbating?

I get hard during masturbation but even that is slowing down, as I find it takes much more time to get hard and for some reason I feel like I am bigger some times than other times


- how frequent are your erections during the day or week?

I never really have erections like I use to unless I start playing with my self during masturbation first.

- do you encounter erections during sleep?

Not really, sometimes
- do you do any recreational drugs, (i.E. Esctasy, marijuana), or any performance drugs, (i.E. Steroids, hgh)?

I was a heavy marijuana smoker up until few weeks ago

- how often do you ejaculate?
Once a day after masturbation

- were you completely aroused when attempting to have sex? Or were you developing anxiety from not being able to sustain an erection?

I did not develop no anxiety from not gettin hard

- did you ejaculate within 24 hours prior to attempting intercourse?
Yes, after masturbation
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verycurious4
replied on March 22nd, 2005
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Any ideas?
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Tamadrummer
replied on March 22nd, 2005
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Mostl likly the marajuana is what has affected your ability to have an erection.

Stay away from the pot and in time you should recover your abilities without need for medication.

It is really amazing how folks feel about marajuana, it is addictive, cancerous, and dangerous all together to your health. You are feeling the effects in a very embarassing way. If you stay away from it, you should recover.
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verycurious4
replied on March 22nd, 2005
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Really? Man that is awful, ya no doubt I am going to stay away from it. I was planing to stop in general anyway but I would have no idea it was the weed that would do that to me.
As well as mentioned in other posts by other people I to get hard of oral sex but than when it comes to intercourse I become soft, weed also?
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verycurious4
replied on March 22nd, 2005
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As well, I found that when I was high I would always stay hard, and that my sex drive was out the roof?
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verycurious4
replied on March 23rd, 2005
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Justin any other ideas that this problem can be occuring from?
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2ferano
replied on March 25th, 2005
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Well if the weed made you hard and your sex drive high then that is most likely why you are having problems now. Since you quit the weed your body isn't acting as it used to. You are just going to have to wait it out. Your body has to get used to functioning without the weed, and it will happen in time.
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what to do
replied on April 9th, 2005
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Hi, im 21 with a very similar problem. I have smoked marijuana on and off for about 5 years. With only a few points being heavy use, the others just every few weeks or months. My sex drive would be through the roof when I was high. I have also taken ecstasy close to maybe 20 times. Every time I have tried to have sex has been a disaster, ending up with me unable to get an erection. I have tried about 4 times when I was drunk, mostly pretty heavily drunk. Just recently I tried having sex after having about 4-6 beers and couldnt get it up. The only time I have ad a succesful sexual encounter was oral, after I had ahd about two beers, and it was only for a short period of time as she had never done it before and wanted to stop. My past expierinces have made me so nervous now that im scared to be sexually aggresive towards a girl. Im actually breaking up with a girl for this reason too. The other night we tried to have sex, I had 4-6 beers and couldnt get erect. I know that I shouldnt drink before sex because it is known to cause sexual problems, but I feel that I should still be able to have sex after a few drinks, and im tired of blaming it on the alchol. I have lost my erection during masterbation pretty frequently lately as well, which might be stress related as im pretty freaked out right now. What advice do you guys have for me?
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what to do
replied on April 9th, 2005
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I hope this gives you guys a better idea of the situation, any response would be appreciated, im really worried about having this problem at 21.

- are you able to get hard when alone? Say, when masturbating?
Mostly always, however sometimes I have trouble getting hard, or a hard erection, or even maintaining an erection

- how frequent are your erections during the day or week?
About daily, morning wood, and masterbating almost daily. I dont get them spontaneously much anymore.

- do you encounter erections during sleep?
Yes

- do you do any recreational drugs, (i.E. Esctasy, marijuana), or any performance drugs, (i.E. Steroids, hgh)?
Yes, as I mentioned in the other post. I barely smoke marijuana anymore, probably once every few months. I havent taken ecstasy for at least 2 years.

- how often do you ejaculate?
Always with masterbation. If I lose an erection I eventually work it back up and ejaculate.

- were you completely aroused when attempting to have sex? Or were you developing anxiety from not being able to sustain an erection?
I was semi aroused. I feel like I am more aroused when wathcing porno though as there is no performance pressure with that.

- did you ejaculate within 24 hours prior to attempting intercourse?
No.
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DukeGriffin
replied on April 9th, 2005
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Well, stop the drugs. Completely.

Drink causes a lower blood pressure, and it is therefore a lot harder to get and erection while under the influence of drnk/completely waisted off your tits.

So, stop trying when your drunk and stop drugs. Se where that gets you.
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what to do
replied on April 9th, 2005
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Thats what I want to do. However I have tried once or twice sober and still had problems. I have only been succesful once.
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DukeGriffin
replied on April 9th, 2005
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what to do wrote:
thats what I want to do. However I have tried once or twice sober and still had problems. I have only been succesful once.


but you've been succesful after trying when your sober?
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what to do
replied on April 9th, 2005
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dukegriffin wrote:
what to do wrote:
thats what I want to do. However I have tried once or twice sober and still had problems. I have only been succesful once.


but you've been succesful after trying when your sober?


i have only tried it a few times sober, one time being ok. Another time I was fooling around with this girl, got an erection, didnt act on it and lost it. To be fair that was when I was smoking heavily. I think I might be cool now, but with my history I have been pretty concerned. I think I might try some of the cialis so I have a guarantee.
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what to do
replied on April 9th, 2005
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Alberto,

I didnt see any free trials on there. Could u give me a link to it. Also, this stufss pretty expensive, is it really that good? Hopefully I dont need it.
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CandyApple
replied on April 12th, 2005
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My husband is a heavy drinker and pot smoker and he has a very hard time maintaining an erection. He had the problem before he met me, but it's getting worse as time goes by. He used to be able to make himself come, and he still can but far less than he used to be able to, and it is taking longer and longer for him to be able to do so when he can. He can reach an orgasm with me sometimes, but he def. Has to have taken a viagra beforehand if this happens. My advice, if you can stop the drinking or weed, do it. My guy is beyond being able to stop (he doesn't want to) so we will always have this problem. My greatest fear is he will become immune to the effects of viagra and lose the ability to maintain an erection or orgasm completely. I'm telling you what, no matter how many times the woman tells you it's okay, it's truly not. It's heart breaking to not be able to have a fulfilling sex life with the person you love.
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2ferano
replied on April 16th, 2005
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Yes, agreed. First of all, you are not allowed to advertise on this site! Alberto, stop. Secondly, you are 21 years old and I am pretty darn sure you don't need pills for erection problems. If you are having problems that wont go away, and after you stop the drugs....If in 6 months you are still having the problems, then go see your doctor. You can go to the doc now, you don't have to wait, but the drugs most likely have a lot to do with your problems.
But, if that isn't the problem the you may have an underlying condition that needs treated. Anyone, who would tell you to just go on the internet and get pills doesn't care at all about your problem. Firstly, everyone knows to not buy drugs on internet because you don't know what you are getting, and secondly, why would anyone tell someone to just take pills instead of going to the doc? Yeah, you really need to stop and think about that one.
Good luck to you, but please don't be careless and just start taking pills that will most likely lead you to more problems.
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midwest
replied on April 18th, 2005
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Re: What to Do
verycurious4 wrote:
ok guys I have read all the posts on unabling to get hard. This is exactly my problem. I am 23 years old and was about to have intercourse the other day but than I could not get hard or I wouldn't fully get hard. I am wondering why am I at this age having this problem. I hear I should take some pill but than am I going to have to take these pills everytime I have intercourse or is it just a one time thing.

Someone plz help
thanks




man I got same problem
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