Hi lrb,

what you are feeling is completely normal, every woman at some stage in her life is going to have the urge to want children, especially when you have a multitude of family and friends enjoying their husbands and children, and you have to just stand back and watch. It is most important you talk to your husband and find out how ready he is to have children, it would be understandable if he is a little hesitant at first seeings he already has children, but i'm sure he loves you enough not to deny you of the one thing that most women dream about. It is always a good idea to discuss children before marriage, as sometimes this can be a very big issue for some couples, sometimes even resulting in divorce because one partner wants it so bad but the other just does not. It is completely understandable that you want children, it is just going to be a matter of talking honestly and openly together on the subject, and hopefully being able to come to some kind of decision or compromise.

Good luck,

suzy

Just let him know that that is what you want you deserve to be able to have your own kids and not take care of his.

Well you should really tell him that youve been thinking it over and you want to have a baby in your life. He should understand that all women want a baby. Like with jose, he asked me what I wanted for christmas and I said I had everything so I didnt need anything else. And he was like "no what can I give you?" so I said "you can give me a baby" so hopefully in december we will start trying! Im happy and I hop it works out for you to get your baby too!

Hey there,

if anyone knows me they know that we are not going to start trying for another year minimum but I just wanted to let you know that that is a great idea and when next christmas comes that is what I am going to tell my bf that thats what I want for xmas.

Thanks for the great idea, I might even start a couple of months early you never know.

From someone who cant wait to have a jelly bean all of their own

There you go. It can be a surprise for christmas if its early, you can tell everyone your preggy as a christmas surprise, or have a baby by christmas and have that be your gift! You can do anything you want! I hope you get your baby!

Or like I was watching "overboard" last night and at the end when annie goes with dean and he has 3 boys, and she has all kinds of money, he asks her "what can I possibly give you, that you dont already have?" and she says "....A little girl" I thought that was so cute! I love that part!

He'll be with you or he won't, but if you want them and he doesn't don't let it get between you. This is something that can eventually be worked out.

Good luck,

jennifer