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Our 9 year old recently has been put on prozac (prior to taking zoloft for 8 mo.)..He is now seeing a therapist.

He is very moody, angry, rarely smiles, aggressive, oppositional, etc.

This happens everywhere not just home...School, during summer break w/ grandparents, his mom's (visits on weekends-lives w/ me and his dad), bossy and mean to friends...

His therapist (after only 3 sessions) has come to the conclusion that this is all caused by his 4 year old brother. The 1st session he met with our 9 year old & dad, 2nd session met with me & son, 3rd session met with son, myself, daughter and 4 year old.. That is when he said all the stress and anger son has is because of our 4 year old....

I left very upset and angry that he could say this....

I dont understand how all his behaviors are the cause of our 4 year old... He (therapist) says our son acts this way because he "remembers" the last time his brother aggrevated him....I dont get that at all....Very confused and upset....

Can anyone relate or give suggestions....I know this is a vague description of our situation but I could go on forever....
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replied February 10th, 2005
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Help For Our 9 Old
If you do not trust your therapist how you will listen to the others. Those are specialist. Everyday they deal with tens of cases. You have to trust him and give him time to deal with all family partners. Your son will express his feelings to others and not to u. He feels neglected by you since the arrival of his 4 years sister. Sometimes we hurt our beloved ones without feeling that. I was in your shoes. When I delivered my next daughtr the first one was completly changed. She was aggresive and gloomy, cries all the times without any reason. My family and beloved once noticed that and advised me to give her much love and concern. I know that you love your son but as I told u before,we do not feel that they might need more attention and love than the new baby. They are the older and understand our behaviours and actions twards them. They feel jealous from our attention to their brother or sister and this is normal feeling. We all pass through it. Sit to your self and think what makes him aggresive and try to do your best to change the actions that put him in that situation. Watch and see his reactions. I will give you a simple example i'm married have daughters I still remember my childhood and how my mother prefer my brother and loves him more than me (that was my feelings when I was young and teenager) now i'm a mother and I realised that I was wrong in my feelings.
My heart is with you !!!
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