I'm sorry I know she is your friend but I think that it is disgusting to set out with the intention of getting pregnant and then terminating that pregnancy for no good reason.

Did she find out that there was a problem with the pregnancy or something because I really can't imagine someone getting pregnant intentionaly and then terminating for no reason?

Nope, no probs, that's my prob too. I'm like "well you stopped your pills and they've always worked before so why stop?" i'm a lil disgusted with her too.

She's perfectly sane (i think) I really don't get it. My bf doesn't even want to hear about it, he thinks she's a nutball.

I hope this doesn't offend you, being as she is your friend, forgive me if it does.

Maybe she wants attention? I mean, you said that ever since you got pregnant she wants a baby. So, either she quit taking her pills to get pregnant on purpose and is only saying she is getting an abortion for attention, or maybe she regrets getting pregnant? I dunno. No, it doesn't seem right at all.

And she definately needs to get tested for std's! Argh, there are so many out there!

No she's really going for an abortion,she asked if i'd go with her and I told her I felt wrong going considering I am 6 months preggers and to gether bf to go with her. She doesn't want to get tested and i'm like well now you're being real dumb, it's easier to get an std than get pregnant. But her bf is muslim and he finds it wring that she wants to get tested ???? what??? I thouhgt too maybe it was the attention thing but she's not telling anyone so?? Who knows? I just wanted to know if I was the only one thinking this was a lil wrong.

What? He thinks it is wrong to get tested, but okay to have premarital sex? What a person!(lol, sorry) sounds to me like he has something to hide!
No, the whole thing seems shady, I don't know. I don't understand people 99.9% of the time.

tell me about it, I told her to watch it with this guy when they first started going out. He doesn't allow her to come to my house cause my bf is her ex's bro, so whenever she wants to come she has to lie! He's extremelly jealous.

It just blows my mind that it is ok for them to have premarital sex, ok to have an abortion, but it is against his religion for her to get tested for std's. Oh my. If she wont listen to you, try the scare tactic.
Tell her about how std's highten her risk of cancer, can make her infertile, etc. Maybe, just maybe that will work....Some std's actually(if not treated) can lead directly to cancer if she doesn't do anything about it. Of course, he won't get anywhere near the problems or symptoms as she will from std's so what does he care! Ugh, I hate guys like that.

i've told her all kinds of things and ??? I've also told her she's gotta live her life not his but, whatever she's being a turd.

Is he forcing her to do it maybe? I don't know what to tell you blaze...Just try to keep talking to her...Maybe you will get through...

no he's not forcing her. She said it's not the right time. I say "well why the f*** did you stop your pills then?" I really don't get the whole thing. Do u think i'm wrong to tell her that I did not want to go with her for the abortion since I was preggers?? I don't think I could handle it.

Yeppers, she sounds pretty mixed up, it could be attention, her bf sounds like a half arsed control freak. She sounds like she needs to pick herself up, dust herself off and decide what she wants to do and move on. I sure the heck would not want his fetus growing inside of me even though I would know that it would be half mine. She sounds like she does not know what she wants and now would probably not be a good time to continue on w/the pregnancy.
Keep in mind, you cannot tell anyone what to do, you will just stress yourself out more.
I would not go to the abortion w/her if I were you, don't be silly, you have different opinions, you are pregnant and being upset will not help your pregnancy, even though I do understand, I would back off, as a friend and let her try to find herself. Don't get me wrong, I am not judging her, I am just stating my opinion, you can still be friends. A lot of pregnant females have second thoughts.
Sincerely,
sandy

I agree with everyone else...You are not bad for not going with her. I agree with jlee..She wanted to get pregnant...But then all of a sudden she wants an abortion? Something is odd about this...Sorry I can't help ya more blaze but i'm stumped...

Wow i'm amazed to see we all actually agree on something-lol. She called last night but I told mike to tell her I was sleeping. I just don't know what to say to her. Anyway thanks for all ya'lls advice, just wanted to make sure I wasn't being a "female dog" for not going with her.

If she was like a parentless, friendless, manless person who absolutely had no one else to drive her then maybe that would make a difference.

But, you are right....You are pregnant and you don't agree with what she is doing, and she has her boyfriend (who should be the one dealing with this) and I am sure she has other friends too, so it is in no way your responsability. Yeah, you are her friend, and I am sure you love her and will be there for her no matter what she does, but if you don't want to take her, then there is nothing wrong with that. Don't feel bad.